Can I ask a caregiver not to bring a specific nut to the playground?

[Anonymous]

I have a peanut allergy child, who, pre-SW Airlines banning nuts, had a residue reaction on the plane. He was fine. Residue really isn't that big of a deal. I think you are over reacting to it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man, a lot of people on this board just do not care about others. Personally I would be happy to accommodate this request. No, the other person does not have an obligation to stop bringing the snack, but it's a fairly small thing one caretaker can do to make another a little less anxious. I don't think it's that big of a deal to ask.

It’s not about a lack of empathy or altruism, necessarily. It’s whether the request would actually have an effect if the concern is peanut residue on equipment (as OP confirmed in an earlier post). The proper mitigation technique would be to police all snacks before or during the child’s playground date. That’s just not practical. So here, it really isn’t about true mitigation.

If it were an indoor play date, totally different scenario. Here, the best mitigation seems to be 1) tell child never to accept snacks 2) carry an epi-pen 3) regularly clean child’s hands and face.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man, a lot of people on this board just do not care about others. Personally I would be happy to accommodate this request. No, the other person does not have an obligation to stop bringing the snack, but it's a fairly small thing one caretaker can do to make another a little less anxious. I don't think it's that big of a deal to ask.

it isnt about not caring, it is absolutely an ineffective way to reduce allergy exposure and gives allergy parents a false sense of control. nut free schools have more incidents compared to non-nut free schools because they rely on no nuts vs other mitigation techniques

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi OP! I'm a generally nice and reasonable person, and if you mentioned your child's severe nut allergy to me, I'd very likely skip the nuts at the playground, NBD. I think it's all in how you approach it...don't make demands, acknowledge that it's totally on you to manage the allergy (which I'm sure you know, despite what others here seem to suggest), etc. It takes a village to keep our kids safe and healthy!

+1

I wouldn't give this request a second thought and just pack something else.

I've certainly had weirder playground interactions in the DC area than this!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man, a lot of people on this board just do not care about others. Personally I would be happy to accommodate this request. No, the other person does not have an obligation to stop bringing the snack, but it's a fairly small thing one caretaker can do to make another a little less anxious. I don't think it's that big of a deal to ask.

it isnt about not caring, it is absolutely an ineffective way to reduce allergy exposure and gives allergy parents a false sense of control. nut free schools have more incidents compared to non-nut free schools because they rely on no nuts vs other mitigation techniques

Why can't it be both? It's easy enough to care for others and also help parents of young children learn to mitigate exposure. It's really not a big deal and the caretakers might get to know each other better.

[Anonymous]

As a mom, I would want to know! It is not a big sacrifice for me to not give my kid a specific snack in one setting to prevent another kid from potentially having a life-threatening reaction. I want my kids to be considerate of others and lead with compassion and that starts with setting an example....

[Anonymous]

Idk how I would feel about it. It's weird. I don't know you and our kids are in a public space. And playgrounds are gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man, a lot of people on this board just do not care about others. Personally I would be happy to accommodate this request. No, the other person does not have an obligation to stop bringing the snack, but it's a fairly small thing one caretaker can do to make another a little less anxious. I don't think it's that big of a deal to ask.

it isnt about not caring, it is absolutely an ineffective way to reduce allergy exposure and gives allergy parents a false sense of control. nut free schools have more incidents compared to non-nut free schools because they rely on no nuts vs other mitigation techniques

Why can't it be both? It's easy enough to care for others and also help parents of young children learn to mitigate exposure. It's really not a big deal and the caretakers might get to know each other better.

nope sorry, your feel good feelings dont actually reduce risk. it makes parents and kids more comfortable and less diligent and thats where mistakes happen. Oh Carol I asked our baker about nuts for the cupcakes and they are nut free- not understanding that it has to be a nut free facility AND susie homemaker cupcakes were made in the same kitchen she made her kids PBJ that morning.

OP- if your son has a life threatening peanut allergy look into the allergy dogs that can sniff nuts, even trace amounts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So if a kid had nuts for a snack and departed 1 minute before you arrived, your kid could safely play on the playground equipment, Because Magic…but if this kid has a snack with nuts and then plays on the playground equipment, it is unsafe, Because Nuts?

-Mom of 2 nut allergy kids

Exactly this!

[Anonymous]

Yes, that would be unreasonable. Just go to a different playground or leave when that kid comes.

- mom of a kid with a variety of anaphylactic allergies including peanuts and tree nuts.

[Anonymous]

No, go at a different time.

[Anonymous]

I care about kids on playgrounds; it's just not reasonable to police everyone. In a kindergarten, sure. On school property, sure. On a public playground? You have no idea if a kid just smeared peanut butter all over the equipment, or whatever but the other child is allergic to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So if a kid had nuts for a snack and departed 1 minute before you arrived, your kid could safely play on the playground equipment, Because Magic…but if this kid has a snack with nuts and then plays on the playground equipment, it is unsafe, Because Nuts?

-Mom of 2 nut allergy kids

Exactly this!

NP. OP, I am genuinely curious: per the point above, do you like, wipe down all playground equipment before your kid uses it, in case someone else had a snack with nuts before you arrived? If not, then what is the point of asking this one family not to bring nuts? Are you prepared to go up to each and every adult and ask the same?

[Anonymous]

OP do I understand correctly that you *suggested* your child share a snack on the playground— as in something that was brought from the other child’s home?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man, a lot of people on this board just do not care about others. Personally I would be happy to accommodate this request. No, the other person does not have an obligation to stop bringing the snack, but it's a fairly small thing one caretaker can do to make another a little less anxious. I don't think it's that big of a deal to ask.

it isnt about not caring, it is absolutely an ineffective way to reduce allergy exposure and gives allergy parents a false sense of control. nut free schools have more incidents compared to non-nut free schools because they rely on no nuts vs other mitigation techniques

Why can't it be both? It's easy enough to care for others and also help parents of young children learn to mitigate exposure. It's really not a big deal and the caretakers might get to know each other better.

nope sorry, your feel good feelings dont actually reduce risk. it makes parents and kids more comfortable and less diligent and thats where mistakes happen. Oh Carol I asked our baker about nuts for the cupcakes and they are nut free- not understanding that it has to be a nut free facility AND susie homemaker cupcakes were made in the same kitchen she made her kids PBJ that morning.

OP- if your son has a life threatening peanut allergy look into the allergy dogs that can sniff nuts, even trace amounts.

You have a nasty attitude. Must be lonely to move through the world thinking that no one should help you or even deserves to help you.