Reasonable expectations for a nanny.

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Also, we cannot be super high energy every day, and should not be expected to. If I do all the baby laundry and crib sheets changing on wednesday, you can expect me to be a bit tired the next day and just to focus on the child.

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Anonymous wrote:Also, we cannot be super high energy every day, and should not be expected to. If I do all the baby laundry and crib sheets changing on wednesday, you can expect me to be a bit tired the next day and just to focus on the child.

Well this has clearly crossed into trolling territory

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Anonymous wrote:Parent who works from home here - why is having a WFH parent a disadvantage? Is it because the parent micromanages? Or because the children prefer the parent? I assumed this was an advantage - a second set of hands if needed, someone to give the nanny 5 to 10 min breaks during the day, etc. What is the downside y’all are referring to?

(Genuine q because I wonder if I’m inadvertently making it harder on my nanny by working from home)

Absolutely not. Most experienced nannies will not accept a job where the parent is WFH. It’s only a benefit to you. It’s a negative for the nanny, for both the reasons you describe.

+1 my former nanny (quit due to relocating) worked for us while I was WFH but she said it was an exception, for these reasons. I am not a micromanager, would spend all day in a different part of the house (or she would take kid to park) and my kid does not bug me or favor me while nanny is around.

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Anonymous wrote:We have a fantastic nanny. We were just gone for an extra long labor day weekend. We contractually pay her for the time (of course) and there was no expectation that she works if we are out of town. Yet she came (on her own volition!) and organized all the kid's clothes for fall, set up a book and toy rotation system, restocked the kitchen with all our staples, organized our pantries, cleared out water bottles that had gotten junkie and did a target run to pick up some more, and many other things. Basically spent 1.5 days of the 3 days she had while we were gone doing a ton of extra things as a kind surprise.

Before the nasty nannies imply that we must be a horribly slobby and disorganized household that she felt that she absolutely had to do this to be able to function - we are not at all. She's a hard-working and kind person that wants to go above and beyond in her job and we give her good pay, appreciation, and bonuses for it.

That is what a great nanny looks like. they're out there, like at any job you'll find the people that care about being great at their work (assuming they like their job / employer) and the people that dial it in for a pay check acting like they're the victims

Good for your doormat! Personally she sounds like a damn fool who makes it harder for professionals who realize when the family is vacationing that’s nanny’s time off.

So their nanny has initiative. In my mind, that's being professional not foolish. They didn't require it of her, but apparently, she isn't as lazy as some of these posters.

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Don't doink the DH. Everything else is details

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I have watched my sister nanny for 20+ years. B.S. in Early Childhood Education She is responsible for the children's education and care. Not laundry, not closets. I shared the contents of this thread with her. We had a good cackle. What a joke!

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Anonymous wrote:I have watched my sister nanny for 20+ years. B.S. in Early Childhood Education She is responsible for the children's education and care. Not laundry, not closets. I shared the contents of this thread with her. We had a good cackle. What a joke!

It would be completely fair for a nanny to not want to do this. As long as that was agreed-upon, she would be good to go. That said, there are plenty of nannies that will and I did not have any issues finding one

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Anonymous wrote:We’re hiring our first nanny in October and wondering what reasonable expectations are for her position. It will be one two month old. We’re able to pay $30 an hour for 40 hours a week. We have a housekeeper so no cleaning beyond baby stuff (laundry, keeping closets and drawers up to date, putting away toys and making fresh baby food/meals when she’s ready). We do want a fluent English speaker (reading and writing) with some college and experience.

I work from home and will feed the baby.

I have a real problem with anyone being late and needless drama. Reliability is paramount.

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Your baby is one month old. why does it matter that the nanny can write? I get reading...how about counting/math?

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Anonymous wrote:We’re hiring our first nanny in October and wondering what reasonable expectations are for her position. It will be one two month old. We’re able to pay $30 an hour for 40 hours a week. We have a housekeeper so no cleaning beyond baby stuff (laundry, keeping closets and drawers up to date, putting away toys and making fresh baby food/meals when she’s ready). We do want a fluent English speaker (reading and writing) with some college and experience.

I work from home and will feed the baby.

I have a real problem with anyone being late and needless drama. Reliability is paramount.

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Your baby is one month old. why does it matter that the nanny can write? I get reading...how about counting/math?

For all the labeling needed after the closets are organized of course.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’re hiring our first nanny in October and wondering what reasonable expectations are for her position. It will be one two month old. We’re able to pay $30 an hour for 40 hours a week. We have a housekeeper so no cleaning beyond baby stuff (laundry, keeping closets and drawers up to date, putting away toys and making fresh baby food/meals when she’s ready). We do want a fluent English speaker (reading and writing) with some college and experience.

I work from home and will feed the baby.

I have a real problem with anyone being late and needless drama. Reliability is paramount.

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Your baby is one month old. why does it matter that the nanny can write? I get reading...how about counting/math?

For all the labeling needed after the closets are organized of course.

DP. I want a nanny who can fluently read and write English so I don’t have to deal with someone who can’t navigate providing me with basic things like identification on an I9 or evidence of insurance for a health insurance stipend. I say this as someone who is not a native English speaker - foreign candidates have always had a million weird requests while young American candidates provide great childcare and do tons of extras like light housework and errands without asking provided the pay is right. For $26/hour, I’ve got a phenomenal nanny for 2 kids (super young and annoying ages) who organized my spice cabinet and told me which ones were expired the other day. Random, not expected (or really helpful haha) but there are people out there with initiative!