I hate Mother’s Day

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What if you make the Saturday before Mother's day YOUR mother's day and do all the things you want and then you can celebrate your mom/MIL on the actual day? For me, it doesnt HAVE to be on sunday, I just want a day where I get to do all the things I want.

How about we just let Mother's day celebrate those doing the hard work of raising kids in their home. How about our moms and MILs pass the baton and celebrate the daughters who brought them grandchildren. How about they be grateful when we still wish them a Happy Mother's Day instead of kvetching that you can never do enough to appreciate them.

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OP here. EXACTLY. And what I intend to do for my daughter when she's a mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What if you make the Saturday before Mother's day YOUR mother's day and do all the things you want and then you can celebrate your mom/MIL on the actual day? For me, it doesnt HAVE to be on sunday, I just want a day where I get to do all the things I want.

How about we just let Mother's day celebrate those doing the hard work of raising kids in their home. How about our moms and MILs pass the baton and celebrate the daughters who brought them grandchildren. How about they be grateful when we still wish them a Happy Mother's Day instead of kvetching that you can never do enough to appreciate them.

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OP here. EXACTLY. And what I intend to do for my daughter when she's a mom.

+1

The grandmas I make exception for are the ones doing the hard work raising their grandkids. They get celebrated. Other grandmothers? Take a seat.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Its so freeing to get old (42), have older kids (tweens and teens), and be married a long time (18 years). I truly just don't GAF about the actual day of mother's day. So we spend the day with my local inlaws every year. (My mom is dead.) Sometime in the week or so before, I get myself a massage and a mani-pedi, buy some new spring clothes, and have DH go with me to a favorite restaurant. He doesn't have to disappoint his petulant immature guilt-tripping mother, and I score points for being the most understanding wife ever.

It takes so much less energy to just not care.

I’m a younger mom and I also don’t care much about Mother’s Day. I get a massage, facial, and mani-pedi once a month. I don’t need it to be that particular Sunday. I also feel appreciated by my husband and kids year-round. If I didn’t then yeah, maybe I’d make a big deal of it.

I find people who make a fuss about these things to be quite immature, whether they’re old or young. Who cares?

You're very fortunate.

And tone deaf. To deem others less fortunate than you as immature for making a fuss, it reeks of "let them eat cake."

It is immature. If they don’t have time to do the personal things they want, and they feel unappreciated in general, they should DO something about that. Not just obsess over one random day in May.

I guess it’s similar to how poor people make a big fuss over birthday presents and Christmas presents. Rich people can afford to give an expensive present every day of the year so they’re like, okay whatever, let’s do some nominal presents and go to Hawaii.

[Anonymous]

I can’t imagine a mature adult getting pissy about this at any age - 30, 40, 70. It’s just a day. If your life is so terrible you should work on that every day, not just this one day.