Relative came to thanksgiving with a cold.

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Anonymous wrote:I would never leave the house with my kids if we stayed home for every come.

Yup. Families with kids get this. If we stayed home every Thanksgiving or Christmas that one of us had a cold, we would simply never spend another holiday with anyone else. I actually like doing holidays just us at home and only travel for the grandparents, who I’m guessing would not be okay with our forever quarantine.

We’re a “family with kids” who also have manners. We would not attend a family Thanksgiving knowingly making others sick.

+1 c'mon people you know the right thing to do. Sit one out when you're ill so we can all make it through the winter with less illness

No, I will not stay home for a cold and neither will most people.

You want a prize for being selfish?

Not as much as you'd like to win a prize for being self-righteous.

NP. I’ll take the prize for being “self-righteous” over selfish any day, because at least I think about how what I do impacts others with empathy. People like you are why the world is in a downward spiral.

[Anonymous]

Do your kids go to school? If so, they are surrounded by other sick kids every day. Same situation. It’s life.

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Everyone has a different line, OP. I wouldn’t attend Thanksgiving with a cold, and I want other people to cancel if they have a cold, but almost NO ONE has the same line as me.

I think our lines depend, in part, on how inconvenient it is for us to be sick. Certainly immune compromised people have more strict lines but also people with kids in daycare that still have exclusions for covid symptoms have more strict lines, single parents might have more strict lines, someone who is out of sick leave at work will have a more strict line, etc.

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How is it that only the baby got sick? Did OP hand the baby to the sick guest?

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Anonymous wrote:I would never leave the house with my kids if we stayed home for every come.

Yup. Families with kids get this. If we stayed home every Thanksgiving or Christmas that one of us had a cold, we would simply never spend another holiday with anyone else. I actually like doing holidays just us at home and only travel for the grandparents, who I’m guessing would not be okay with our forever quarantine.

We’re a “family with kids” who also have manners. We would not attend a family Thanksgiving knowingly making others sick.

+1 c'mon people you know the right thing to do. Sit one out when you're ill so we can all make it through the winter with less illness

No, I will not stay home for a cold and neither will most people.

You want a prize for being selfish?

The prize is getting to spend the holiday with my family ❤️

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would never leave the house with my kids if we stayed home for every come.

Yup. Families with kids get this. If we stayed home every Thanksgiving or Christmas that one of us had a cold, we would simply never spend another holiday with anyone else. I actually like doing holidays just us at home and only travel for the grandparents, who I’m guessing would not be okay with our forever quarantine.

We’re a “family with kids” who also have manners. We would not attend a family Thanksgiving knowingly making others sick.

+1 c'mon people you know the right thing to do. Sit one out when you're ill so we can all make it through the winter with less illness

No, I will not stay home for a cold and neither will most people.

You want a prize for being selfish?

The prize is getting to spend the holiday with my family ❤️

You go girl! I don’t get these weirdos on DCUM. I don’t know anyone IRL who is concerned or even thinks about Covid anymore. If they want to live their life like it’s March 2020, be my guest, but the rest of us have moved on.

[Anonymous]

I would have given a heads up because some people who come to our family thanksgiving have other family members with delicate health.

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Anonymous wrote:How is it that only the baby got sick? Did OP hand the baby to the sick guest?

Asking the important questions!

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Anonymous wrote:I would never leave the house with my kids if we stayed home for every come.

Yup. Families with kids get this. If we stayed home every Thanksgiving or Christmas that one of us had a cold, we would simply never spend another holiday with anyone else. I actually like doing holidays just us at home and only travel for the grandparents, who I’m guessing would not be okay with our forever quarantine.

We’re a “family with kids” who also have manners. We would not attend a family Thanksgiving knowingly making others sick.

+1 c'mon people you know the right thing to do. Sit one out when you're ill so we can all make it through the winter with less illness

No, I will not stay home for a cold and neither will most people.

You want a prize for being selfish?

Not as much as you'd like to win a prize for being self-righteous.

NP. I’ll take the prize for being “self-righteous” over selfish any day, because at least I think about how what I do impacts others with empathy. People like you are why the world is in a downward spiral.

Oh, the irony.

-DP

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Anonymous wrote:I would never leave the house with my kids if we stayed home for every come.

Yup. Families with kids get this. If we stayed home every Thanksgiving or Christmas that one of us had a cold, we would simply never spend another holiday with anyone else. I actually like doing holidays just us at home and only travel for the grandparents, who I’m guessing would not be okay with our forever quarantine.

We’re a “family with kids” who also have manners. We would not attend a family Thanksgiving knowingly making others sick.

+1 c'mon people you know the right thing to do. Sit one out when you're ill so we can all make it through the winter with less illness

No, I will not stay home for a cold and neither will most people.

You want a prize for being selfish?

Not as much as you'd like to win a prize for being self-righteous.

NP. I’ll take the prize for being “self-righteous” over selfish any day, because at least I think about how what I do impacts others with empathy. People like you are why the world is in a downward spiral.

DP, but by almost all objective metrics, the world is in an upward spiral. And I’m pretty sure that if it were to start trending downward, it would not be because someone came to family dinner with a cold.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a cold. We all get them. We all pass them to others. Three years ago this wouldn't have been an issue. Covid has made everyone afraid of germs.

Right? Pre-covid, if anyone had said they weren't coming because of a cold, it would have been viewed as an excuse not to come.

That said, as someone with kids in school/childcare, I've become pretty conservative myself in these types of situations because our daycare is excluding for a lot more than it used to, and I assume others are as well. So if we were to attend a gathering with my sister and her young kids, we'd probably stay home for a cold to avoid getting them sick. But I wouldn't expect anyone without daycare-aged children to think this way. Covid has made everything weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People should not attend thanksgiving dinner if they have a cold. It’s rude and selfish and arrogant. You’re assuming your presence at the dinner is worth everyone else being sick for days or weeks.

But a lot of people are selfish, so if you go to a large dinner like that, there is a good chance there will be at least one jerk who thinks their company is worth exposing everyone to their cold or other illness.

This is why it’s a good idea to push for outdoor gatherings. I would have masked indoors, made everyone in my household mask, stay outside as much as possible, and eat outside.

That relative could have masked. Your host could have taken steps with ventilation, requiring everyone to test before gathering, and encourage mask use. That cold could become something else--that is why we take precautions and we should have been doing them all along. Layered mitigation b/c nothing is perfect, but more layers the better.

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No gathering is risk-free, and the more people you have, the more you multiply the risk. This could've happened with zero symptomatic people at the gathering, based on incubation periods for various viruses. I have a horrible stomach virus today and clearly caught it over thanksgiving but no one had symptoms while interacting with each other.

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This is why people need to mask and eat outside. SO many thanksgiving superspreader events that are going to overwhelm the already overwhelmed hospitals. You don't *need* to have big parties for every holiday. So selfish. Good job y'all.

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Anonymous wrote:I would never leave the house with my kids if we stayed home for every come.

Yup. Families with kids get this. If we stayed home every Thanksgiving or Christmas that one of us had a cold, we would simply never spend another holiday with anyone else. I actually like doing holidays just us at home and only travel for the grandparents, who I’m guessing would not be okay with our forever quarantine.

We’re a “family with kids” who also have manners. We would not attend a family Thanksgiving knowingly making others sick.

+1 c'mon people you know the right thing to do. Sit one out when you're ill so we can all make it through the winter with less illness

No, I will not stay home for a cold and neither will most people.

You want a prize for being selfish?

The prize is getting to spend the holiday with my family ❤️

You go girl! I don’t get these weirdos on DCUM. I don’t know anyone IRL who is concerned or even thinks about Covid anymore. If they want to live their life like it’s March 2020, be my guest, but the rest of us have moved on.

I think only the trolls on DCUM think about covid and social distancing anymore. I can't even imagine worrying about someone having a cold - or covid for that matter.

People get sick the same way they did in 2019.