What's the worst thing your mom ever said/did to you?

[Anonymous]

When I was about 11 and sitting there normally eating a pizza she'd ordered for dinner, she told me "if you keep eating pizza like that you're going to have a heart attack by the time you're thirty!!"

Worst thing she did was abandon me by moving halfway across the country. That and the screaming...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gave me a copy of “Sarah, Plain and Tall.”

My name is Sarah and I am very tall.

I dont think this is cruel

You’re dense.

[Anonymous]

Most damaging? After I told her about the sexual abuse that had been happening from my stepfather for years, she told me a story about a sibling of hers that had lied about being abused and told me how she was raped as a teenager so probably I was lying and if I wasn’t, it wasn’t as bad as what happened to her.

[Anonymous]

When my young DD was diagnosed with autism, my mom got some water from Lourdes and applied it to her. Nothing happened and my mom said, “Well, it doesn’t work if YOU don’t believe.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my young DD was diagnosed with autism, my mom got some water from Lourdes and applied it to her. Nothing happened and my mom said, “Well, it doesn’t work if YOU don’t believe.”

Wtf? Aka it's your fault that your child is autistic????!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus these are cruel!

You do realize some parents are abusive, right?

My mom has BPD. She said a lot of stuff over the years. I’ve mostly repressed my childhood memories until about 3rd grade. I think the meanest thing she said was to my sister though. My sister invited her and our dad to her home for her child’s first birthday, not a big party, just cake and ice cream with my sister, her DH and their kids. My parents have social anxiety so they don’t go to parties. My mom said something like: no thanks, I only have 2 days left of my long weekend and I want to enjoy my time.

It fascinates me that a number of people here have mentioned that they don’t remember parts of their childhood.

My husband’s mother likely has BPD, and he remembers nothing about his childhood until junior high. His brother, though, remembers it all - reckless driving to scare them, chasing them around the house hitting them with a belt, getting mad and kicking them out of the car miles from their house so they had to make their own way back home as children, essentially neglecting them when she got a new boyfriend, screaming that they had ruined her life, etc.

I tease my husband about his really awful memory, but maybe it was a defense mechanism.

After we had kids my husband became depressed. His therapist thinks that being a parent brought up memories of his own miserable childhood, which triggered the depression. Therapy has helped.

I’m so sorry for everyone who had a toxic mother, especially since it can keep reverberating for years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my young DD was diagnosed with autism, my mom got some water from Lourdes and applied it to her. Nothing happened and my mom said, “Well, it doesn’t work if YOU don’t believe.”

Wtf? Aka it's your fault that your child is autistic????!!!!

Yes, didn’t need that guilt on top of everything else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gave me a copy of “Sarah, Plain and Tall.”

My name is Sarah and I am very tall.

I dont think this is cruel

You’re dense.

PP isn’t dense, you’re just the kind of person who goes out of their way to take offense at everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gave me a copy of “Sarah, Plain and Tall.”

My name is Sarah and I am very tall.

I dont think this is cruel

You’re dense.

PP isn’t dense, you’re just the kind of person who goes out of their way to take offense at everything.

Dp. The important thing to understand is that the original pp felt hurt when her mom gave her the book. We don't know how old she was or what her past treatment was, but she felt hurt. She remembers this as an adult. It is not going to hurt any less by you and others telling her she had no reason to be hurt. Feelings are weird that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gave me a copy of “Sarah, Plain and Tall.”

My name is Sarah and I am very tall.

I dont think this is cruel

You’re dense.

PP isn’t dense, you’re just the kind of person who goes out of their way to take offense at everything.

Mom? Did you pop in to finish the job?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gave me a copy of “Sarah, Plain and Tall.”

My name is Sarah and I am very tall.

I dont think this is cruel

You’re dense.

PP isn’t dense, you’re just the kind of person who goes out of their way to take offense at everything.

Mom? Did you pop in to finish the job?

Yes, it’s me. I’m here to finish the job of giving my daughter a popular book about a beloved character who was kind of tall.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gave me a copy of “Sarah, Plain and Tall.”

My name is Sarah and I am very tall.

I dont think this is cruel

You’re dense.

PP isn’t dense, you’re just the kind of person who goes out of their way to take offense at everything.

No, I was a DP but clearly you don’t get that being referred to as “plain” isn’t a compliment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gave me a copy of “Sarah, Plain and Tall.”

My name is Sarah and I am very tall.

I dont think this is cruel

You’re dense.

PP isn’t dense, you’re just the kind of person who goes out of their way to take offense at everything.

Mom? Did you pop in to finish the job?

Yes, it’s me. I’m here to finish the job of giving my daughter a popular book about a beloved character who was kind of tall.

It's funny you should post snarky, unsupportive things on a thread about abusive women. Even funnier that we, who were and continue to be hurt by our mothers, are here even knowing how abusive dcum can be. Maybe we thought we'd find support and commiseration. Maybe we thought no way anyone would question or taunt us for our feelings. Funny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gave me a copy of “Sarah, Plain and Tall.”

My name is Sarah and I am very tall.

I dont think this is cruel

You’re dense.

PP isn’t dense, you’re just the kind of person who goes out of their way to take offense at everything.

Mom? Did you pop in to finish the job?

Yes, it’s me. I’m here to finish the job of giving my daughter a popular book about a beloved character who was kind of tall.

It's funny you should post snarky, unsupportive things on a thread about abusive women. Even funnier that we, who were and continue to be hurt by our mothers, are here even knowing how abusive dcum can be. Maybe we thought we'd find support and commiseration. Maybe we thought no way anyone would question or taunt us for our feelings. Funny.

You’re right. And I’m sorry.

[Anonymous]

Blatantly favoring my sister and then trying to gaslight me when I pointed it out.