Reasonable expectations for a nanny.

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...also, dad works in the basement and that is where the laundry room is, and last thing he wants during his zoom meetings is his nanny to be a part of it, haha. It all makes sense.

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Nanny here- My rate is $30 when the parents go to the office, and $35/hr if they stay home. I will also only do temp jobs if the parents doesn’t go to an office. When the parents are home, we leave the house for most of the day.

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Anonymous wrote:to all PPs: you all seem to have reading comprehension problem! I was responding to a nanny who was talking about consolidating naps, and how she is running around organizing closets or whatever else she is doing, so I then said that I need those 2 hours of CHILD's nap to have my lunch, coffee break, and relaxation time, all to myself. No nap for me, just to calm ya' all down. Also, small tasks are completed during that time like taking care of our "outside" bag, and sorting through any wet swim clothes if any, etc. To all good nannies out there, the burn out is very, very real. Also, a lot depends on a child. Some are easier and don't mind playing by themselves while their nanny is forced to perform household tasks. Others do not nap much and at other times require all of you. Some families go through tough times and rather had their kid happily attached to a happy, long term nanny. Yes, I sometimes rock them to sleep. I have no time to "organize" the closet. Or maybe I am lucky with my employers.

If you need two full hours to sit down, snack and ‘recharge’ after ‘playing’ with an immobile two-month-old baby for 3hrs you are seriously just lazy. Even watching a 2 year old, who actually plays with toys and makes messes, there is more than enough time during a typical nap time to do some work and have a moment to relax.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, there will be no time for closets, etc, with 2 month old. It will be feedings, diaper changes, naps/rocking, and in those rare moments when baby is asleep for 45 min, you want your nanny to run and do laundry and stuff? so when the baby wakes up, she is already exhausted? I promise, best she will be able to do is to wash the dirty bottles she has used during the day, and picking up toys and stuff. There will be no time unless you are fine with baby crying while nanny calmly is organizing a closet, LOL

Bull pucky. BTDT, nannies who know what they're doing can do all of what OP wants.

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Anonymous wrote:Baby laundry seems like overkill, unless it’s a one-off diaper explosion or something.

Really? Our nanny has always done the kids laundry. She’s the one who set it as her responsibility.

Same. I'm the one who takes off the clothes, makes sure they're in the hamper, washes, dries, folds or hangs, and returns them to the dresser or closet. I'm also the one who pull the clothes instead of putting in the hamper if they're torn and pulls clothes which are stained or outgrown from the clean load. Finally, I box and ship or drop off consignments and I purchase as many or few of the kids' clothes as my employers prefer. I've never had a problem doing it, even when I was nannying for 7 kids.

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Anonymous wrote:...also, dad works in the basement and that is where the laundry room is, and last thing he wants during his zoom meetings is his nanny to be a part of it, haha. It all makes sense.

Well that makes sense but the rest of your posts scream “I’m lazy!” What are you going to do when your charge stops napping? Collapse from exhaustion?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, there will be no time for closets, etc, with 2 month old. It will be feedings, diaper changes, naps/rocking, and in those rare moments when baby is asleep for 45 min, you want your nanny to run and do laundry and stuff? so when the baby wakes up, she is already exhausted? I promise, best she will be able to do is to wash the dirty bottles she has used during the day, and picking up toys and stuff. There will be no time unless you are fine with baby crying while nanny calmly is organizing a closet, LOL

Bull pucky. BTDT, nannies who know what they're doing can do all of what OP wants.

Strongly agree. An experienced nanny can handle all of this with her eyes closed and one hand tied behind her back. Figuratively speaking.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, there will be no time for closets, etc, with 2 month old. It will be feedings, diaper changes, naps/rocking, and in those rare moments when baby is asleep for 45 min, you want your nanny to run and do laundry and stuff? so when the baby wakes up, she is already exhausted? I promise, best she will be able to do is to wash the dirty bottles she has used during the day, and picking up toys and stuff. There will be no time unless you are fine with baby crying while nanny calmly is organizing a closet, LOL

Nanny here. With a work-from-home mother handling all the feedings, it’s definitely doable. At two months old, they take a long time to feed.

+1 An efficient nanny should have no problem with the duties outlined, including laundry.

For real, that’s light work. I’ve nannied in the past and this would be no issue. Babies really don’t need to be rocked in your arms 8hrs a day and diapers and feedings are not insurmountable hurdles to getting chores them. In terms of easiness, give me a baby over a toddler any day of the week.

+1 I hate the time sitting around with infants. I only working with young infants if there are older siblings or it's twins, otherwise it's boring until about 6 months.

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I have 4 kids and have had different nannies when 2 of mine were young (we moved). All of ours have always done all of the kids laundry, dishes, etc. Of course they have time. They can also do tummy time or something while they fold. We have never had an issue. OP the only nanny I fired was over punctual issues. It’s infuriating when you are late for work bc the nanny is late. I’ve always had our nanny start time 15-30 minutes bc I need to leave bc that will usually pad for the emergency. Otherwise I’d put something in the contract. I’d also look broadly at what you will need in 12, 18, 24 months, etc. You seem only focused in the infant stage. Will you want the nanny to drive to activities? Will you provide a car?

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Anonymous wrote:to all PPs: you all seem to have reading comprehension problem! I was responding to a nanny who was talking about consolidating naps, and how she is running around organizing closets or whatever else she is doing, so I then said that I need those 2 hours of CHILD's nap to have my lunch, coffee break, and relaxation time, all to myself. No nap for me, just to calm ya' all down. Also, small tasks are completed during that time like taking care of our "outside" bag, and sorting through any wet swim clothes if any, etc. To all good nannies out there, the burn out is very, very real. Also, a lot depends on a child. Some are easier and don't mind playing by themselves while their nanny is forced to perform household tasks. Others do not nap much and at other times require all of you. Some families go through tough times and rather had their kid happily attached to a happy, long term nanny. Yes, I sometimes rock them to sleep. I have no time to "organize" the closet. Or maybe I am lucky with my employers.

I have never had a child play by themselves while I did chores. I have played "Which body part does this cover?" while folding and teaching/entertaining my charge. I've also read books while folding while the child rammed cars together.

OTOH, I prefer families of 3+ kids with at least one non-napper.

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...gosh, I do not have a 2 month old. The OP does. I have a 13 month old who just started walking. So, I am not lazy but it does take toll on you to be in the pool with baby for 1,5 hrs, so do not grudge me my well deserved afternoon rest. I also spend some time talking to parent, that would be another 10-15 min. And I keep baby diary. My employer does not want me to do any household tasks, i hope it is is OK with you all ladies.

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Anonymous wrote:I want those 2 hrs of nap for myself, haha. When am I supposed to have my lunch and relax and recharge? I am not a robot, and most parents understand that. I do put a lot of energy and thought into my childcare duties. Cannot imagine being used for simple physical tasks except very basic ones. After running at the playground, water play, etc, lunch, putting her to nap, quick clean up after lunch I think I do deserve the entire nap off!Never done any laundry or God forbids, closets.

It’s a 2 month old. And no one else gets a 2 hour lunch break on an 8-9 hour day, why should you?

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Anonymous wrote:...gosh, I do not have a 2 month old. The OP does. I have a 13 month old who just started walking. So, I am not lazy but it does take toll on you to be in the pool with baby for 1,5 hrs, so do not grudge me my well deserved afternoon rest. I also spend some time talking to parent, that would be another 10-15 min. And I keep baby diary. My employer does not want me to do any household tasks, i hope it is is OK with you all ladies.

I mean, you don’t sound particularly energetic or even that able bodied. I also go to the pool with my charges and am not knocked on my butt for hours from the exertion. Are you and the toddler doing laps? You are lucky that you found an employer with low standards who will accommodate this.

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Anonymous wrote:...gosh, I do not have a 2 month old. The OP does. I have a 13 month old who just started walking. So, I am not lazy but it does take toll on you to be in the pool with baby for 1,5 hrs, so do not grudge me my well deserved afternoon rest. I also spend some time talking to parent, that would be another 10-15 min. And I keep baby diary. My employer does not want me to do any household tasks, i hope it is is OK with you all ladies.

It’s fine that you don’t do child-related chores nor are expected to. What’s disturbing is that you feel you need a two hour rest. I’m an older nanny and I don’t with two charges -3.5 and 1.5. I don’t need an afternoon rest.

I honestly do think you need to get some blood work done, PP.