How do your kids address their friends' parents?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t allow my kids to call adults by their first name. Please don’t try to override the parents on this.

Same!

[Anonymous]

We do Mr. or Ms. Firstname. I am from the South so I grew up like that.

[Anonymous]

Mrs LastName or Mrs Initial of Last Name (because our name is kind of long), or Larlo's Mom.

NEVER first name. And after preschool never Miss FirstName, although i don't really mind that one, it just feels like it belongs in preschool.

To this day I still call my friend's parents Mrs/Mr LastName - no first names, and we are all grown ups, but it's what I'm used to. And I do think it's respectful.

I think children calling adults by their first name is odd. There should be a title. Thinking about sports teams, we use Coach FirstName, and that seems fine. Babysitters are usually Mr/Miss FirstName, although some younger teens are just FirstName. Camp Counselors or Mr/Miss FirstName.

But parents of friends are Mr/Mrs LastName, for life!

[Anonymous]

Definitely a preference thing. I want my kids friends to call me Mrs. Lastname. However, my husband recently met one of our son's friends and introduced himself and me by our first names. After the kids were gone I had a discussion with him about my preferences and that I don't want kids calling me by my first name. I was raised in the south, husband was raised in the Midwest by parents from NY.

[Anonymous]

For the people who think that a parent who prefers to be addressed by her first name ought to defer to a parent who wants her children to address other parents by Mr/Mrs X...do you think that a parent who prefers to be addressed as Mrs. X ought to defer to the parent who wants her children to address other adults by their first name?

In other words, there seem to be a lot of people who believe that if Sally Smith wants to be addressed as Sally but Donna Dunmore wants her kids to address Sally as Mrs. Smith then Sally should accept this. If Donna wants Sally's kids to address her as Mrs. Dunmore but Sally's thinks her kids should just call her Donna, are you as accepting it ought to be Sally's right to decide how her children address other adults?

Reading this thread, I'm surprised at how many people use Ms. Firstname - how is it i've never encountered it before. Not growing up or at my kids' schools, either...including pre-school or daycare. I didn't even know it was a thing. Calling an adult Miss Donna or Miss Sally makes me envision people prancing around a plantation or something.

[Anonymous]

This is the kind of stuff I used to worry about before and now give absolutely zero f*cks about. The fact that your posting about it means that you’re doing better then the rest of us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For the people who think that a parent who prefers to be addressed by her first name ought to defer to a parent who wants her children to address other parents by Mr/Mrs X...do you think that a parent who prefers to be addressed as Mrs. X ought to defer to the parent who wants her children to address other adults by their first name?

In other words, there seem to be a lot of people who believe that if Sally Smith wants to be addressed as Sally but Donna Dunmore wants her kids to address Sally as Mrs. Smith then Sally should accept this. If Donna wants Sally's kids to address her as Mrs. Dunmore but Sally's thinks her kids should just call her Donna, are you as accepting it ought to be Sally's right to decide how her children address other adults?

Reading this thread, I'm surprised at how many people use Ms. Firstname - how is it i've never encountered it before. Not growing up or at my kids' schools, either...including pre-school or daycare. I didn't even know it was a thing. Calling an adult Miss Donna or Miss Sally makes me envision people prancing around a plantation or something.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For the people who think that a parent who prefers to be addressed by her first name ought to defer to a parent who wants her children to address other parents by Mr/Mrs X...do you think that a parent who prefers to be addressed as Mrs. X ought to defer to the parent who wants her children to address other adults by their first name?

In other words, there seem to be a lot of people who believe that if Sally Smith wants to be addressed as Sally but Donna Dunmore wants her kids to address Sally as Mrs. Smith then Sally should accept this. If Donna wants Sally's kids to address her as Mrs. Dunmore but Sally's thinks her kids should just call her Donna, are you as accepting it ought to be Sally's right to decide how her children address other adults?

Reading this thread, I'm surprised at how many people use Ms. Firstname - how is it i've never encountered it before. Not growing up or at my kids' schools, either...including pre-school or daycare. I didn't even know it was a thing. Calling an adult Miss Donna or Miss Sally makes me envision people prancing around a plantation or something.

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I understood the post perfectly; work on improving your reading comprehension.

And the point is a valid one—if parents are the final arbiter of how their child addresses other adults, then parents who insist on their kids calling other parents Mrs. Smith will have to tolerate being called Donna by parents who have taught their children to use first names. Otherwise they are circumventing the other parents’ teachings, and would be hypocritical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For the people who think that a parent who prefers to be addressed by her first name ought to defer to a parent who wants her children to address other parents by Mr/Mrs X...do you think that a parent who prefers to be addressed as Mrs. X ought to defer to the parent who wants her children to address other adults by their first name?

In other words, there seem to be a lot of people who believe that if Sally Smith wants to be addressed as Sally but Donna Dunmore wants her kids to address Sally as Mrs. Smith then Sally should accept this. If Donna wants Sally's kids to address her as Mrs. Dunmore but Sally's thinks her kids should just call her Donna, are you as accepting it ought to be Sally's right to decide how her children address other adults?

Reading this thread, I'm surprised at how many people use Ms. Firstname - how is it i've never encountered it before. Not growing up or at my kids' schools, either...including pre-school or daycare. I didn't even know it was a thing. Calling an adult Miss Donna or Miss Sally makes me envision people prancing around a plantation or something.

Do you live in the DMV?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For the people who think that a parent who prefers to be addressed by her first name ought to defer to a parent who wants her children to address other parents by Mr/Mrs X...do you think that a parent who prefers to be addressed as Mrs. X ought to defer to the parent who wants her children to address other adults by their first name?

In other words, there seem to be a lot of people who believe that if Sally Smith wants to be addressed as Sally but Donna Dunmore wants her kids to address Sally as Mrs. Smith then Sally should accept this. If Donna wants Sally's kids to address her as Mrs. Dunmore but Sally's thinks her kids should just call her Donna, are you as accepting it ought to be Sally's right to decide how her children address other adults?

Reading this thread, I'm surprised at how many people use Ms. Firstname - how is it i've never encountered it before. Not growing up or at my kids' schools, either...including pre-school or daycare. I didn't even know it was a thing. Calling an adult Miss Donna or Miss Sally makes me envision people prancing around a plantation or something.

Do you live in the DMV?

Probably not. And probably a White female too! Everything is super complicated and triggering to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For the people who think that a parent who prefers to be addressed by her first name ought to defer to a parent who wants her children to address other parents by Mr/Mrs X...do you think that a parent who prefers to be addressed as Mrs. X ought to defer to the parent who wants her children to address other adults by their first name?

In other words, there seem to be a lot of people who believe that if Sally Smith wants to be addressed as Sally but Donna Dunmore wants her kids to address Sally as Mrs. Smith then Sally should accept this. If Donna wants Sally's kids to address her as Mrs. Dunmore but Sally's thinks her kids should just call her Donna, are you as accepting it ought to be Sally's right to decide how her children address other adults?

Reading this thread, I'm surprised at how many people use Ms. Firstname - how is it i've never encountered it before. Not growing up or at my kids' schools, either...including pre-school or daycare. I didn't even know it was a thing. Calling an adult Miss Donna or Miss Sally makes me envision people prancing around a plantation or something.

Learn how to write concise articulate sentences

I understood the post perfectly; work on improving your reading comprehension.

And the point is a valid one—if parents are the final arbiter of how their child addresses other adults, then parents who insist on their kids calling other parents Mrs. Smith will have to tolerate being called Donna by parents who have taught their children to use first names. Otherwise they are circumventing the other parents’ teachings, and would be hypocritical.

Like PP I had a hard time following that post. But no, I wouldn’t push back on the child if he insisted on calling me by my first name. That has never happened though.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t allow my kids to call adults by their first name. Please don’t try to override the parents on this.

Please teach your kids to be polite by calling people what they want to be called. Even if that’s their first name.

No thanks.

Your feelings gonna be hurt Bugga boo?

It’s not my child’s job to make assuage your adult feelings. It’s my child’s job to be respectful of adults and that’s the message I’m relaying to my kid. I find this insistence to make a child address you in a way that will make him feel uncomfortable, and go against his parent’s wishes, to be impolite. Let it go.

Your kid can still act like a brat while calling someone Mr/Mrs. I've seen it often.

Feel free to let me know if my child is acting like a brat and I assure you I will address it with my child!

[Anonymous]

Mr and Mrs Lastname, generally. If a parent strongly prefers to be called by first name and tells them so, they try to remember to do so.

I prefer to be addressed as Mrs Lastname but not that big of a deal to me.