Is it a phase? Elder LGBTQ – post your thoughts please

[Anonymous]

How about this: people are free now to be and explore who they are. Growing up, it’s not that I didn’t have friends who were LGBTQA+…it’s that none of them felt STAFE ENOUGH to be and explore who they were, including my brother.

VERY slowly, a few friends have come out over the years, including my brother. And I have two friends who are bisexual but have happened to end up married to men and have babies, so you wouldn’t necessarily know they were bisexual unless it came up in conversation, which it only really would with close friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How about this: people are free now to be and explore who they are. Growing up, it’s not that I didn’t have friends who were LGBTQA+…it’s that none of them felt STAFE ENOUGH to be and explore who they were, including my brother.

VERY slowly, a few friends have come out over the years, including my brother. And I have two friends who are bisexual but have happened to end up married to men and have babies, so you wouldn’t necessarily know they were bisexual unless it came up in conversation, which it only really would with close friends.

It’s good that people are feeling more free.

That does not account for the % of self identified queer and trans among young people today.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about this: people are free now to be and explore who they are. Growing up, it’s not that I didn’t have friends who were LGBTQA+…it’s that none of them felt STAFE ENOUGH to be and explore who they were, including my brother.

VERY slowly, a few friends have come out over the years, including my brother. And I have two friends who are bisexual but have happened to end up married to men and have babies, so you wouldn’t necessarily know they were bisexual unless it came up in conversation, which it only really would with close friends.

It’s good that people are feeling more free.

That does not account for the % of self identified queer and trans among young people today.

So you’ve never heard of the Kinsey scale?

I’m straight, married to a man, two kids, good sex life, regular sex. I’ve only ever had sexual encounters with men.

I’ve kissed a few girls, and in the right circumstances (pre-marriage), I might have done more. You can label me how you want, but *I* label me as straight. I’m educated enough to know about the Kinsey Scale. You might want to read up on that. Plus, there are countless stories out there about people who were straight—until oops, they fell in love with the neighbor or whatever. Life is not linear, sexuality is not rigid, get with the times.

[Anonymous]

I knew I was gay at 11 but didn’t come out till I was 24 because I lived in a conservative Christian area with conservative Christian parents and coming out wasn’t a safe choice.

I’m glad most kids now feel safe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about this: people are free now to be and explore who they are. Growing up, it’s not that I didn’t have friends who were LGBTQA+…it’s that none of them felt STAFE ENOUGH to be and explore who they were, including my brother.

VERY slowly, a few friends have come out over the years, including my brother. And I have two friends who are bisexual but have happened to end up married to men and have babies, so you wouldn’t necessarily know they were bisexual unless it came up in conversation, which it only really would with close friends.

It’s good that people are feeling more free.

That does not account for the % of self identified queer and trans among young people today.

So you’ve never heard of the Kinsey scale?

I’m straight, married to a man, two kids, good sex life, regular sex. I’ve only ever had sexual encounters with men.

I’ve kissed a few girls, and in the right circumstances (pre-marriage), I might have done more. You can label me how you want, but *I* label me as straight. I’m educated enough to know about the Kinsey Scale. You might want to read up on that. Plus, there are countless stories out there about people who were straight—until oops, they fell in love with the neighbor or whatever. Life is not linear, sexuality is not rigid, get with the times.

Of course I’ve heard of the Kinsey scale.
It’s also important to note that much of Kinsey’s work is BS.
I’m also a lesbian.
But no, 25-40% people are not queer.
Maybe women in particular are more flexible because during human evolution, women got pregnant and gave birth pretty much regardless of what their sexual orientation was, but some adapted to challenges (men being killed off during a battle or killed by saber tooth tiger, etc) by forming pair-bonds with other women who helped raise the children. But it doesn’t mean that most women aren’t primarily attracted to men.

[Anonymous]

I find things today to be so much easier than it was in the 90s. I personally wasn’t interested in dating or sex until I was in my 30s, yet the pressure to date and be sexual was so intense. If I were a teen today, I could say I’m ace and be done with it. I wasn’t ace forever— but I was ace in my teens and twenties, and that’s what’s cool about this new “world.” You can use the label that applies to you now, knowing that it doesn’t have to be forever.