What makes a 50+ year old woman think that she looks 25? Serious question.

[Anonymous]

You sound jealous, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some women really need attention from men to validate themselves and so will perpetuate those types of situations their entire adult lives.

I do know one woman who gets hit on by younger men and she is a huge flirt. Which is fine. Good for her. She likes the attention. But she is soliciting the attention. I just don't believe a whole lot of 50-something women who are out in the world completely minding their own business and not looking for it are getting hit on by young guys constantly. Doesn't pass the laugh test.

I find the opposite. My 50 yo friends generally feel invisible, we don’t feel or look great in our opinion. When we were young and beautiful you really couch your action to ensure nobody thinks you are “flirting”.

But at 50 you can just be yourself and people don’t think hey why is she talking to that man. Well it’s because I’m not a threat anymore. But every blue moon somebody didn’t get the memo that 50 something’s are invisible.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some have really hood self esteem. Is that a crime? Im 46 and look maybe 10 years younger, except when my grays show.

Delusional, is more like it. What else are you delusional about?

DP. Until I developed cancer at 49, I regularly passed for early 30s. Melanated skin wrinkles far less and I had a good amount of facial fat until chemo. Even now, doctors comment that I look like I’m in my early 40s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some women really need attention from men to validate themselves and so will perpetuate those types of situations their entire adult lives.

I do know one woman who gets hit on by younger men and she is a huge flirt. Which is fine. Good for her. She likes the attention. But she is soliciting the attention. I just don't believe a whole lot of 50-something women who are out in the world completely minding their own business and not looking for it are getting hit on by young guys constantly. Doesn't pass the laugh test.

I find the opposite. My 50 yo friends generally feel invisible, we don’t feel or look great in our opinion. When we were young and beautiful you really couch your action to ensure nobody thinks you are “flirting”.

But at 50 you can just be yourself and people don’t think hey why is she talking to that man. Well it’s because I’m not a threat anymore. But every blue moon somebody didn’t get the memo that 50 something’s are invisible.

And deluding oneself of the reality makes the pain of invisibility more bearable. Delusion is a powerful coping mechanism.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think I look in my 20’s but I’ve been mistaken to be a younger person many times.

I’m 54 and people assume I’m in my 30’s.

I don’t see it personally.

No, they don't.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is a perfect example of how women don't support other women, and are incredibly judgmental.

Let women feel whatever they want to feel if it's a positive to them.

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It doesn't harm anyone and boosts someone's self esteem.

It does harm me if I have to sit around listen to your delusional ass at girl's night out and pretend I agree you look 25.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:Some women get a lot of attention even as they get older b/c they are happy, fun, interested in others, do a lot of fun/different things, and have confidence. They are great to be around b/c they are warm and welcoming. Everyone wants to be close to a woman like that!

I agree with this and also what does this have to do with anything the OP said?

B/c they get attention from lots of people including younger men. Their essence is youthful and they are perceived to be youthful and thus they feel the same as they did when they were 25.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recently had dinner with relatives, all females in their early 50s. All the women look their ages (and one looks slightly older). During the dinner, all of the women (with straight faces) kept commenting on how young they looked, how people mistake them for 20/30 somethings, how young guys hit on them constantly, etc. I was baffled by the delusion but tried hard not to show it.

Serious question, but what's behind that level of deluding? Is it fear of reality, getting older, being competitive, and is there any point in disagreeing with them when they aren't hurting anyone? Also, what is so wrong with looking good for your age?

I am the youngest in the group at 41, and while I take excellent care of myself, I look my age.

Must be nice to have this as a "serious" question!

[Anonymous]

So you’re white without saying you’re white

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think I look in my 20’s but I’ve been mistaken to be a younger person many times.

I’m 54 and people assume I’m in my 30’s.

I don’t see it personally.

No, they don't.

Yea they do. It’s weird to me too but alas it is what it is.

[Anonymous]

I’m 50+ and definitely dont think I look younger but also think that a lot of us do look younger than our parents/grandparents did at this age. Maybe that’s part of the perspective. There’s also a wide range of looks past 50. I was amazed at a recent reunion how differently people had aged (good comparison group since everyone was the same age).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you’re white without saying you’re white

You still look around your age, sis. Sorry. Unless you are super baby faced, you look like a really good looking 30/40/50 year old women. The trend on Tik Tok is hilarious. I’m within 2 years every time.

I have a friend who has a very nice 45 year old body that feels the need to post a butt shot on every beach vacation she goes on. It looks like a *nice* 45 year old butt. But it doesn’t look like a 21 year old butt. Same goes for the face - no matter your race. Different races age in different ways - but you can still tell the difference between a 25 yo AA woman and a 50 yo one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think I look in my 20’s but I’ve been mistaken to be a younger person many times.

I’m 54 and people assume I’m in my 30’s.

I don’t see it personally.

No, they don't.

Yea they do. It’s weird to me too but alas it is what it is.

They're just being nice to you, because you're one of the women OP is describing who is obsessed with this.

I promise you that there is no one on the planet who sees a 54 YO woman and "assumed" she's in her 30s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is a perfect example of how women don't support other women, and are incredibly judgmental.

Let women feel whatever they want to feel if it's a positive to them.

+1
It doesn't harm anyone and boosts someone's self esteem.

It does harm me if I have to sit around listen to your delusional ass at girl's night out and pretend I agree you look 25.

Clearly you don’t really like these women. Why did you even go out with them? They’d be much better off without a person in their midst who is secretly making fun of them.

+1 why do you even hang out with them if you think they are delusional.

I think women who don't talk about themselves intimately with their best friends have superficial relationships.

[Anonymous]

What does it even mean to look a particular age? What does 36 look like, or 44, or 58? Is there some standard look for a specific age that we can compare to?

And when people say someone looks great for their age, what do they mean? When I personally say it, I usually mean that someone looks younger than the age I know them to be. Do other people have a different meaning for that phrase?