What's the worst thing your mom ever said/did to you?

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Inspired by the post about what's the worst thing another mom said to you.

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“You’re just lazy.” It has echoed in my head for decades. She got the big things right, and was a good mom, but that was not a good thing to say.

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“Daddy stopped laughing the day you were born.”

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She calls any type of anxiety or worrying “Smith-ing” (that’s not my father’s last name, but you get the idea).

Yes, my dad’s a worrier. So am I and so are my siblings. It’s anxiety, exacerbated by growing up with her being an alcoholic who rages and lies.

I recently told her, “I guess any time I lose my temper, I’m “Jones-ing,” huh?” Big smile. That didn’t go over well.

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“ you’re older and should know better” My brother was only 18 mos younger than me but could get away with anything and I got into trouble because I was “older” Not really a specific phrase, but downplaying my fears and concerns as being silly instead of acknowledging them. I would say something and she would say “ don’t be so silly Larla” which didn’t make anything better.

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encouraged me to sit in the sun because I "looked better with color", and tanning beds, and no sunscreen ever.

Im 39 and my skin is destroyed.

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I loved to read as a child and to punish me she would put my books in a trash bag and threaten to throw them out.

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When I shot up to over 5’10” she said “your sisters are petite. Men like that.”

I will hear that til the day I die.

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“That never happened.” Yes Mom, yes it did.

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You’re boring - I was sharing how poorly I was feeling during my first pregnancy and she clearly could not have cared less.

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"I thought you were going to be a doctor or a lawyer. Why are you a teacher instead?"

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Jesus these are cruel!

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In reference to her boyfriend who I didn’t like (I was 14 or 15 at the time): “if you’re trying to make me choose, I choose him.”

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Confided in me that she worried my dad might be an alcoholic—she was hiding liquor from him, told me about lots of concerning behavior. ***She asked me to talk to my dad about it.***

When I talked to my dad about what I observed, I mentioned that my mom was also concerned. She straight-up called me a liar and said I was hysterical.

My dad cut back on his drinking significantly, but never did seek formal help. He seems to be OK but if he does get worrisome again, I will only say anything if I witness anything directly, or hear it from like his best friend or my aunt or something. If my mom asks for my help again, I will tell her to go straight to hell.

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“You should get married while you’re still pretty.”

What an f-ed up thing to say.