Grandparents annoying the kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd like them to understand the concept of quality over quantity. By the fourth day the kids really start resisting and do not want to sit with them for hours.

Then the kids don't see them. What's wrong with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Kids are in school, of course. My parents have a lot of disposable income and will park at a hotel for a week, even more, and more or less sit around waiting to see the kids. My mother is laser-focused on seeing them but she wants it on her terms, i.e. sit at our house or in their hotel room. The kids do not enjoy this. She feels that because they showed up, I should be accommodating them and drop the kids off with her all week or let them park in our living room from 4 pm until the late evening. I've said no many times and yet she keeps doing things her way. They do this about once every other month. As soon as they leave, she's planning another visit. We've gone to see them as well but it's the same thing there. Just sitting around the livingroom.

You’ve sad no many times and she ignores you. You must tell her that none of you are available during this next visit that she announced. Be clear that they will not be let in if they ignore you.

Your mom is a jerk who ignores when you say no. There is simply no way to avoid her getting mad because she’s selfish. She’s going to throw a fit when she doesn’t get her way. You have to just be strong and let her fit and rage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids are 10 snd 12 and although I’ve taught them to be polite, I can see why they’re getting sick of my parents. They come for very long visits even when I tell them to cut it down to a weekend (instead they stay for a whole week and expect to see the kids all the time). By they third day the kids start hiding from them because grandma keeps asking the same questions about school and grandpa just blasts the tv, gets mad at them for blocking it. I don’t expect the kids to see them every day they’re here of course. My parents choose to come for so long. That’s unreasonable and would probably result in fights. They don’t take them out much. There aren’t good museums near where they live. We’ve suggested movies but they can’t agree on them. Grandma still think the kids want to see babyish stuff and balks at the films the kids do want to see (too loud, too violet, no values!). So we’re at an impasse. They won’t back off even a bit. I always had a feeling this would happen. Neither of my parents have hobbies to share so it’s not like grandpa will take them fishing or grandma likes day camping. They literally do nothing.

We have the same thing but w the in laws.
They come houseguest for 2-3 weeks, sit around, do nothing, eat everything they see, make fun of kids who do extracurriculars, and never have much to say. My spouse ignores them entirely and works MORE. He claims there’s more people in the house for the kids so he can “catch up” on work.

The worst is when they tried to come during spring break and wanted us all to sit home and do nothing. With them.

They don’t like to spend their money or take vacations. The one time we took them to the Caribbean they spent half the time in their resort room cooking. And in day trips in the rental car they wouldn’t talk or respond to things we pointed out. And they hate eating out. Unless you’re paying. They literally have millions and make $300k a year from paid off rental properties.