Can I ask a caregiver not to bring a specific nut to the playground?

[Anonymous]

So if a kid had nuts for a snack and departed 1 minute before you arrived, your kid could safely play on the playground equipment, Because Magic…but if this kid has a snack with nuts and then plays on the playground equipment, it is unsafe, Because Nuts?

-Mom of 2 nut allergy kids

[Anonymous]

Unreasonable OP.

If it was a private playground that would be one thing, but at a public playground? You are taking your chances playing on the equipment whenever if a child if that allergic.

[Anonymous]

My son had an incredibly severe peanut allergy show up on bloodwork (for allergy moms, the number was like 27, when threshold for "severe allergy" was like, 1.8 or something. I forget the exact numbers but it was amazingly high). The catch was, he got that bloodwork due to a different allergy, and he had been a huge peanut butter eater since 6 months of age. The bloodwork was done around 12mo of age by his pediatrician. The advice of his allergist was 1) bloodwork for allergies in babies isn't very helpful, but 2) continue to feed him peanut butter or peanuts EVERY DAY until at least age 5 or 6, because he was high risk for developing an in vivo anaphylactic peanut allergy if his constant exposures were stopped.

So I packed him a PB sandwich for lunch and/or trail mix with peanuts every day, even if we were eating a picnic in the park instead of at home.

I obviously never let him share food or anything but I wasn't going to put my own child at risk by not feeding him peanut product as his allergist directed. So if some caregiver I didn't even know asked me to please stop feeding my kid a PB sandwich at the park because she also liked to use the park every day, I'd give her the side eye.

I'd also of course make sure to keep our food away from her child and I'd wipe my child's hands really well after his snack, because I don't want to hurt anyone, and I'd never let him eat food on the actual equipment regardless- we always ate on the benches outside of the play area- but no, I'm not changing my kid's daily lunch either, because I'm in charge of my kid's safety which includes giving him peanut, and you're in charge of your kid's safety which means avoiding peanut, and we both live in this world.

[Anonymous]

Sure you can ask. I would laugh in your face though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son had an incredibly severe peanut allergy show up on bloodwork (for allergy moms, the number was like 27, when threshold for "severe allergy" was like, 1.8 or something. I forget the exact numbers but it was amazingly high). The catch was, he got that bloodwork due to a different allergy, and he had been a huge peanut butter eater since 6 months of age. The bloodwork was done around 12mo of age by his pediatrician. The advice of his allergist was 1) bloodwork for allergies in babies isn't very helpful, but 2) continue to feed him peanut butter or peanuts EVERY DAY until at least age 5 or 6, because he was high risk for developing an in vivo anaphylactic peanut allergy if his constant exposures were stopped.

So I packed him a PB sandwich for lunch and/or trail mix with peanuts every day, even if we were eating a picnic in the park instead of at home.

I obviously never let him share food or anything but I wasn't going to put my own child at risk by not feeding him peanut product as his allergist directed. So if some caregiver I didn't even know asked me to please stop feeding my kid a PB sandwich at the park because she also liked to use the park every day, I'd give her the side eye.

I'd also of course make sure to keep our food away from her child and I'd wipe my child's hands really well after his snack, because I don't want to hurt anyone, and I'd never let him eat food on the actual equipment regardless- we always ate on the benches outside of the play area- but no, I'm not changing my kid's daily lunch either, because I'm in charge of my kid's safety which includes giving him peanut, and you're in charge of your kid's safety which means avoiding peanut, and we both live in this world.

You win the prize for the most ridiculous post. Your child's safety does not depend on serving them peanut butter at lunch vs. breakfast, dinner or snack.

Also trail mix with peanuts is a huge safety hazard for a kid the age that OP is talking about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids don’t have but alllergies. If another parent said something like “I’m sorry but my kid is really allergic to almonds. Could I ask you to have larlo wipe his hands after snack? I have wipes if you need them.” Unless my kid had restructured eating, I wouldn’t bring that snack any more after that.

Someone said something like this to me once and I was not offended at all and happy to accommodate

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son had an incredibly severe peanut allergy show up on bloodwork (for allergy moms, the number was like 27, when threshold for "severe allergy" was like, 1.8 or something. I forget the exact numbers but it was amazingly high). The catch was, he got that bloodwork due to a different allergy, and he had been a huge peanut butter eater since 6 months of age. The bloodwork was done around 12mo of age by his pediatrician. The advice of his allergist was 1) bloodwork for allergies in babies isn't very helpful, but 2) continue to feed him peanut butter or peanuts EVERY DAY until at least age 5 or 6, because he was high risk for developing an in vivo anaphylactic peanut allergy if his constant exposures were stopped.

So I packed him a PB sandwich for lunch and/or trail mix with peanuts every day, even if we were eating a picnic in the park instead of at home.

I obviously never let him share food or anything but I wasn't going to put my own child at risk by not feeding him peanut product as his allergist directed. So if some caregiver I didn't even know asked me to please stop feeding my kid a PB sandwich at the park because she also liked to use the park every day, I'd give her the side eye.

I'd also of course make sure to keep our food away from her child and I'd wipe my child's hands really well after his snack, because I don't want to hurt anyone, and I'd never let him eat food on the actual equipment regardless- we always ate on the benches outside of the play area- but no, I'm not changing my kid's daily lunch either, because I'm in charge of my kid's safety which includes giving him peanut, and you're in charge of your kid's safety which means avoiding peanut, and we both live in this world.

You win the prize for the most ridiculous post. Your child's safety does not depend on serving them peanut butter at lunch vs. breakfast, dinner or snack.

Also trail mix with peanuts is a huge safety hazard for a kid the age that OP is talking about.

And you know what? If i was going to my sister's house or something, and her child had a peanut allergy, I'd absolutely 100% change course and just give my kid a spoonful of peanut butter at bedtime when we got home or something. Of COURSE. But I'm not changing our routine around for some rando who approached me at the park and told me she wanted me to stop feeding my child a certain food.

And I don't care if i'm giving my child a food that is a safety hazard in terms of size/choking risk for OP's child, because... I'm not feeding OP's child I'm feeding my own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son had an incredibly severe peanut allergy show up on bloodwork (for allergy moms, the number was like 27, when threshold for "severe allergy" was like, 1.8 or something. I forget the exact numbers but it was amazingly high). The catch was, he got that bloodwork due to a different allergy, and he had been a huge peanut butter eater since 6 months of age. The bloodwork was done around 12mo of age by his pediatrician. The advice of his allergist was 1) bloodwork for allergies in babies isn't very helpful, but 2) continue to feed him peanut butter or peanuts EVERY DAY until at least age 5 or 6, because he was high risk for developing an in vivo anaphylactic peanut allergy if his constant exposures were stopped.

So I packed him a PB sandwich for lunch and/or trail mix with peanuts every day, even if we were eating a picnic in the park instead of at home.

I obviously never let him share food or anything but I wasn't going to put my own child at risk by not feeding him peanut product as his allergist directed. So if some caregiver I didn't even know asked me to please stop feeding my kid a PB sandwich at the park because she also liked to use the park every day, I'd give her the side eye.

I'd also of course make sure to keep our food away from her child and I'd wipe my child's hands really well after his snack, because I don't want to hurt anyone, and I'd never let him eat food on the actual equipment regardless- we always ate on the benches outside of the play area- but no, I'm not changing my kid's daily lunch either, because I'm in charge of my kid's safety which includes giving him peanut, and you're in charge of your kid's safety which means avoiding peanut, and we both live in this world.

You win the prize for the most ridiculous post. Your child's safety does not depend on serving them peanut butter at lunch vs. breakfast, dinner or snack.

Also trail mix with peanuts is a huge safety hazard for a kid the age that OP is talking about.

Now we can't bring small sized foods in public either, in case someone else's young toddler is in the same vicinity and might take our food from us and choke on it?

[Anonymous]

This is OP. Thanks for the responses. I posted because after my kid had an explained reaction, a family member suggested I ask the caregiver not to bring the nut. It sounded unreasonable but I wanted to check with others here, and most of you have confirmed that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son had an incredibly severe peanut allergy show up on bloodwork (for allergy moms, the number was like 27, when threshold for "severe allergy" was like, 1.8 or something. I forget the exact numbers but it was amazingly high). The catch was, he got that bloodwork due to a different allergy, and he had been a huge peanut butter eater since 6 months of age. The bloodwork was done around 12mo of age by his pediatrician. The advice of his allergist was 1) bloodwork for allergies in babies isn't very helpful, but 2) continue to feed him peanut butter or peanuts EVERY DAY until at least age 5 or 6, because he was high risk for developing an in vivo anaphylactic peanut allergy if his constant exposures were stopped.

So I packed him a PB sandwich for lunch and/or trail mix with peanuts every day, even if we were eating a picnic in the park instead of at home.

I obviously never let him share food or anything but I wasn't going to put my own child at risk by not feeding him peanut product as his allergist directed. So if some caregiver I didn't even know asked me to please stop feeding my kid a PB sandwich at the park because she also liked to use the park every day, I'd give her the side eye.

I'd also of course make sure to keep our food away from her child and I'd wipe my child's hands really well after his snack, because I don't want to hurt anyone, and I'd never let him eat food on the actual equipment regardless- we always ate on the benches outside of the play area- but no, I'm not changing my kid's daily lunch either, because I'm in charge of my kid's safety which includes giving him peanut, and you're in charge of your kid's safety which means avoiding peanut, and we both live in this world.

You win the prize for the most ridiculous post. Your child's safety does not depend on serving them peanut butter at lunch vs. breakfast, dinner or snack.

Also trail mix with peanuts is a huge safety hazard for a kid the age that OP is talking about.

Now we can't bring small sized foods in public either, in case someone else's young toddler is in the same vicinity and might take our food from us and choke on it?

PP said they brought it for their own child, who isn't immune to choking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son had an incredibly severe peanut allergy show up on bloodwork (for allergy moms, the number was like 27, when threshold for "severe allergy" was like, 1.8 or something. I forget the exact numbers but it was amazingly high). The catch was, he got that bloodwork due to a different allergy, and he had been a huge peanut butter eater since 6 months of age. The bloodwork was done around 12mo of age by his pediatrician. The advice of his allergist was 1) bloodwork for allergies in babies isn't very helpful, but 2) continue to feed him peanut butter or peanuts EVERY DAY until at least age 5 or 6, because he was high risk for developing an in vivo anaphylactic peanut allergy if his constant exposures were stopped.

So I packed him a PB sandwich for lunch and/or trail mix with peanuts every day, even if we were eating a picnic in the park instead of at home.

I obviously never let him share food or anything but I wasn't going to put my own child at risk by not feeding him peanut product as his allergist directed. So if some caregiver I didn't even know asked me to please stop feeding my kid a PB sandwich at the park because she also liked to use the park every day, I'd give her the side eye.

I'd also of course make sure to keep our food away from her child and I'd wipe my child's hands really well after his snack, because I don't want to hurt anyone, and I'd never let him eat food on the actual equipment regardless- we always ate on the benches outside of the play area- but no, I'm not changing my kid's daily lunch either, because I'm in charge of my kid's safety which includes giving him peanut, and you're in charge of your kid's safety which means avoiding peanut, and we both live in this world.

You win the prize for the most ridiculous post. Your child's safety does not depend on serving them peanut butter at lunch vs. breakfast, dinner or snack.

Also trail mix with peanuts is a huge safety hazard for a kid the age that OP is talking about.

Now we can't bring small sized foods in public either, in case someone else's young toddler is in the same vicinity and might take our food from us and choke on it?

PP said they brought it for their own child, who isn't immune to choking.

I'm that PP and my child is 5? I'm not concerned about him? But i'm also not concerned about someone else's baby choking on my 5 year old's snack who shouldnt be taking my 5 year old's snack to start with (especially if they have a food allergy)

[Anonymous]

From our experience. Reactions have happened due to kids playing together (laughing in each other's faces, touching with unwashed hands), rather than using the same playground equipment. I would probably ask the caregiver if she could wipe the kids hands after snack when they are playing together. My kids did react to peanut in my SIL's home but they eat peanut butter every single day and it's probably all over the house.

[Anonymous]

Man, a lot of people on this board just do not care about others. Personally I would be happy to accommodate this request. No, the other person does not have an obligation to stop bringing the snack, but it's a fairly small thing one caretaker can do to make another a little less anxious. I don't think it's that big of a deal to ask.

[Anonymous]

Hi OP! I'm a generally nice and reasonable person, and if you mentioned your child's severe nut allergy to me, I'd very likely skip the nuts at the playground, NBD. I think it's all in how you approach it...don't make demands, acknowledge that it's totally on you to manage the allergy (which I'm sure you know, despite what others here seem to suggest), etc. It takes a village to keep our kids safe and healthy!

[Anonymous]

Just mention the allergy and ask her to wipe the child's hands. She will likely voluntarily stop bringing the nuts at that point.