Does DH shower weirdly or do I?

[Anonymous]

I like to shower at night (and go to bed clean). I start with an oil based cleaner, then hop in the shower to rinse that off. Then I wash my face, my hair, and then condition my hair. While that's sitting I wash my pits, crotch and butt (unless I'm a sweaty mess). Then I shave under my arms. If the weather will be warm I'll shave my legs, otherwise that's skipped. Rinse the conditioner, apply leave in conditioner, and I'm done.

DH washes every inch of himself every morning lol. He is also far more smelly in general than I.

[Anonymous]

OP is your husband AA? Are you white?

[Anonymous]

Neither one of you showers "weirdly" - and both are within the realm of healthy hygiene habits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like to shower at night (and go to bed clean). I start with an oil based cleaner, then hop in the shower to rinse that off. Then I wash my face, my hair, and then condition my hair. While that's sitting I wash my pits, crotch and butt (unless I'm a sweaty mess). Then I shave under my arms. If the weather will be warm I'll shave my legs, otherwise that's skipped. Rinse the conditioner, apply leave in conditioner, and I'm done.

DH washes every inch of himself every morning lol. He is also far more smelly in general than I.

So if you're a sweaty mess, you don't wash pits, crotch, and butt?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How are people here not washing their feet? That is NASTY.

Where exactly are you going with your feet that they get so dirty? Most of us wear socks and shoes, so your feet sweat a little yes but the hot water and soap runoff will take care of whatever sweat you have. You are either paranoid, or very dirty.

[Anonymous]

So do all the thorough washers wash between their toes?

I am pretty darned thorough but have never done this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hasn’t anyone ever noticed the wide variety of soaps and lotions and deodorants at the store? That’s because there is a wide range in skin types. Also some people sweat a lot more. And some people get dirtier in their day to day lives. This means that different people also have different showering needs.

I swear it seems that this thread is populated by children who don’t understand simple things.

This. There's also this moral superiority people have around cleanliness, which is interesting if you take a step back and think about it. People are trying to prove that they are clean, inside and out. But a person who avoids using too much soap in order to prevent drying out their skin is not unclean or immoral. They are simply prone to dry skin, especially in winter time.

It's also funny to watch people tell others that they must smell bad because they don't shower in the same way. If you've traveled at all in the world, you know that how people smell, and specifically how much of their natural body odor is discernible, is culturally dictated and doesn't actually have to do with cleanliness. I shower daily but if I don't wear deodorant and apply body oil, I will have a natural scent by midday. It's not dirt or anything foul, it's literally just the smell that normal levels of sweat and my natural body oils make when not covered up. In the US, I always wear deodorant and body oil because people hate this smell here. In other countries... eh, they don't care. And sometimes they actively dislike the scent of deodorants or scented moisturizer. It's a cultural preference, not evidence of superior hygiene. Wearing deodorant and other scented products does not make you cleaner, it just covers up your natural musk. It's an aesthetic choice, like wearing mascara or a belt. It has nothing to do with cleanliness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How are people here not washing their feet? That is NASTY.

NP. I don't, because we don't wear shoes in the house, and I literally never leave. Also I'm losing a ton of hair and have to use Drano once a week, so there's usually water pooling in the shower that cleans them well enough.

[Anonymous]

In the morning if my face is a little puffy, I’ll put on an ice pack while doing stomach crunches. I can do 1,000 now. After I remove the ice pack I use a deep pore cleanser lotion. In the shower I use a water-activated gel cleanser, then a honey almond body scrub, and on the face an exfoliating gel scrub.

Then I apply an herb-mint facial mask, which I leave on for 10 minutes while I prepare the rest of my routine. I always use an aftershave lotion with little or no alcohol, because alcohol dries your face out and makes you look older. Then moisturiser, then an anti-ageing eye balm followed by a final moisturising protective lotion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the morning if my face is a little puffy, I’ll put on an ice pack while doing stomach crunches. I can do 1,000 now. After I remove the ice pack I use a deep pore cleanser lotion. In the shower I use a water-activated gel cleanser, then a honey almond body scrub, and on the face an exfoliating gel scrub.

Then I apply an herb-mint facial mask, which I leave on for 10 minutes while I prepare the rest of my routine. I always use an aftershave lotion with little or no alcohol, because alcohol dries your face out and makes you look older. Then moisturiser, then an anti-ageing eye balm followed by a final moisturising protective lotion.

Hi, Patrick! Haven't seen you around in a while! Still in mergers and acquisitions?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH cleans his entire body, every time he showers. He uses a washcloth and, for example, washes his feet all around and completely. He also holds the washcloth in opposing hands and swipes it back and forth across his back. He’s very thorough.

I…do not do that. Unless I’m very dirty (visibly so) or it’s the heat or summer. I let the soap run down, most of the time, and/or use my hands on my legs.

I find DH showers to be so…intense.

Two different styles. To each his/her own.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a nurse. Ladies, you might think you don't smell, but you do.

I can assure you that the length of my limbs, which don’t sweat and are not exposed to anything dirty, smell just fine and there is no need to scrub them.

You can wash without scrubbing.
And yes, if you don't wash, you do smell.

Sniffing my forearmarm right now, which probably hasn’t gotten soaped up in…3 or 4 months?. Smells like nothing. I think I’m good, thanks though!

You can’t smell your own body odor. To other people, you smell like you don’t bathe.

There is a lot of runway between freshly washed and fetid. You are clearly comfort with where you land on that spectrum, but you have a smell.

Lol, sure. My poor friends, family, and coworkers having to keep it from me that I smell! It must be a heavy burden but I guess they care about my feelings that much.

If your forearm hasn't seen soap in a third of a year, yes, you smell. And no, people won't tell you.
Wash your body, FFS. It'll take a split second in your next shower to get some soap on your arm.

Sorry, you’re just not going to be able to convince me that my arm or shin smells bad because they aren’t washed with soap. I won’t participate in your paranoid delusions. It’s kind of fascinating though. What do you imagine it smells like? Rancid body oils or something?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hasn’t anyone ever noticed the wide variety of soaps and lotions and deodorants at the store? That’s because there is a wide range in skin types. Also some people sweat a lot more. And some people get dirtier in their day to day lives. This means that different people also have different showering needs.

I swear it seems that this thread is populated by children who don’t understand simple things.

This. There's also this moral superiority people have around cleanliness, which is interesting if you take a step back and think about it. People are trying to prove that they are clean, inside and out. But a person who avoids using too much soap in order to prevent drying out their skin is not unclean or immoral. They are simply prone to dry skin, especially in winter time.

It's also funny to watch people tell others that they must smell bad because they don't shower in the same way. If you've traveled at all in the world, you know that how people smell, and specifically how much of their natural body odor is discernible, is culturally dictated and doesn't actually have to do with cleanliness. I shower daily but if I don't wear deodorant and apply body oil, I will have a natural scent by midday. It's not dirt or anything foul, it's literally just the smell that normal levels of sweat and my natural body oils make when not covered up. In the US, I always wear deodorant and body oil because people hate this smell here. In other countries... eh, they don't care. And sometimes they actively dislike the scent of deodorants or scented moisturizer. It's a cultural preference, not evidence of superior hygiene. Wearing deodorant and other scented products does not make you cleaner, it just covers up your natural musk. It's an aesthetic choice, like wearing mascara or a belt. It has nothing to do with cleanliness.

Agreed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In addition to thoroughly washing your entire bodily surfaces, it is crucial to use antibacterial soaps.

No, there's no need whatsoever to use antibacterial soaps. They're no more effective than regular soap in actually getting you clean, and are one of the things leading to the rise of resistant bacteria.

Soap, when used properly, is more than adequate to get people clean. I can't understand this weird obsession some people have with washcloths.

Wrong.

The antibacterial soaps are specially designed to kill almost all types of bacteria which is what you need to keep from getting sick all the time.

[Anonymous]

Why is DCUM so obsessed with showering? It’s baffling. There is at least one post every month about showering. How difficult is it?

I’ve never given it a second thought nor care what anyone else does but clearly lots of DCUM does.