My neighbor hosted her own daughter’s baby shower for her 2nd baby

[Anonymous]

I never knew about this weird "family can't host shower rule" until I came to the US and definitely this forum. In my family and community, it's not at all uncommon for family to host and it was never a second thought for me 🤷‍♀️

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A million people died in a pandemic and you’re still thinking about this ish?

Are you new here?

[Anonymous]

I’ve read all 6 pages and am 45, married and have two children. I never heard the “rule” that mother’s can’t host until this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve read all 6 pages and am 45, married and have two children. I never heard the “rule” that mother’s can’t host until this thread.

That doesn’t make it less valid, Pp.

[Anonymous]

OP...I hear you. Rule #2 on dcurbanmom.....argue a point unnecessarily. Always be devil's advocate. They like to argue and tell you you are wrong even if they secretly agree with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see anything wrong with that at all.

OP here. Well my own mother and grandmother are both dead. But I was always taught (and previous threads on here have confirmed that:

A - and immediately family member of the bride cannot host and
B - no showers after the first baby

Those aren't the rules anymore grandma. You probably also think people can't wear white before Memorial Day.

NP and no. I’m 27 and know it’s considered rude for mothers to host daughters baby and wedding showers. And absolutely no shower after first baby (or wedding).

It makes sense if you think about it. If your mother can afford to host a shower for you then she can also afford to get you what you need. After the first baby you should have the essentials.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe so many posters don’t see anything wrong with this! Guys, it’s rude and you’re being taken advantage of!

You get one baby shower for your first baby - that’s it, And your mother should not be the one hosting.

Our generation is getting a really unpleasant reputation as the Me, Me, Me Generation with our ridiculous Sprinkles, Gender Reveal parties, etc. Obvious gift grabs.

Having multiple parties is not the same thing as having one party that your mom hosts. It’s not 1950. Your mom or your sister can host your party.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe so many posters don’t see anything wrong with this! Guys, it’s rude and you’re being taken advantage of!

You get one baby shower for your first baby - that’s it, And your mother should not be the one hosting.

Our generation is getting a really unpleasant reputation as the Me, Me, Me Generation with our ridiculous Sprinkles, Gender Reveal parties, etc. Obvious gift grabs.

Having multiple parties is not the same thing as having one party that your mom hosts. It’s not 1950. Your mom or your sister can host your party.

+1

A party - yes. But not a shower.

[Anonymous]

I think it's absolutely fine for a mother or sister to host a baby shower! Why not!? In relieves any financial burden from friends.

I wouldn't expect friends to host a baby shower for a 2nd or 3rd baby. If family wants to host one, that's fine. I think they should set an expectation should be for more modest gifts (like books, as a PP suggested), with the main goal to celebrate the happy occasion. A mom having her 2nd or 3rd baby shouldn't need as much stuff anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see anything wrong with that at all.

OP here. Well my own mother and grandmother are both dead. But I was always taught (and previous threads on here have confirmed that:

A - and immediately family member of the bride cannot host and
B - no showers after the first baby

Those aren't the rules anymore grandma. You probably also think people can't wear white before Memorial Day.

NP and no. I’m 27 and know it’s considered rude for mothers to host daughters baby and wedding showers. And absolutely no shower after first baby (or wedding).

It makes sense if you think about it. If your mother can afford to host a shower for you then she can also afford to get you what you need. After the first baby you should have the essentials.

Showers are celebrations. They don't always have to have a practical get you what you need thing. Anyone who has ever received a baby bathrobe as a shower gift will know that.

Sorry no one cared enough about you to celebrate life changing events for you.

[Anonymous]

OP you sound bougie. I've never heard of this dumb rule.

[Anonymous]

Why do you care so much about what your neighbor is doing?

[Anonymous]

I think shower are stupid and I never go unless I have to. Do y’all even have fun at them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve read all 6 pages and am 45, married and have two children. I never heard the “rule” that mother’s can’t host until this thread.

I’m your age and have know that a long time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see anything wrong with that at all.

OP here. Well my own mother and grandmother are both dead. But I was always taught (and previous threads on here have confirmed that:

A - and immediately family member of the bride cannot host and
B - no showers after the first baby

Those aren't the rules anymore grandma. You probably also think people can't wear white before Memorial Day.

Found the leech!