What makes a 50+ year old woman think that she looks 25? Serious question.

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Anonymous wrote:Come on ladies, let us be! I found my best self at 50 and have never had a healthier (if delusional, so be it) self esteem. I love my life and have never felt better about myself. I’ happy to my core! The difference between 25 and 50 is . . . I truly don’t give a flying eff what other people think and I surround myself with friends who make each other feel terrific about themselves. Ah youth, it’s truly wasted on the young.

Me too! Loving my 50s - and here's the thing - I'm happy with how I look and feel - I don't care if I look "young", I'm just proud that I'm fit, active, wear cute clothes and don't feel or look tired and old. You are as old as you feel and think OP.....

+52

AND I do not care if people think they are hotter or look younger than they are.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is a perfect example of how women don't support other women, and are incredibly judgmental.

Let women feel whatever they want to feel if it's a positive to them.

I think what's actually judgmental is thinking that looking young is sooooo great. It perpetuates really unhealthy ideas, like women "expire" at age 50, etc.

Yes that is what I have a problem with. That looking your age is so terrible

I have a friend who is constantly telling us how young people say she is. It makes me feel depressed that this is what she thinks is the best thing about herself. She looks great so isn’t that enough

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is a perfect example of how women don't support other women, and are incredibly judgmental.

Let women feel whatever they want to feel if it's a positive to them.

I think what's actually judgmental is thinking that looking young is sooooo great. It perpetuates really unhealthy ideas, like women "expire" at age 50, etc.

Yes that is what I have a problem with. That looking your age is so terrible

[/b]I have a friend who is constantly telling us how young people say she is. It makes me feel depressed that this is what she thinks is the best thing about herself. She looks great so isn’t that enough

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I am 60 now but can remember keenly working retail in my 20s and talking to women customers who would state their age in a way that was meant to cue by incredulous gasp, and a “you look so much younger”, etc. I think it is great to do your best to be attractive, confident and happy. Most women really do look their age and if they’re lucky they look good for their age.

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Anonymous wrote:What does it even mean to look a particular age? What does 36 look like, or 44, or 58? Is there some standard look for a specific age that we can compare to?

And when people say someone looks great for their age, what do they mean? When I personally say it, I usually mean that someone looks younger than the age I know them to be. Do other people have a different meaning for that phrase?

Very interesting that no one seems to have a comment on this post. The reality is that no one can answer these questions.

I have no problem answering the question.

To me the phrase means you are very well put together at the age you are. You dress nicely, your hair looks great, you take care of your skin. You’re trying. It doesn’t mean you don’t look your own age.

But what does a particular age actually look like? That’s what I don’t understand. What is it about how someone looks that makes us think they look a particular age?

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I'm 48 and men are rabid for me. Even my son's friends.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does it even mean to look a particular age? What does 36 look like, or 44, or 58? Is there some standard look for a specific age that we can compare to?

And when people say someone looks great for their age, what do they mean? When I personally say it, I usually mean that someone looks younger than the age I know them to be. Do other people have a different meaning for that phrase?

Very interesting that no one seems to have a comment on this post. The reality is that no one can answer these questions.

I have no problem answering the question.

To me the phrase means you are very well put together at the age you are. You dress nicely, your hair looks great, you take care of your skin. You’re trying. It doesn’t mean you don’t look your own age.

But what does a particular age actually look like? That’s what I don’t understand. What is it about how someone looks that makes us think they look a particular age?

Well, mid-50s and over tend to have softening at jawline, beginning of crepey neck, possible beginning liver spots on hands or prominent veins. Thickening at waist regardless of weight. Footwear is a big tell- typical to see shoes with arch support that look comfortable. You might see thinning hair or hair that is styled in a way to try and hide this. If women don’t spend a ton of money on highlights and grey coverage every few weeks you will often see matte, dry hair from monochromatic home- dye jobs.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 48 and men are rabid for me. Even my son's friends.

It’s not that I doubt you, I am just guessing you and all other women who mention men constantly hitting on them present yourself in an overtly sexual way. My daughter is objectively beautiful and while men certainly look, she is not continually approached by guys trying to chat her up- maybe because she has a slim, athletic look.

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10 pages and no one has called BS? I know a lot of 50 year old women who take care of themselves and could be mistaken for 35-45. I know not one single 50 year old who thinks they look 25. Lol We WISH. We remember having a hot body and tight jawline and we want it back. We spend $$$ trying to minimize it but girl, we change our clothes. There is no mistaking us for 25. Op, you made this up. You’re not being nice to your friends. Let them feel good about themselves. You will be 50 too.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 48 and men are rabid for me. Even my son's friends.

This comment was fine until you included the second part like it’s a flex. Teenage/young college boys barely have standards. They’re so hormonal they’d be attracted to the floor if it showed them any attention.

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I don't think there is a look for each age. I don't know what a 35 vs a 40 vs a 45 vs a 50 year old looks like to know if they look their age or not. Unless they have had a lot of cosmetic surgeries, then they look their age. There is a wide range of looks for any age.

I think there are broad categories or looks - young adults - but if you gave me 100 people, I probably couldn't tell you who is 20 or 25 or 30. Or I could say they look middle aged but again I couldn't tell you who is 45 or 50 or 55 or I would say this person looks elderly but I don't know if they are 70 or 75 or 80.

I too have never really understood what looking a specific number looks like. If you took 1000 people all born on the same day who are 'natural' they would all look different but all look their age.

I have no idea who old I look! I look my age to me regardless of what other people think because this is how I look at this age!

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 48 and men are rabid for me. Even my son's friends.

It’s not that I doubt you, I am just guessing you and all other women who mention men constantly hitting on them present yourself in an overtly sexual way. My daughter is objectively beautiful and while men certainly look, she is not continually approached by guys trying to chat her up- maybe because she has a slim, athletic look.

Np and I agree with this. I don't think highly attractive/beautiful women are hit on as much as people would assume. I think they get a lot of attention/looks/stares, but I would assume most men are too intimidated to carry out the act of approaching the woman. I agree that a flirtatious woman gets approached more due to “putting it out there” that she's approachable.

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Anonymous wrote:10 pages and no one has called BS? I know a lot of 50 year old women who take care of themselves and could be mistaken for 35-45. I know not one single 50 year old who thinks they look 25. Lol We WISH. We remember having a hot body and tight jawline and we want it back. We spend $$$ trying to minimize it but girl, we change our clothes. There is no mistaking us for 25. Op, you made this up. You’re not being nice to your friends. Let them feel good about themselves. You will be 50 too.

Op said relatives not friends.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 48 and men are rabid for me. Even my son's friends.

It’s not that I doubt you, I am just guessing you and all other women who mention men constantly hitting on them present yourself in an overtly sexual way. My daughter is objectively beautiful and while men certainly look, she is not continually approached by guys trying to chat her up- maybe because she has a slim, athletic look.

I personally find women like you who brag about their daughter’s beauty and clearly live vicariously through them more distasteful than PP. I You people exude this air of “I know I’m disgusting and worthless but I have a daughter and her beauty validates my existence.” Grow up lady.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 48 and men are rabid for me. Even my son's friends.

This comment was fine until you included the second part like it’s a flex. Teenage/young college boys barely have standards. They’re so hormonal they’d be attracted to the floor if it showed them any attention.

Not to mention it sounds gross and creepy. I purposely don’t wear anything remotely sexy around my teen son’s friends. They have had made comments to my sons and my nephews’ friends kept referring to me as the “smoking hot Aunt”, but I’m not gloating or take it as a point of pride. I’m 52.5, but I haven’t hit menopause yet which I know is a game-changer. I have always exercised/been an athlete because staying fit feels good and allows me not to slow down, good for my health.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 48 and men are rabid for me. Even my son's friends.

This comment was fine until you included the second part like it’s a flex. Teenage/young college boys barely have standards. They’re so hormonal they’d be attracted to the floor if it showed them any attention.

Not to mention it sounds gross and creepy. I purposely don’t wear anything remotely sexy around my teen son’s friends. They have had made comments to my sons and my nephews’ friends kept referring to me as the “smoking hot Aunt”, but I’m not gloating or take it as a point of pride. I’m 52.5, but I haven’t hit menopause yet which I know is a game-changer. I have always exercised/been an athlete because staying fit feels good and allows me not to slow down, good for my health.

PP, I do think exercise if the key here. I go to the gym regularly and I see way more women than men in there and they are lifting weights. I also see a lot of older women there and they are very fit. I think that is helping a lot of women not look their age these days.