Relative came to thanksgiving with a cold.
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Anonymous
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Went to my parents for thanksgiving. My siblings and I all live relatively nearby but decided to stay over for a few nights to have everyone under one roof. My siblings spouse showed up sick saying they had a cold (they had covid recently and tested negative so it was confirmed not that.) two days later, my kids are now getting sick and my spouse and I are debating what the line should be. We agree it was obnoxious for this person to show underplaying how sick they were but on the other hand, should someone sick with a cold (but functioning) miss thanksgiving for a cold? Obviously stay home if your very sick, or have covid, flu, rsv etc. - but should it also be expected that we would be exposed to colds at a big holiday? Pandemic has really exacerbated the issue.
Relative also could have not slept over and just come for the meal. |
Anonymous
| Also OP here- sorry for the typos and grammatical errors. Typing on my phone and hard to correct. |
Anonymous
| If you go to a gathering, assume you take the risk of being exposed to germs. Life is not risk free. You don’t have the right to not catch a cold. |
Anonymous
| It's a cold. We all get them. We all pass them to others. Three years ago this wouldn't have been an issue. Covid has made everyone afraid of germs. |
Anonymous
| For a cold? I wouldn’t expect someone to miss Thanksgiving unless they were looking for an excuse not to go. |
Anonymous
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While I personally would not show up knowing I was sick, here’s what: reality is, people are still going to show up to gatherings, work, restaurants, parties, church, etc., even if they have colds. OK? So any time you leave your house, you are actively choosing to be around sick people.
She bears the responsibility of showing up with cold symptoms. You bear the responsibility of attending a family gathering in winter, and a particularly full-of-illnesses winter at that. Own it. |
Anonymous
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Yeah they should not have come around elderly people especially with a cold.
And I’d test all of you for COVID. I know a healthy teenager who got COVID six weeks apart. |
Anonymous
+1 I remember a pre-Covid Thanksgiving where my husband was so mad he couldn’t taste anything because he was so congested. Wouldn’t have ever occurred to him to miss the gathering. |
Anonymous
They should have asked for a plate of food OR worn a mask and maintained social distancing. There are choices apart from attending or not attending when you have a cold. People in Japan have been wearing masks when they are sick since at least 50 years. |
Anonymous
| Stop ruminating on this. You made a choice to not only gather, but then spend several nights under one roof. It’s done. Your kids got sick. Replaying it doesn’t help in any way, shape or form. Move on. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
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Your kids probably got the cold from their classmates ore-thanksgivibg break; incubation of 2-4 days, symptoms now.
Find another scapegoat and unclench |
Anonymous
| YOU could have left at the first sniffle you heard. Suck it up, it's a cold |
Anonymous
The baby is not in school and no one else is sick. I’m not clenched- my spouse is and I’m wondering what the line is. |
Anonymous
Does it matter "what the line is"? ^^ You and your spouse have already made up your mind, vented about it to each othet, and now subtly holding a grudge and self righteous. You even said it wasn't anything super bad like notorious, flu, covid, or the like. So, stop everything bc someone has a head cold? |