What makes a 50+ year old woman think that she looks 25? Serious question.

[Anonymous]

I’m 50 and have heard this from friends. I think it’s rooted in deep insecurity and general misogynistic culture. Women are not allowed to age. For example, compare Matthew Perry to the female cast members from friends. Also Amy Schumer’s Last F*ckable Day skit is pretty true. Our society is disgusted by women aging. It’s hard to face.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 48 and men are rabid for me. Even my son's friends.

It’s not that I doubt you, I am just guessing you and all other women who mention men constantly hitting on them present yourself in an overtly sexual way. My daughter is objectively beautiful and while men certainly look, she is not continually approached by guys trying to chat her up- maybe because she has a slim, athletic look.

I personally find women like you who brag about their daughter’s beauty and clearly live vicariously through them more distasteful than PP. I You people exude this air of “I know I’m disgusting and worthless but I have a daughter and her beauty validates my existence.” Grow up lady.

Well, there may be elements of truth in your comments. I might be a little over invested in my daughter’s beauty, but I’d argue that I am more grown- up as a result. We all get a chance to be beautiful in the way that only youth brings, but some women refuse to graciously give way when their turn is over. Quit competing with your daughters and bragging about sharing clothes. There is beauty in every age for a woman.

Nope you’re not grown up if you’re “over invested” in your daughter’s beauty. You’re just as gross as those disgusting women who compete with their daughters, just in a different way. In either case, there’s too much focus on a young woman’s looks and it’s uncomfortable. Again, grow up.

My sons are handsome. I think so and I also hear it all the time so I know it's true. I don't care what you think about it. : )

[Anonymous]

I didn’t read all replies but I think that what is happening is not that todays 50-year old ladies think they look 25 exactly, it’s that they know they DO NOT look like the Golden Girls who were early-mid 50s when that show began in 1985 and todays 50 year olds were young. So they are feeling like they must “look much younger” because they have longer, colored hair, and use sunscreen and Botox, don’t wear house dresses, etc

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Anonymous wrote:I didn’t read all replies but I think that what is happening is not that todays 50-year old ladies think they look 25 exactly, it’s that they know they DO NOT look like the Golden Girls who were early-mid 50s when that show began in 1985 and todays 50 year olds were young. So they are feeling like they must “look much younger” because they have longer, colored hair, and use sunscreen and Botox, don’t wear house dresses, etc

Actually only Rue Mcclanahan was in her fifties when the show started. Bea Arthur and Betty White were 60ish playing early 50s.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 50 and have heard this from friends. I think it’s rooted in deep insecurity and general misogynistic culture. Women are not allowed to age. For example, compare Matthew Perry to the female cast members from friends. Also Amy Schumer’s Last F*ckable Day skit is pretty true. Our society is disgusted by women aging. It’s hard to face.

I think this is it. What better comment to give a woman than "you don't look like you're aging"? People want to say something nice and think the best thing is to pretend like we aren't getting old. It's awful. I hope one day we can find beauty with age.

[Anonymous]

Younger guys DO hit on women 40s and 50s. I'm sure it just for sex. It's happened to me and it makes me feel really weird as a married mom of young men. I think young guys want to jump in bed with older appreciative ladies. Also we look good and have more money than younger women.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 50 and have heard this from friends. I think it’s rooted in deep insecurity and general misogynistic culture. Women are not allowed to age. For example, compare Matthew Perry to the female cast members from friends. Also Amy Schumer’s Last F*ckable Day skit is pretty true. Our society is disgusted by women aging. It’s hard to face.

I think this is it. What better comment to give a woman than "you don't look like you're aging"? People want to say something nice and think the best thing is to pretend like we aren't getting old. It's awful. I hope one day we can find beauty with age.

I feel uncomfortable when people lie to me because false flattery does not feel good. What surprises me are those who believe it when people say it. Others are either not bothered by the lies or don't realize they are being lied to. This goes back to my fascination with the deluded mine. It's like an internal trick mirror at the circus that shows the person what they want to see.

[Anonymous]

Get yourselves a good collagen supplement and turn back the clock.

[Anonymous]

Why? Because when we hit 50, society and young women tell us we have no value, we are ugly and we should curl up and die in the corner. And please, be quiet as you are dying in the corner.

To the OP: come back when you are in your 50's and we can have this conversation as I can guarantee your perspective will have changed.

[Anonymous]

No 50 year old woman thinks she looks 25.

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Anonymous wrote:Why? Because when we hit 50, society and young women tell us we have no value, we are ugly and we should curl up and die in the corner. And please, be quiet as you are dying in the corner.

To the OP: come back when you are in your 50's and we can have this conversation as I can guarantee your perspective will have changed.

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[Anonymous]

If she’s j. Lo, then she’s justified.

[Anonymous]

I am 52 and had a glow up in my 40s and now look the best I ever have, partly because I am more confident. I look very good for my age and people might not peg me for 50s but I am not looking 30 or 20 or even early 40s anything and am amused that someone 50-some-years-old thinks they can pass for 20s or 30s.