Relative came to thanksgiving with a cold.

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Anonymous wrote:This is why we don't really like getting together with people these days. So many people with loose ideas of hygiene morals.

A+ trolling

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids probably got the cold from their classmates ore-thanksgivibg break; incubation of 2-4 days, symptoms now.

Find another scapegoat and unclench

The baby is not in school and no one else is sick. I’m not clenched- my spouse is and I’m wondering what the line is.

So your child is really young. When they become school age you will receive emails from the school how they should attend with a cold as long as they don’t have a fever or have covid. A cold is not a reason to stay home.

I wouldn’t think anything of a relative with a cold at Thanksgiving. My kids are in school and are exposed to colds and more daily.

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Anonymous wrote:Colds are so common. You can't expect everyone to stay home while they have a cold. That was never an expectation pre Covid and it shouldn't be one now. Flu, RSV, etc are different.

Decent people would stay home.

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I would never leave the house with my kids if we stayed home for every come.

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It’s not ideal but neither is a person staying home alone on thanksgiving. Sometimes both choices suck. I think most people can handle a cold OK so it’s ok to show up with one.

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I don’t think someone should come to a family gathering with a bad cold. Maybe if they’re getting over it and likely no longer contagious it would be okay? Yes, we all have to take cold medicine and do things sometimes, but going to a social event is almost always optional.

OTOH, I don’t think it’s helpful to blame colds on anyone. You can never really know where you got a cold.

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Anonymous wrote:I would never leave the house with my kids if we stayed home for every come.

Yup. Families with kids get this. If we stayed home every Thanksgiving or Christmas that one of us had a cold, we would simply never spend another holiday with anyone else. I actually like doing holidays just us at home and only travel for the grandparents, who I’m guessing would not be okay with our forever quarantine.

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Anonymous wrote:I would never leave the house with my kids if we stayed home for every come.

Yup. Families with kids get this. If we stayed home every Thanksgiving or Christmas that one of us had a cold, we would simply never spend another holiday with anyone else. I actually like doing holidays just us at home and only travel for the grandparents, who I’m guessing would not be okay with our forever quarantine.

Except apparently OP.

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In the 1980s, I was taught that it was not polite to be seated at the Thanksgiving table with active symptoms of a cold because “no one wants your cold.” You were fixed a plate and served in an adjacent room.

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Same thing happened in my household this year. MIL came to stay with us even though she had a nasty cold with a hacking cough. Failed to warn us before her several hour drive. She then insisted on helping to cook all while coughing, blowing her nose, and licking her fingers. She also refused to take any cold medicine to lessen the cough. Sure enough 72 hours after she arrived I’ve got nasty cold and am miserable. I’m so pissed.

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Anonymous wrote:Same thing happened in my household this year. MIL came to stay with us even though she had a nasty cold with a hacking cough. Failed to warn us before her several hour drive. She then insisted on helping to cook all while coughing, blowing her nose, and licking her fingers. She also refused to take any cold medicine to lessen the cough. Sure enough 72 hours after she arrived I’ve got nasty cold and am miserable. I’m so pissed.

Your cold is on you. She was in your house. Sick people do not handle the food.

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Colds are simply part of fall/winter. Don’t congregate in groups if you’re worried about a cold.

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Anonymous wrote:Colds are simply part of fall/winter. Don’t congregate in groups if you’re worried about a cold.

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Anonymous wrote:If you go to a gathering, assume you take the risk of being exposed to germs. Life is not risk free. You don’t have the right to not catch a cold.

Hey, rude people: When you have a contagious illness, skip the party and stay home.

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids probably got the cold from their classmates ore-thanksgivibg break; incubation of 2-4 days, symptoms now.

Find another scapegoat and unclench

The baby is not in school and no one else is sick. I’m not clenched- my spouse is and I’m wondering what the line is.

Does it matter "what the line is"? ^^

You and your spouse have already made up your mind, vented about it to each othet, and now subtly holding a grudge and self righteous.

You even said it wasn't anything super bad like notorious, flu, covid, or the like. So, stop everything bc someone has a head cold?

Well, that’s what I’m asking. I haven’t made up my mind. But I do think the sick guest shouldn’t be the one deciding without telling others.

Yes, you have. Re-read your obnoxious OP. You’re accusing your inlaw of downplaying how they felt. They had a cold. They likely felt well enough to attend or they wouldn’t have come. That’s not downplaying symptoms. If you don’t want your kids exposed to colds, don’t leave your house until next May.

+1 It’s laughable that OP is trying to say she hasn’t “made up my mind.”

Maybe you can convince yourself of this, OP. But the rest of us see you loud and clear.

What’s to see loud and clear? That i have the opinion that it’s inconsiderate to gather with immediate family without telling them you’re sick beforehand? So no one can make their own decisions?

I’m not sure if it’s reasonable for people to attend thanksgiving with colds. I see it both ways. But it’s certainly selfish to not even disclose it until you arrive. I’m guessing you and the PP are like this.

Well you claimed you hadn’t made up your mind when you clearly had. At least now you’re being honest and admitting you have. You’re just pissy that everyone is jumping on the bandwagon calling your in-law selfish.

You knew this person was sick and continued to spend tine with then, including staying the night. That’s on you that your kid is now sick.

First, PP, you seem terrible. Second, the sick person should leave (or better yet, not attend). Other people shouldn't be expected to leave to avoid the sick person. That's obviously nonsense. It's crazy how tribalism has so completely overtaken the brains of the stop-acting-like-Covid-exists people. Sick people were expected to stay home even before the pandemic. No one wants your germs.

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