My neighbor hosted her own daughter’s baby shower for her 2nd baby

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t see anything wrong with that at all.

OP here. Well my own mother and grandmother are both dead. But I was always taught (and previous threads on here have confirmed that:

A - and immediately family member of the bride cannot host and
B - no showers after the first baby

I guess I’m just a lowly middle class person, because most people that I know had a shower for each baby (it’s fun, why not?) and who cares if a relative hosts the party? I never heard any of those rules until reading DCUM.

These are not uncommon “rules” just because you never heard of them.

NP. Regardless of whether PP has heard of them, they are outdated. These rules are for people who need to fetch their smelling salts when someone wears white after Labor Day.

You don’t get to decide if it’s outdated. It is tacky, very tacky and a grab. Everyone with any sense knows that.

Sure I do. We all do, as a culture. And in 2022, the etiquette is no longer that your family cannot host your baby shower. Time to get over it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see anything wrong with that at all.

OP here. Well my own mother and grandmother are both dead. But I was always taught (and previous threads on here have confirmed that:

A - and immediately family member of the bride cannot host and
B - no showers after the first baby

In my culture, baby showers are hosted by immediate family member. Gifts are not important but MIL and Mom gives jewelry to the mom-to-be. Elaborate hot lunch or dinner is served to all after a religious ceremony. People avoid calling people who they will give bad vibes to the mom to be. Since you are being judge-y, you should certainly not go, because your negativity can harm the baby and the mom. Perhaps even the grandmother also, since you said that your own mom and grandmom are dead.

See how it works? In my culture, someone like you is inauspicious. At least that is what I was taught.

Your culture is irrelevant.

And you are an inauspicious jealous harpy. Shoo, shoo...go back in your sewer home, ugly!! Don't taint someone else's happiness.

Bless your heart. You’ve inadvertently discredited yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see anything wrong with that at all.

OP here. Well my own mother and grandmother are both dead. But I was always taught (and previous threads on here have confirmed that:

A - and immediately family member of the bride cannot host and
B - no showers after the first baby

Seems fine to me.

We have immediate family host them in our family. I guess it would be nice for another person to do it, but what if the person is a recent college grade and friends are scattered around the country? It's a lot of $$ to ask a young person to host for a friend.

Even if a young age isn't the case, there are loads of other reasons why an immediate family member could host.

As for second children, I don't care if someone wants to have a second shower. If they invite me, I can choose to attend or not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see anything wrong with that at all.

OP here. Well my own mother and grandmother are both dead. But I was always taught (and previous threads on here have confirmed that:

A - and immediately family member of the bride cannot host and
B - no showers after the first baby

I guess I’m just a lowly middle class person, because most people that I know had a shower for each baby (it’s fun, why not?) and who cares if a relative hosts the party? I never heard any of those rules until reading DCUM.

These are not uncommon “rules” just because you never heard of them.

NP. Regardless of whether PP has heard of them, they are outdated. These rules are for people who need to fetch their smelling salts when someone wears white after Labor Day.

You don’t get to decide if it’s outdated. It is tacky, very tacky and a grab. Everyone with any sense knows that.

Sure I do. We all do, as a culture. And in 2022, the etiquette is no longer that your family cannot host your baby shower. Time to get over it.

Nope. Time for you to get over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see anything wrong with that at all.

OP here. Well my own mother and grandmother are both dead. But I was always taught (and previous threads on here have confirmed that:

A - and immediately family member of the bride cannot host and
B - no showers after the first baby

Anyone who does this is a HORRIBLE MOTHER. 2nd and 3rd babies are equally deserving of nice thing. 1st borns shouldn't be raised into entitled pricks. Where is your neighbor registered? I want to send a gift just to spite the pompous older sibling syndrome. Not all firstborns are jerks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see anything wrong with that at all.

OP here. Well my own mother and grandmother are both dead. But I was always taught (and previous threads on here have confirmed that:

A - and immediately family member of the bride cannot host and
B - no showers after the first baby

In my culture, baby showers are hosted by immediate family member. Gifts are not important but MIL and Mom gives jewelry to the mom-to-be. Elaborate hot lunch or dinner is served to all after a religious ceremony. People avoid calling people who they will give bad vibes to the mom to be. Since you are being judge-y, you should certainly not go, because your negativity can harm the baby and the mom. Perhaps even the grandmother also, since you said that your own mom and grandmom are dead.

See how it works? In my culture, someone like you is inauspicious. At least that is what I was taught.

Your culture is irrelevant.

And you are an inauspicious jealous harpy. Shoo, shoo...go back in your sewer home, ugly!! Don't taint someone else's happiness.

NP-Is it also your culture one of low intelligence?

Can you interpret a graph, moron?


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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see anything wrong with that at all.

OP here. Well my own mother and grandmother are both dead. But I was always taught (and previous threads on here have confirmed that:

A - and immediately family member of the bride cannot host and
B - no showers after the first baby

I guess I’m just a lowly middle class person, because most people that I know had a shower for each baby (it’s fun, why not?) and who cares if a relative hosts the party? I never heard any of those rules until reading DCUM.

These are not uncommon “rules” just because you never heard of them.

NP. Regardless of whether PP has heard of them, they are outdated. These rules are for people who need to fetch their smelling salts when someone wears white after Labor Day.

You don’t get to decide if it’s outdated. It is tacky, very tacky and a grab. Everyone with any sense knows that.

Sure I do. We all do, as a culture. And in 2022, the etiquette is no longer that your family cannot host your baby shower. Time to get over it.

They can do it, no one ever said they can’t. That doesn’t make it not bad etiquette or any less tacky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And all I could think the whole time was “DCUM would absolutely die.”

That it is all. Just wanted to let you guys know how you invade my thoughts!

So, don't attend OP, that's all. You sound petty and immature.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see anything wrong with that at all.

OP here. Well my own mother and grandmother are both dead. But I was always taught (and previous threads on here have confirmed that:

A - and immediately family member of the bride cannot host and
B - no showers after the first baby

In my culture, baby showers are hosted by immediate family member. Gifts are not important but MIL and Mom gives jewelry to the mom-to-be. Elaborate hot lunch or dinner is served to all after a religious ceremony. People avoid calling people who they will give bad vibes to the mom to be. Since you are being judge-y, you should certainly not go, because your negativity can harm the baby and the mom. Perhaps even the grandmother also, since you said that your own mom and grandmom are dead.

See how it works? In my culture, someone like you is inauspicious. At least that is what I was taught.

Your culture is irrelevant.

And you are an inauspicious jealous harpy. Shoo, shoo...go back in your sewer home, ugly!! Don't taint someone else's happiness.

NP-Is it also your culture one of low intelligence?

Can you interpret a graph, moron?


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Feeling the need to send that only cemented how poor your intellect is.

[Anonymous]

1) Why do you care?

2) How do you even know this?

3) How does it affect you?

4) See #1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see anything wrong with that at all.

OP here. Well my own mother and grandmother are both dead. But I was always taught (and previous threads on here have confirmed that:

A - and immediately family member of the bride cannot host and
B - no showers after the first baby

In my culture, baby showers are hosted by immediate family member. Gifts are not important but MIL and Mom gives jewelry to the mom-to-be. Elaborate hot lunch or dinner is served to all after a religious ceremony. People avoid calling people who they will give bad vibes to the mom to be. Since you are being judge-y, you should certainly not go, because your negativity can harm the baby and the mom. Perhaps even the grandmother also, since you said that your own mom and grandmom are dead.

See how it works? In my culture, someone like you is inauspicious. At least that is what I was taught.

Your culture is irrelevant.

And you are an inauspicious jealous harpy. Shoo, shoo...go back in your sewer home, ugly!! Don't taint someone else's happiness.

NP-Is it also your culture one of low intelligence?

Can you interpret a graph, moron?


Find more statistics at Statista

Feeling the need to send that only cemented how poor your intellect is.

+1. Desperation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see anything wrong with that at all.

OP here. Well my own mother and grandmother are both dead. But I was always taught (and previous threads on here have confirmed that:

A - and immediately family member of the bride cannot host and
B - no showers after the first baby

Anyone who does this is a HORRIBLE MOTHER. 2nd and 3rd babies are equally deserving of nice thing. 1st borns shouldn't be raised into entitled pricks. Where is your neighbor registered? I want to send a gift just to spite the pompous older sibling syndrome. Not all firstborns are jerks.

So you can’t afford to buy your second and third kid nice things? Why did you have them?

And very few newborns see themselves as particularly entitled, you idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see anything wrong with that at all.

OP here. Well my own mother and grandmother are both dead. But I was always taught (and previous threads on here have confirmed that:

A - and immediately family member of the bride cannot host and
B - no showers after the first baby

I guess I’m just a lowly middle class person, because most people that I know had a shower for each baby (it’s fun, why not?) and who cares if a relative hosts the party? I never heard any of those rules until reading DCUM.

These are not uncommon “rules” just because you never heard of them.

NP. Regardless of whether PP has heard of them, they are outdated. These rules are for people who need to fetch their smelling salts when someone wears white after Labor Day.

You don’t get to decide if it’s outdated. It is tacky, very tacky and a grab. Everyone with any sense knows that.

Sure I do. We all do, as a culture. And in 2022, the etiquette is no longer that your family cannot host your baby shower. Time to get over it.

But clearly as a culture we have not deemed it okay for family to throw the shower. Look at the comments. Many people will judge your family as tacky and greedy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see anything wrong with that at all.

OP here. Well my own mother and grandmother are both dead. But I was always taught (and previous threads on here have confirmed that:

A - and immediately family member of the bride cannot host and
B - no showers after the first baby

Those aren't the rules anymore grandma. You probably also think people can't wear white before Memorial Day.

[Anonymous]

As long as I'm not the one expected to host, I really don't care who hosts what.