Accepting my LGBTQ children

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My dd came out to me when she was in 7th grade. I gave her a big hug, told her I loved her and didn’t care who she ended up with as long as they treat her well…and that I get some grandkids 😄 (the grandkid part was mostly joking). So far, at 16, dd has dated only girls but has had a couple crushes on boys. She now says she’s bi, so who knows. I’ve just made it clear that it didn’t matter to me either way, as long as she’s happy.

I get feeling a little disappointed and worried about how your child’s life will go. DD has already decided that she will not go to college in any southern state, and specifically Florida. The only thing you can do is be supportive, and talk to them about environments that are or are not safe for them.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Most of the responses to this post are extremely disappointing and kinda dangerous. I have been looking into support resources for parents of LGBTQ kids, such as the Trevor Project. They all say that the feelings I am experiencing are ok and very common. It’s not about homophobia. It’s the fact that they now belong in an oppressed and marginalized group. I worry about hate crimes and discrimination. And yes, I have had a “movie reel” in my head if what their lives might be like. We all have, whether you can admit it or not. The reality is looking much different. It’s ok for that to take time to adjust to. This is verified by people much more educated than dcum on the subject.

I’ve known about my son for a long time and am definitely getting more used to the idea. It is easier to picture him with a boyfriend than it was in the beginning.

I do worry that my daughter is being influenced by people at school and the bad luck she has had with guys. Her college town is very liberal and most people she knows are gay, bi, or pan. She has had some very intense crushes on guys. When she has been hurt by these guys, she really leans into being bi. If she is convincing herself she’s bi as a coping mechanism, I’m not sure that’s healthy.

Anyway, some if you really need to figure out how to be more helpful next time someone expresses their struggles. Jeez. Not at all helpful to kick someone when they already feel down. Some of you with LGBTQ kids who claim to have never given it a second thought are likely in denial of their own feelings.

The bolded part is just wrong. Someone can't influence another person to be attracted to the same gender. A lot of people experiment in college. If she's straight, she'll get out of college and date only men. A straight person doesn't become bi or gay because of influences by other people. That's not how sexuality works.

You are so wrong!!! Your environment has a huge influence on how you turn out. I sympathize with OP. I would be sad if my kids were lbgtq.

Yes for some things, but not sexual orientation. That is baked into the cake.

It has existed through time and across species.

Clearly, it is part of God’s plan for this world , though evangelicals are blind to that reality (preferring to go by a book written by men bound by when they were alive).

Look around you. People with a variety of sexual orientations/identities have always been here and always will be. What changes are how they are treated and whether the majority makes them suffer.

Extreme oversimplification.