What is the minimum salary you'd date?

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Anonymous wrote:Woman - make 200k+, I would date someone who makes $80k with limited debt, or upwards of $100k with "regular" debt (student loans/mortgage/healthcare). It's probably more tied to education level than money, I likely wouldn't date someone without a college degree. I don't want to support someone -but as long as they pay an income-proportionate share of expenses, I don't care. I am a single parent of young kids and prefer to date other single parents of younger kids, so I assume that most of our $$$ is going to kid stuff, anyway. It goes without saying that I would never ever date a man who doesn't provide for his kids.

how a man can provide for his kids on 80K income in DC? How would you date him, if your travel, entertainment options would be so limited (and lower than that you are accustomed to) because of that proportionate share of expenses?

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Anonymous wrote:Woman: $300K if he's older than 50, around 200K if he's closer to 40. I am 44, my own income is $250K

serious question but doesn’t that kind of limit you to doctors, corporate lawyers and hedge fund traders? I work for a non profit making 130k and I didn’t realize I am considered low income by folks around here. Yes 300k is easier but I also have a decent house, which while no McLean mega mansion is a good house in a nice neighborhood, with a manageable mortgage. I also drive used cars, don’t spend money on luxury items etc. good thing I’m not single because clearly I couldn’t get a date with any DC women because clearly that isn’t enough.

These people worship mammon. It's no surprise the country's going to hell in an handbasket.

No - these people worship hard work and egalitarian marriage. Plus here on dcurbanmom it's the mature (many older than 40 y.o) women living in high COLA area. They make 200K but its not "wealthy" by DC standards in any way.

I can see a man who is making 120K and lives in a lower COLA area marrying someone from his town, and living happily. Of marrying someone younger with good earning potential (if there is a younger woman interested). But a mature woman from DC with established income and assets won't be a good match for him.

teachers don’t work hard? Nurses don’t work hard?

Many nurses make close to 200K which would be fine for me, but I would probably encourage my nurse boyfriend to move higher to better paid nursing specialties or discuss making good investments. Not sure if school teacher is a good match for me. I am not oriented to have more kids and in my view the main benefit a man working as a teacher can bring into family is "leading" with taking care of kids. And yes,I do think male teachers do not work as hard as I do: my work day ends at 5.30pm, then I do homework with my child, cook, spend quality parenting time etc. After 9pm I have to work on my "side business", often making procurements, responding to tenants inquiries, visiting real estate locations etc.
Teachers also have a super long summer break which is their choice of a lifestyle. It doesn't need to be my choice to co-finance that lifestyle

get a clue will you?

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$176,300.

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Anonymous wrote:Woman: $300K if he's older than 50, around 200K if he's closer to 40. I am 44, my own income is $250K

serious question but doesn’t that kind of limit you to doctors, corporate lawyers and hedge fund traders? I work for a non profit making 130k and I didn’t realize I am considered low income by folks around here. Yes 300k is easier but I also have a decent house, which while no McLean mega mansion is a good house in a nice neighborhood, with a manageable mortgage. I also drive used cars, don’t spend money on luxury items etc. good thing I’m not single because clearly I couldn’t get a date with any DC women because clearly that isn’t enough.

These people worship mammon. It's no surprise the country's going to hell in an handbasket.

No - these people worship hard work and egalitarian marriage. Plus here on dcurbanmom it's the mature (many older than 40 y.o) women living in high COLA area. They make 200K but its not "wealthy" by DC standards in any way.

I can see a man who is making 120K and lives in a lower COLA area marrying someone from his town, and living happily. Of marrying someone younger with good earning potential (if there is a younger woman interested). But a mature woman from DC with established income and assets won't be a good match for him.

teachers don’t work hard? Nurses don’t work hard?

Many nurses make close to 200K which would be fine for me, but I would probably encourage my nurse boyfriend to move higher to better paid nursing specialties or discuss making good investments. Not sure if school teacher is a good match for me. I am not oriented to have more kids and in my view the main benefit a man working as a teacher can bring into family is "leading" with taking care of kids. And yes,I do think male teachers do not work as hard as I do: my work day ends at 5.30pm, then I do homework with my child, cook, spend quality parenting time etc. After 9pm I have to work on my "side business", often making procurements, responding to tenants inquiries, visiting real estate locations etc.
Teachers also have a super long summer break which is their choice of a lifestyle. It doesn't need to be my choice to co-finance that lifestyle

get a clue will you?

As I said, I am not fully fluent in English making close to 300K so your get a clue is not entirely clear to me. What's clear is I would avoid certain types of man who are not the same energy as I am and prefer to be teachers on long summer breaks. They can marry other teachers

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Try to factor in future earning potential. I know it's super nerdy and risk averse DC, but not everyone is born as a 45 year old law firm partner.

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Anonymous wrote:Try to factor in future earning potential. I know it's super nerdy and risk averse DC, but not everyone is born as a 45 year old law firm partner.

Of course expectations depend on the age: if this is under 30 y.o. making 80k/year and still repaying student loans, this is totally fine. But we are talking about mature people dating here, e.g. mid 30s-40s right?

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Woman here, looking for someone who makes 20% more than me, which puts him in the 300k range.

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Am I mistaken, or not? It seems that women start making more in DC vs men. Is there any statistics? It would be normal to expect, given girls study better in HS and college, and are no longer bound by conservative marriage values of giving up their careers for family

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Now, I ain't sayin' she a gold digger
(When I'm in need) But she ain't messin' with no broke fellas

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Anonymous wrote:Am I mistaken, or not? It seems that women start making more in DC vs men. Is there any statistics? It would be normal to expect, given girls study better in HS and college, and are no longer bound by conservative marriage values of giving up their careers for family

Most men want their partner to work nowadays.

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six thousand rubles monthly, that was my first salary out of school.

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Anonymous wrote:Woman: $300K if he's older than 50, around 200K if he's closer to 40. I am 44, my own income is $250K

serious question but doesn’t that kind of limit you to doctors, corporate lawyers and hedge fund traders? I work for a non profit making 130k and I didn’t realize I am considered low income by folks around here. Yes 300k is easier but I also have a decent house, which while no McLean mega mansion is a good house in a nice neighborhood, with a manageable mortgage. I also drive used cars, don’t spend money on luxury items etc. good thing I’m not single because clearly I couldn’t get a date with any DC women because clearly that isn’t enough.

These people worship mammon. It's no surprise the country's going to hell in an handbasket.

No - these people worship hard work and egalitarian marriage. Plus here on dcurbanmom it's the mature (many older than 40 y.o) women living in high COLA area. They make 200K but its not "wealthy" by DC standards in any way.

I can see a man who is making 120K and lives in a lower COLA area marrying someone from his town, and living happily. Of marrying someone younger with good earning potential (if there is a younger woman interested). But a mature woman from DC with established income and assets won't be a good match for him.

teachers don’t work hard? Nurses don’t work hard?

no it’s the assumption that teachers don’t work hard. Most teachers get summer jobs. Yes teachers don’t make her much that’s a fact. Just don’t say they don’t bust their asses every day.

Many nurses make close to 200K which would be fine for me, but I would probably encourage my nurse boyfriend to move higher to better paid nursing specialties or discuss making good investments. Not sure if school teacher is a good match for me. I am not oriented to have more kids and in my view the main benefit a man working as a teacher can bring into family is "leading" with taking care of kids. And yes,I do think male teachers do not work as hard as I do: my work day ends at 5.30pm, then I do homework with my child, cook, spend quality parenting time etc. After 9pm I have to work on my "side business", often making procurements, responding to tenants inquiries, visiting real estate locations etc.
Teachers also have a super long summer break which is their choice of a lifestyle. It doesn't need to be my choice to co-finance that lifestyle

get a clue will you?

As I said, I am not fully fluent in English making close to 300K so your get a clue is not entirely clear to me. What's clear is I would avoid certain types of man who are not the same energy as I am and prefer to be teachers on long summer breaks. They can marry other teachers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:six thousand rubles monthly, that was my first salary out of school.

Hi, sister:0) glad you are doing well, too

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Who are all this women who have an abundance of dating choices that they get to filter out by salary? Do women in DC metro have that many options these days?

It wasn't like that in the 2000s when I was dating. I married a man in 2008 who made $65K. We now make HHI $600k.

You know that you can date and marry someone that you love, and then grow together, right? No wonder everyone is so miserable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who are all this women who have an abundance of dating choices that they get to filter out by salary? Do women in DC metro have that many options these days?

It wasn't like that in the 2000s when I was dating. I married a man in 2008 who made $65K. We now make HHI $600k.

You know that you can date and marry someone that you love, and then grow together, right? No wonder everyone is so miserable.

How old were you in 2008? These women don't have abundance of dating choices, they just dont want to make poor life choices that would make them even more miserable. It's easy to destroy someone's financial stability in divorce if you joined finances and then become a mooch.

I would rather not date at all than dating someone who is 50 y.o. and makes 60k/year. This is a huge red flag about that person intelligence, goal setting, financial planning, social skills etc.