Can I ask a caregiver not to bring a specific nut to the playground?

[Anonymous]

I would be fine with someone asking me this and I would happily comply. But I don’t think it is going to do much. You cannot patrol everyone there.

[Anonymous]

I think you can mention the allergy, make sure your child does not share snacks, and ask that the other childs hands are wiped after eating.

That said, I low key think people who bring nuts as snacks out and about are d*cks. I thought that before I had a peanut allergic child (they grew out of it, yay!) and I still think it today. Nut allergy is sooo sooo sooo common and there are so many other foods out there.

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Anonymous wrote:Man, a lot of people on this board just do not care about others. Personally I would be happy to accommodate this request. No, the other person does not have an obligation to stop bringing the snack, but it's a fairly small thing one caretaker can do to make another a little less anxious. I don't think it's that big of a deal to ask.

it isnt about not caring, it is absolutely an ineffective way to reduce allergy exposure and gives allergy parents a false sense of control. nut free schools have more incidents compared to non-nut free schools because they rely on no nuts vs other mitigation techniques

Why can't it be both? It's easy enough to care for others and also help parents of young children learn to mitigate exposure. It's really not a big deal and the caretakers might get to know each other better.

nope sorry, your feel good feelings dont actually reduce risk. it makes parents and kids more comfortable and less diligent and thats where mistakes happen. Oh Carol I asked our baker about nuts for the cupcakes and they are nut free- not understanding that it has to be a nut free facility AND susie homemaker cupcakes were made in the same kitchen she made her kids PBJ that morning.

OP- if your son has a life threatening peanut allergy look into the allergy dogs that can sniff nuts, even trace amounts.

I don't understand why we are assuming OP will be less diligent. Can't parents be vigilant and also try to eliminate a known risk?

You can try but she is using a public playground and it is beyond norms/customs to ask another parent to stop bringing a certain snack. it doesnt make any sense and is illogical that only the snack she sees is a concern. this is 100% an example of people who dont understand risk- the same people worry about kidnapping but have a pool in their backyard.

I don't think it's true that it's only the snack she sees that is a concern, but this is one way to minimize the overall risk. I would be concerned about a kidnapper if the kidnapper is standing in front of me - that doesn't mean I don't also have a gate around the pool. God, this is a bad analogy.

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Anonymous wrote:Man, a lot of people on this board just do not care about others. Personally I would be happy to accommodate this request. No, the other person does not have an obligation to stop bringing the snack, but it's a fairly small thing one caretaker can do to make another a little less anxious. I don't think it's that big of a deal to ask.

it isnt about not caring, it is absolutely an ineffective way to reduce allergy exposure and gives allergy parents a false sense of control. nut free schools have more incidents compared to non-nut free schools because they rely on no nuts vs other mitigation techniques

Why can't it be both? It's easy enough to care for others and also help parents of young children learn to mitigate exposure. It's really not a big deal and the caretakers might get to know each other better.

nope sorry, your feel good feelings dont actually reduce risk. it makes parents and kids more comfortable and less diligent and thats where mistakes happen. Oh Carol I asked our baker about nuts for the cupcakes and they are nut free- not understanding that it has to be a nut free facility AND susie homemaker cupcakes were made in the same kitchen she made her kids PBJ that morning.

OP- if your son has a life threatening peanut allergy look into the allergy dogs that can sniff nuts, even trace amounts.

I don't understand why we are assuming OP will be less diligent. Can't parents be vigilant and also try to eliminate a known risk?

Op isn't being diligent. She suggests sharing someone else's snack!! I have never seen a parent of an allergy kid suggest such a thing without offering to bring the shared snack themselves.

It feels like op just wants to the fuss over having a kid with an allergy, but maybe isn't too concerned.

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Anonymous wrote:Man, a lot of people on this board just do not care about others. Personally I would be happy to accommodate this request. No, the other person does not have an obligation to stop bringing the snack, but it's a fairly small thing one caretaker can do to make another a little less anxious. I don't think it's that big of a deal to ask.

it isnt about not caring, it is absolutely an ineffective way to reduce allergy exposure and gives allergy parents a false sense of control. nut free schools have more incidents compared to non-nut free schools because they rely on no nuts vs other mitigation techniques

Why can't it be both? It's easy enough to care for others and also help parents of young children learn to mitigate exposure. It's really not a big deal and the caretakers might get to know each other better.

nope sorry, your feel good feelings dont actually reduce risk. it makes parents and kids more comfortable and less diligent and thats where mistakes happen. Oh Carol I asked our baker about nuts for the cupcakes and they are nut free- not understanding that it has to be a nut free facility AND susie homemaker cupcakes were made in the same kitchen she made her kids PBJ that morning.

OP- if your son has a life threatening peanut allergy look into the allergy dogs that can sniff nuts, even trace amounts.

You have a nasty attitude. Must be lonely to move through the world thinking that no one should help you or even deserves to help you.

If you cared so much you would eliminate all nuts from your diet now. Never have any in your home and never pack any for your kids. Just assume you can always be near someone who may have a nut allergy. Why wait to be asked? Don't you care?

My kids do not have allergies but I don't bring nut snacks to the playground. My kids obviously go to a nut free school so this isn't really a big deal. I also ask about allergies before playdates. So I know you're trying to be snarky, but I really do care.

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Anonymous wrote:Man, a lot of people on this board just do not care about others. Personally I would be happy to accommodate this request. No, the other person does not have an obligation to stop bringing the snack, but it's a fairly small thing one caretaker can do to make another a little less anxious. I don't think it's that big of a deal to ask.

it isnt about not caring, it is absolutely an ineffective way to reduce allergy exposure and gives allergy parents a false sense of control. nut free schools have more incidents compared to non-nut free schools because they rely on no nuts vs other mitigation techniques

Why can't it be both? It's easy enough to care for others and also help parents of young children learn to mitigate exposure. It's really not a big deal and the caretakers might get to know each other better.

nope sorry, your feel good feelings dont actually reduce risk. it makes parents and kids more comfortable and less diligent and thats where mistakes happen. Oh Carol I asked our baker about nuts for the cupcakes and they are nut free- not understanding that it has to be a nut free facility AND susie homemaker cupcakes were made in the same kitchen she made her kids PBJ that morning.

OP- if your son has a life threatening peanut allergy look into the allergy dogs that can sniff nuts, even trace amounts.

You have a nasty attitude. Must be lonely to move through the world thinking that no one should help you or even deserves to help you.

I have an attitude about people who think their feelings trump peer-reviewed research. I have an attitude when you tell me I am wrong even though my kid has an allergy and this is what was directed to us by our allergist. Help is not truly help is this case. It isnt loading groceries or assisting with a girl scout party- it is life-threatening so if you dont have the expertise of a physician or the experience of being an allergy parent you should take some notes and stop trying to hoist your "help" onto people.

Good lord, get a grip. No one said you were wrong or try to usurp your allergists' directions or even force kids to try their "peanut free snacks."

You make it seem like we don't agree with allergy research. Maybe reframe your perspective to see that parents do want to prevent harm from allergy exposure. Do you also respond this way when people set out "nut free" and non-candy bowls at Halloween?

yet again you think you can prevent harm- you cannot and you are not listening to allergy experienced parents. it is similar to talking over minorities when they tell you what is wrong and your like no no no you are just bitter, this is a better way- we are helping seeeeeee.

non-candy treats are not food but still a risk. most allergy parents buy safe food for their kids on halloween and let them trick-or-treat and then donate the candy they get and give them parent-selected items.

Oh now you're comparing yourself to an oppressed person's lived experience? That's really offensive and delusional. Get a grip.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you should mention it. As a mother, I’d want to know if someone we hung out with had an allergy like that - I’m a new mom so this is good to hear, otherwise I’d probably be the parent of the kid with a nut snack.

There's nothing wrong with nuts as a snack in public places or in any environment where they aren't specifically banned, like some daycares/schools. It's your job to provide your child with food, it's not your job to keep my kid safe. The only takeaway here is: make sure you never offer a kid food directly, ALWAYS ask the parent/caregiver first; and make sure your kid does not share snacks or offer snacks to other kid without checking with adults first.

Should also have kids wash hands well after eating nuts, before touching any play equipment. I had a coworker with a severe peanut allergy that had a reaction after someone brought in peanut butter cookies and staff were touching phones and computers without washing their hands first.

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Water, yes. But why do kids need snacks at the playground. They don't.

[Anonymous]

To answer your question, no, you cannot ask people to not bring foods. You can only control your family and your own child.

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Anonymous wrote:Man, a lot of people on this board just do not care about others. Personally I would be happy to accommodate this request. No, the other person does not have an obligation to stop bringing the snack, but it's a fairly small thing one caretaker can do to make another a little less anxious. I don't think it's that big of a deal to ask.

it isnt about not caring, it is absolutely an ineffective way to reduce allergy exposure and gives allergy parents a false sense of control. nut free schools have more incidents compared to non-nut free schools because they rely on no nuts vs other mitigation techniques

Why can't it be both? It's easy enough to care for others and also help parents of young children learn to mitigate exposure. It's really not a big deal and the caretakers might get to know each other better.

nope sorry, your feel good feelings dont actually reduce risk. it makes parents and kids more comfortable and less diligent and thats where mistakes happen. Oh Carol I asked our baker about nuts for the cupcakes and they are nut free- not understanding that it has to be a nut free facility AND susie homemaker cupcakes were made in the same kitchen she made her kids PBJ that morning.

OP- if your son has a life threatening peanut allergy look into the allergy dogs that can sniff nuts, even trace amounts.

You have a nasty attitude. Must be lonely to move through the world thinking that no one should help you or even deserves to help you.

If you cared so much you would eliminate all nuts from your diet now. Never have any in your home and never pack any for your kids. Just assume you can always be near someone who may have a nut allergy. Why wait to be asked? Don't you care?

My kids do not have allergies but I don't bring nut snacks to the playground. My kids obviously go to a nut free school so this isn't really a big deal. I also ask about allergies before playdates. So I know you're trying to be snarky, but I really do care.

When your kids eat nuts they can always leave residue behind. Ban nuts in your house to be extra safe. So they don’t bring it anywhere, ever. Its a small sacrifice, if you care.

[Anonymous]

Of course it's inappropriate to tell other people what to feed their children

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Anonymous wrote:DD is very allergic to one tree nut. A kid who comes approx daily to the playground we go to often has that nut in his snack. Both him and DD are under 3. Would it be unreasonable to ask the caregiver not to bring the nut?

Are you worried about that kid eating his snack and then touching playground equipment with nut residue on his hands and your daughter possibly having an allergic reaction? If so, why aren't you also worried that any kid who has been to the playground recently could have eaten nuts and touched equipment? Someone could've just left a minute before you arrived and touched playground equipment w/ nut residue on their hands and you wouldn't know. If this is your fear, I don't think it's reasonable to ask the caregiver not to bring the snack because if your daughter is so allergic that she could have a reaction just by touching something w/ nut residue on it, she probably shouldn't be going to any public playgrounds.

If you're asking because your daughter plays with this kid and you're worried about them touching each other or him breathing on her after eating his snack, I do think you could politely let the caregiver know about the allergy by saying "I saw that (other kid) just had nuts in his snack. (Daughter) is very allergic so unfortunately she can't play with ____if he's just been eating that." I don't think you can come right out and request they don't bring the snack anymore but if I were the caregiver and you let me know your daughter can't play w/ my kid if they've been eating that, I would definitely not bring that as a snack anymore and I'd make sure to clean their hands/face well after eating snacks.

If you're asking because your daughter and this other kid share snacks with each other, then it's simple: Just don't allow your kid to share snacks with any other kid. At her young age, you need to teach your daughter not to eat anything that anyone gives her unless you say it's OK. When she gets older you can talk about knowing what foods are safe or not, reading labels, etc. But for now she needs to understand that she is not allowed to share snacks w/ anyone unless you say it's OK.

[Anonymous]

If I was regularly attending a park at the same time as another child, I would not mind at all if their parent mentioned the allergy and I would be happy not to bring the snack.

In order to reduce the chance of developing an allergy, I was advised to regularly feed my child this peanut snack. It is not wrong of me to feed this to my child when we are out and about. I have an interest in preventing peanut allergy in my child. (I've actually only fed it to her once at a playground so I'm not doing it regularly - usually we don't need any snacks at the playground.)

So I don't agree that no one should have nut (legume) snacks out and about but I would be happy to accommodate any child where I was made aware of the allergy.

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Anonymous wrote:If I was regularly attending a park at the same time as another child, I would not mind at all if their parent mentioned the allergy and I would be happy not to bring the snack.

In order to reduce the chance of developing an allergy, I was advised to regularly feed my child this peanut snack. It is not wrong of me to feed this to my child when we are out and about. I have an interest in preventing peanut allergy in my child. (I've actually only fed it to her once at a playground so I'm not doing it regularly - usually we don't need any snacks at the playground.)

So I don't agree that no one should have nut (legume) snacks out and about but I would be happy to accommodate any child where I was made aware of the allergy.

Yes, it is wrong. As if you can't just feed your kid that particular snack in the comfort of your own home. Please.

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Anonymous wrote:Man, a lot of people on this board just do not care about others. Personally I would be happy to accommodate this request. No, the other person does not have an obligation to stop bringing the snack, but it's a fairly small thing one caretaker can do to make another a little less anxious. I don't think it's that big of a deal to ask.

it isnt about not caring, it is absolutely an ineffective way to reduce allergy exposure and gives allergy parents a false sense of control. nut free schools have more incidents compared to non-nut free schools because they rely on no nuts vs other mitigation techniques

Why can't it be both? It's easy enough to care for others and also help parents of young children learn to mitigate exposure. It's really not a big deal and the caretakers might get to know each other better.

nope sorry, your feel good feelings dont actually reduce risk. it makes parents and kids more comfortable and less diligent and thats where mistakes happen. Oh Carol I asked our baker about nuts for the cupcakes and they are nut free- not understanding that it has to be a nut free facility AND susie homemaker cupcakes were made in the same kitchen she made her kids PBJ that morning.

OP- if your son has a life threatening peanut allergy look into the allergy dogs that can sniff nuts, even trace amounts.

You have a nasty attitude. Must be lonely to move through the world thinking that no one should help you or even deserves to help you.

If you cared so much you would eliminate all nuts from your diet now. Never have any in your home and never pack any for your kids. Just assume you can always be near someone who may have a nut allergy. Why wait to be asked? Don't you care?

My kids do not have allergies but I don't bring nut snacks to the playground. My kids obviously go to a nut free school so this isn't really a big deal. I also ask about allergies before playdates. So I know you're trying to be snarky, but I really do care.

When your kids eat nuts they can always leave residue behind. Ban nuts in your house to be extra safe. So they don’t bring it anywhere, ever. Its a small sacrifice, if you care.

Spoken like someone looking to argue, that doesn’t actually have a kid with allergies. Nice try.