Does DH shower weirdly or do I?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since perimenopause I wash my chest, back, and back of thighs with scrub mits or I get breakouts and blackheads. I have foot odor thanks to a childhood spent in locker rooms during swim meets, so I also clean between toes and all surfaces of feet. Face gets washed with face cleanser, pits and behind get soaped. Everywhere else (so arms and legs I guess?) get a quick hand wash with soap. I think different people need different levels of washing to get to the same level of cleanliness, so as long as everyone comes out clean, then have at it.

Why do your feet smell from locker rooms in childhood? 🤔

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a nurse. Ladies, you might think you don't smell, but you do.

I can assure you that the length of my limbs, which don’t sweat and are not exposed to anything dirty, smell just fine and there is no need to scrub them.

You can wash without scrubbing.
And yes, if you don't wash, you do smell.

[Anonymous]

My DH and I are similar -- he is a more thorough showerer than I am. I hit all the parts that get dirty but like I don't scrub my back unless I have a reason to do so -- most days it doesn't get dirty and I figure letting soapy water run down it is enough.

However, the biggest difference between DH and I is actually that he never exfoliates. I think this is grosser than just not scrubbing your entire body. I am trying to convince him to do some exfoliating, especially on his feet, knees and elbows, because they are so dry and scratchy. His feet are always itchy to him and the sound of him scratching all that dry dead skin is gross to me! I've even bought him products specifically to soften the dead skin and remove it, but he says it's too much trouble. I honestly think he'd be more comfortable if he did it but he has some block against it. I do not get it. To me exfoliation is essential to getting clean because dead skin is a form of waste.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a nurse. Ladies, you might think you don't smell, but you do.

I can assure you that the length of my limbs, which don’t sweat and are not exposed to anything dirty, smell just fine and there is no need to scrub them.

You can wash without scrubbing.
And yes, if you don't wash, you do smell.

Sniffing my forearmarm right now, which probably hasn’t gotten soaped up in…3 or 4 months?. Smells like nothing. I think I’m good, thanks though!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a nurse. Ladies, you might think you don't smell, but you do.

I can assure you that the length of my limbs, which don’t sweat and are not exposed to anything dirty, smell just fine and there is no need to scrub them.

You can wash without scrubbing.
And yes, if you don't wash, you do smell.

Sniffing my forearmarm right now, which probably hasn’t gotten soaped up in…3 or 4 months?. Smells like nothing. I think I’m good, thanks though!

Repulsive.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a nurse. Ladies, you might think you don't smell, but you do.

I can assure you that the length of my limbs, which don’t sweat and are not exposed to anything dirty, smell just fine and there is no need to scrub them.

You can wash without scrubbing.
And yes, if you don't wash, you do smell.

Sniffing my forearmarm right now, which probably hasn’t gotten soaped up in…3 or 4 months?. Smells like nothing. I think I’m good, thanks though!

Same. All scrubbing would do is waste water and soap, plus dry out my skin.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a nurse. Ladies, you might think you don't smell, but you do.

I can assure you that the length of my limbs, which don’t sweat and are not exposed to anything dirty, smell just fine and there is no need to scrub them.

You can wash without scrubbing.
And yes, if you don't wash, you do smell.

Sniffing my forearmarm right now, which probably hasn’t gotten soaped up in…3 or 4 months?. Smells like nothing. I think I’m good, thanks though!

Same. All scrubbing would do is waste water and soap, plus dry out my skin.

Why is it so hard to understand that you can wash parts of your body without scrubbing them?
I'm sitting here in disbelief that DCUMers seem think showering means either some major exfoliation or...just standing there. Didn't any of your parents teach you how to wash yourselves?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a nurse. Ladies, you might think you don't smell, but you do.

I can assure you that the length of my limbs, which don’t sweat and are not exposed to anything dirty, smell just fine and there is no need to scrub them.

You can wash without scrubbing.
And yes, if you don't wash, you do smell.

Sniffing my forearmarm right now, which probably hasn’t gotten soaped up in…3 or 4 months?. Smells like nothing. I think I’m good, thanks though!

Same. All scrubbing would do is waste water and soap, plus dry out my skin.

Why is it so hard to understand that you can wash parts of your body without scrubbing them?
I'm sitting here in disbelief that DCUMers seem think showering means either some major exfoliation or...just standing there. Didn't any of your parents teach you how to wash yourselves?

I wash myself, but not the large swaths of regular skin that doesn’t get dirty. Just the sweaty swampy places that actually need to be washed: butt, armpits, crotch, sometimes feet. The rest is fine with just water and whatever soap and shampoo that incidentally gets there.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a nurse. Ladies, you might think you don't smell, but you do.

I can assure you that the length of my limbs, which don’t sweat and are not exposed to anything dirty, smell just fine and there is no need to scrub them.

You can wash without scrubbing.
And yes, if you don't wash, you do smell.

Sniffing my forearmarm right now, which probably hasn’t gotten soaped up in…3 or 4 months?. Smells like nothing. I think I’m good, thanks though!

Same. All scrubbing would do is waste water and soap, plus dry out my skin.

Why is it so hard to understand that you can wash parts of your body without scrubbing them?
I'm sitting here in disbelief that DCUMers seem think showering means either some major exfoliation or...just standing there. Didn't any of your parents teach you how to wash yourselves?

You are being dramatic. The issue is that OP described her DH’s shower routine as pretty aggressive scrubbing if his entire body, including his back. Many people are saying the don’t bother to scrub every inch of their body in this way. They are not saying they don’t wash. I get soap over my whole body and rinse it with water. It gets washed. I don’t scrub except places that are actually dirty. Like I don’t scrub my upper arms or my lower back most days. But they do get rinsed with soap and water. That is enough to remove whatever sweat and excess oils have accumulated, which is all I need to do. I think this is also what others do. You don’t need to flip out— you are getting bogged down in semantics.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a nurse. Ladies, you might think you don't smell, but you do.

I can assure you that the length of my limbs, which don’t sweat and are not exposed to anything dirty, smell just fine and there is no need to scrub them.

You can wash without scrubbing.
And yes, if you don't wash, you do smell.

Sniffing my forearmarm right now, which probably hasn’t gotten soaped up in…3 or 4 months?. Smells like nothing. I think I’m good, thanks though!

You can’t smell your own body odor. To other people, you smell like you don’t bathe.

There is a lot of runway between freshly washed and fetid. You are clearly comfort with where you land on that spectrum, but you have a smell.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a nurse. Ladies, you might think you don't smell, but you do.

I can assure you that the length of my limbs, which don’t sweat and are not exposed to anything dirty, smell just fine and there is no need to scrub them.

You can wash without scrubbing.
And yes, if you don't wash, you do smell.

Sniffing my forearmarm right now, which probably hasn’t gotten soaped up in…3 or 4 months?. Smells like nothing. I think I’m good, thanks though!

Same. All scrubbing would do is waste water and soap, plus dry out my skin.

Why is it so hard to understand that you can wash parts of your body without scrubbing them?
I'm sitting here in disbelief that DCUMers seem think showering means either some major exfoliation or...just standing there. Didn't any of your parents teach you how to wash yourselves?

You are being dramatic. The issue is that OP described her DH’s shower routine as pretty aggressive scrubbing if his entire body, including his back. Many people are saying the don’t bother to scrub every inch of their body in this way. They are not saying they don’t wash. I get soap over my whole body and rinse it with water. It gets washed. I don’t scrub except places that are actually dirty. Like I don’t scrub my upper arms or my lower back most days. But they do get rinsed with soap and water. That is enough to remove whatever sweat and excess oils have accumulated, which is all I need to do. I think this is also what others do. You don’t need to flip out— you are getting bogged down in semantics.

NP. OP said her DH was thorough. That does not equal aggressive scrubbing.

I wash from neck to toes with a washcloth and soap daily. That is thorough. I do not aggressively scrub.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a nurse. Ladies, you might think you don't smell, but you do.

I can assure you that the length of my limbs, which don’t sweat and are not exposed to anything dirty, smell just fine and there is no need to scrub them.

You can wash without scrubbing.
And yes, if you don't wash, you do smell.

Sniffing my forearmarm right now, which probably hasn’t gotten soaped up in…3 or 4 months?. Smells like nothing. I think I’m good, thanks though!

You can’t smell your own body odor. To other people, you smell like you don’t bathe.

There is a lot of runway between freshly washed and fetid. You are clearly comfort with where you land on that spectrum, but you have a smell.

Lol, sure. My poor friends, family, and coworkers having to keep it from me that I smell! It must be a heavy burden but I guess they care about my feelings that much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are each within the realm of normalcy.

Correct.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your husband is the weird one.

Agree

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a nurse. Ladies, you might think you don't smell, but you do.

I can assure you that the length of my limbs, which don’t sweat and are not exposed to anything dirty, smell just fine and there is no need to scrub them.

You can wash without scrubbing.
And yes, if you don't wash, you do smell.

Sniffing my forearmarm right now, which probably hasn’t gotten soaped up in…3 or 4 months?. Smells like nothing. I think I’m good, thanks though!

You can’t smell your own body odor. To other people, you smell like you don’t bathe.

There is a lot of runway between freshly washed and fetid. You are clearly comfort with where you land on that spectrum, but you have a smell.

Lol, sure. My poor friends, family, and coworkers having to keep it from me that I smell! It must be a heavy burden but I guess they care about my feelings that much.

If your forearm hasn't seen soap in a third of a year, yes, you smell. And no, people won't tell you.
Wash your body, FFS. It'll take a split second in your next shower to get some soap on your arm.