Has every cheater you met been trashy?

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Anonymous wrote:Usually the people that think they aren’t being cheated on or my parents have always been faithful are the ones being cheated on, as well. I think most people cheat but like someone said, that the cheaters that don’t get caught, tell no one.

Yes. I was one of them in a very happy, hot sex marriage. I even was on this board saying my spouse would never cheat. Friends and families saw us as that rare couple that were best friends, chemistry, and both good looking. He came off as a doting husband and family man. An honest person.

Well- damn. Blindsided. He fooled a lot of people. Devastated many as well. Some who still won’t talk to him.

How'd you catch him? Short version

He confessed because he’s still amaze just like her, and then she lost her shit here and accused everyone on the forum of being his Ashley Madison whore, who is trashy, naturellement, with a dumb husband unlike her big winner husband who she couldn’t help but forgive….

I read it three times and I really tried but I don't understand your answer

PP has posted this horseshit constantly for 2 years about her DH and how blindsided she was, I saved her some typing. Carry on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sure people used to get away with cheating. Like everything else our lives are becoming more and more public.

But technology has also made it much easier. And there are so many ways to talk and message that don’t show up on a phone or phone bill. With the Internet, SAHMs that used to have no opportunity to find a partner- do online.

More people do it and more options for cheating so it’s just more rampant and when you do more of something there is just more opportunity as well to find out. More opportunity for both people

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I like my women a little on the trashy side…

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Anonymous wrote:Did you think JFK was trashy? And Clinton? And General Petraeus? Lots and lot of people have cheat- from every socioeconomic level and background. From WASP to trailer park. From car salesman to President.

Actually, yes, I think all three are trashy. I still like Clinton though, he has lots of charisma even as an older man, so I can see why he can get away with it. Was probably the case with JFK too.

JFK had more charisma than Clinton ever dreamed of having. Clinton worshiped JFK and his behavior was probably an attempt to emulate his idol. JFK got away with his womanizing because so many people loved him and his family so much back then, and of course the press was compliant in covering for those in power.

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No, they were very courteous and kind, as well as witty. But damaged in multiple ways (childhood trauma, etc).

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I’m not trashy at all. Quite the opposite. Very courteous and well respected by friends and in my profession. I dress modestly and I always have. Judge the behavior if you will but from the outside I’m a very normal person and the last person anyone would ever suspect.

[Anonymous]

From what I've seen, it's the behavior the cheater engages in while cheating or carrying on an affair that's often astoundingly trashy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From what I've seen, it's the behavior the cheater engages in while cheating or carrying on an affair that's often astoundingly trashy.

Yep

[Anonymous]

I’m not trashy at all. Quite the opposite. Very courteous and well respected by friends and in my profession. I dress modestly and I always have. Judge the behavior if you will but from the outside I’m a very normal person and the last person anyone would ever suspect.

Hahaha. You are deluding yourself. There is absolutely no way your character defect is limited to just cheating on your spouse - it shows up elsewhere in your life and people notice. You might think you aren’t trashy because the outside package isn’t obvious, but when the core is rotten the bruises eventually show on the outside.

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Anonymous wrote:My dad cheated on my mom during business trips but no, I would not consider him trashy. He was more of a nerdy computer science type.

Bill Gates was a nerd cheater. I think he's disgusting and slimy. A lot of those Epstein clients were degenerates, like your dad.

Bezos and his broad are definitely trashy. Her all over Leo DiCaprio and her multiple affairs--yuck.

The married women cheaters I know were all trashy at parties (even the upscale ones). They gave off the I'll blow you under the table vibes and acted much like Sanchez if there was a ''high value' man around--even in front of their husbands or if it was a co-worker or friend's husband.

+1. Nerdy has nothing to do with being trashy. Above examples of nerds being slimy are good ones.

I think nerdy guys cheating later in life kinda makes sense to me. They’re pretty much invisible to women when they’re younger and they’re a little behind the curve socially speaking. As they age their interpersonal skills improve, plus they experience success, plus they’re smart which women start to care about later in life. Suddenly, they’re not as invisible as they’ve been all their lives and someone actually wants them. Meanwhile, their wives got to experience all the dating and sex they wanted in their younger years and were pretty much over it by
the time they got married.

Gates was actually trying to cheat with women since probably way before 2008 with women who worked under him but he had to be told to stop at some point. He would send them flirty emails and such.

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I’m not trashy at all. Quite the opposite. Very courteous and well respected by friends and in my profession. I dress modestly and I always have. Judge the behavior if you will but from the outside I’m a very normal person and the last person anyone would ever suspect.

Hahaha. You are deluding yourself. There is absolutely no way your character defect is limited to just cheating on your spouse - it shows up elsewhere in your life and people notice. You might think you aren’t trashy because the outside package isn’t obvious, but when the core is rotten the bruises eventually show on the outside.

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“The last person anyone would ever suspect.”

Wtf. These cheaters wear it like a badge of honor.

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Anonymous wrote:Did you think JFK was trashy? And Clinton? And General Petraeus? Lots and lot of people have cheat- from every socioeconomic level and background. From WASP to trailer park. From car salesman to President.

I think all of them are scumbags. And Clinton was from a trailer park.

Really? You are using poverty as a way to judge people. This says so much about your character.

[Anonymous]

This is such a stupid question. Yes, it is not ideal behavior. Yes, it is a character flaw. No, it does not impact their success in life, typically. No, you can’t tell by looking at them. No, you have no idea how many people actually cheat.
Who cares. If it isn’t your marriage, stay out of it.

[Anonymous]

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I’m not trashy at all. Quite the opposite. Very courteous and well respected by friends and in my profession. I dress modestly and I always have. Judge the behavior if you will but from the outside I’m a very normal person and the last person anyone would ever suspect.

Hahaha. You are deluding yourself. There is absolutely no way your character defect is limited to just cheating on your spouse - it shows up elsewhere in your life and people notice. You might think you aren’t trashy because the outside package isn’t obvious, but when the core is rotten the bruises eventually show on the outside.

Yes. Cheaters have something deeply wrong with them. It prevents them from correctly perceiving themselves (which can be a challenge even for the well adjusted). They see their cheating as an exception, not indicative of who they are.

I mean, you have to believe that right? Understanding that you are truly a terrible person would be too mentally damaging.

[Anonymous]

Not at all. They are just extremely flawed, damaged, or mentally ill in a way that makes them justify hurting others. So obviously not people I’d want to associate with. But not trashy. I’m actually fine with trashy.