Professional couples are on the rise, but it’s not increasing income inequality

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Anonymous wrote:What a bizarre final comment you make about marriage. How does being alone help women??

Well, as a single mom making $300, I can guarantee I have far less arguments about how I’m spending my money or child raising decisions than 99.9% of married people. (Not, op).

I live in McLean and I never run into women like you.

Because you are old and live in one of those old ranchers. There are plenty of successful, single moms at Longfellow making this or more. For those who can't imagine a woman in her 30s making a high salary, you need to leave Woodbridge more. A 25 year old computer system engineer makes around 200K. A lawyer makes at least 300K. I'm a fed at a fin agency and I make over 200K. My single friend at Amazon makes 400. My H is a VP of sales in biotech and his top sales person is a woman in Atlanta making 600K.

So if you have a middle school student and in your 30s, you were a young mom. I have a middle school student and I’m 43 and I feel like one of the young moms. I also have a kid in preschool. You are a super young mom.

I am not trying to put you down but 200k is low in McLean. Sorry.

Another dumb one. Read my post slowly. Slowly. I'm not in my 30s. And I love my salary and flexibility, after spending years in IB. And some of us don't even have to work, not because we have to desperately cling on some a** husband, but because we have family money.

I just came on here to say I respect single moms because it must be hard. It is hard enough with a partner.

It is hard to parent a middle school student. I just dropped him off to an activity. I am able to do this at 2:30 because I don’t work.

I used to work and I loved working. I had a flexible job but it wasn’t flexible enough.

I have many different friends. Most of my friends work. Most of my friends from college and grad school all work. I will probably also go back to work. Some are divorced and I don’t think it is easy for any of them.

You are the one who insulted the pp.

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Anonymous wrote:I love how those nuts bring teen pregnancy rates in discussion. Teen pregnancy rates are at a historic lows and represent a minuscule number of live births. I'm more concerned about the SAH, religious breeders who keep popping tons of kids until their uterus is at their knees. Those are the problem, not successful single moms.

Why do these successful single women need to pop out a kid at all? Why not be happy and childless? Why not be happy with their career? Why choose loser men to have children with?

maybe they want a kid? Maybe they don't want a or need a man telling them what to do? There are tons of reasons.

Exactly - why are we policing women's bodies/fertility/happiness?

No one is policing anyone. There was a single mom or moms who acted superior to married.

I am married with 3 kids. My kids are well liked and have a lot of friends. I will happily include their friends from any family background.

Dh is an amazing dad and provider. To insult him and me because we are married is ridiculous.

I think part of your bias/baggage is asserting that someone is "acting superior" ipso facto because she is happy and successful in a life different than yours.

Ding ding ding. This poster takes everything as a personal attack.

Yes. I'm happily married, we're both trust funders, we make a great income and I DNGAF about what other women do and I don't feel superior because I'm married or because my grandfather made a lot of money for us. It was just luck that I found a great guy in college and that I was born in the right family, not some special skill.
I have the single friend who did IVF at 43, I have gay couple friends who adopted an infant girl addicted to opioids prior to the marriage equality law, one woman who has a kid with a rich married man and doesn't work anymore. I'm not superior to any of them just because I have a marriage certificate. I'm European and this whole American obsession with marriage is a relic from the 50s. It's just a sham so that the SAHMs can collect social security.

I’m pp. a pp single mom was boasting that she earned 300k and she didn’t have to deal with a husband.

I don’t think her position is enviable. That is all.

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DP here. We live in McLean and I have a kid at Cooper. We live in an expensive neighborhood. Our house is $3m and most of the areas in our immediate neighborhood around Cooper/Langley are $2-5m.

I do not know any single moms. I do know several divorced and blended families. Dad is in the picture and we usually have a relationship with both parents. I usually text or email both the mom and dad when making plans or coordinating with the kids.

And we know plenty of high earning women. I used to be a high earning mom but I am now a sahm with 3 kids. Dh recently reminded me that I spend 10-20k on my Amex every month. I spend more now than when I actually worked.

I know there are mothers by choice but I don’t personally know any in our friend circles. In preschool, we knew one mom who was single. I never knew or asked where the dad was but she was a true single mom. She eventually moved to be closer to her family.

Please share what you spend 10-12k on monthly in McLean, I for one am enjoying these details and find them relevant.

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DP here. We live in McLean and I have a kid at Cooper. We live in an expensive neighborhood. Our house is $3m and most of the areas in our immediate neighborhood around Cooper/Langley are $2-5m.

I do not know any single moms. I do know several divorced and blended families. Dad is in the picture and we usually have a relationship with both parents. I usually text or email both the mom and dad when making plans or coordinating with the kids.

And we know plenty of high earning women. I used to be a high earning mom but I am now a sahm with 3 kids. Dh recently reminded me that I spend 10-20k on my Amex every month. I spend more now than when I actually worked.

I know there are mothers by choice but I don’t personally know any in our friend circles. In preschool, we knew one mom who was single. I never knew or asked where the dad was but she was a true single mom. She eventually moved to be closer to her family.

Please share what you spend 10-12k on monthly in McLean, I for one am enjoying these details and find them relevant.

We spend a lot on travel. Winter break was probably 20k. I just booked spring break and one summer camp for each kid.

I also just signed up my kids for spring sports and it cost a few grand each kid.

Trying to figure out our summer plans. We will travel half. Friend just sent us a camp that costs $5k.

We eat high quality foods so probably spend 2-3k on food. It all adds up.

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Anonymous wrote:I love how those nuts bring teen pregnancy rates in discussion. Teen pregnancy rates are at a historic lows and represent a minuscule number of live births. I'm more concerned about the SAH, religious breeders who keep popping tons of kids until their uterus is at their knees. Those are the problem, not successful single moms.

Why do these successful single women need to pop out a kid at all? Why not be happy and childless? Why not be happy with their career? Why choose loser men to have children with?

maybe they want a kid? Maybe they don't want a or need a man telling them what to do? There are tons of reasons.

Exactly - why are we policing women's bodies/fertility/happiness?

No one is policing anyone. There was a single mom or moms who acted superior to married.

I am married with 3 kids. My kids are well liked and have a lot of friends. I will happily include their friends from any family background.

Dh is an amazing dad and provider. To insult him and me because we are married is ridiculous.

I think part of your bias/baggage is asserting that someone is "acting superior" ipso facto because she is happy and successful in a life different than yours.

Ding ding ding. This poster takes everything as a personal attack.

Yes. I'm happily married, we're both trust funders, we make a great income and I DNGAF about what other women do and I don't feel superior because I'm married or because my grandfather made a lot of money for us. It was just luck that I found a great guy in college and that I was born in the right family, not some special skill.
I have the single friend who did IVF at 43, I have gay couple friends who adopted an infant girl addicted to opioids prior to the marriage equality law, one woman who has a kid with a rich married man and doesn't work anymore. I'm not superior to any of them just because I have a marriage certificate. I'm European and this whole American obsession with marriage is a relic from the 50s. It's just a sham so that the SAHMs can collect social security.

I’m pp. a pp single mom was boasting that she earned 300k and she didn’t have to deal with a husband.

I don’t think her position is enviable. That is all.

But it works for her. She doesn't make decisions based on what would create envy in others. Doing things to please others or make others envy you just shows that one is insecure and needs external validation. Weak people, basically.

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DP here. We live in McLean and I have a kid at Cooper. We live in an expensive neighborhood. Our house is $3m and most of the areas in our immediate neighborhood around Cooper/Langley are $2-5m.

I do not know any single moms. I do know several divorced and blended families. Dad is in the picture and we usually have a relationship with both parents. I usually text or email both the mom and dad when making plans or coordinating with the kids.

And we know plenty of high earning women. I used to be a high earning mom but I am now a sahm with 3 kids. Dh recently reminded me that I spend 10-20k on my Amex every month. I spend more now than when I actually worked.

I know there are mothers by choice but I don’t personally know any in our friend circles. In preschool, we knew one mom who was single. I never knew or asked where the dad was but she was a true single mom. She eventually moved to be closer to her family.

Please share what you spend 10-12k on monthly in McLean, I for one am enjoying these details and find them relevant.

We spend a lot on travel. Winter break was probably 20k. I just booked spring break and one summer camp for each kid.

I also just signed up my kids for spring sports and it cost a few grand each kid.

Trying to figure out our summer plans. We will travel half. Friend just sent us a camp that costs $5k.

We eat high quality foods so probably spend 2-3k on food. It all adds up.

This is so pathetic new money.

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Pp here. We are actually pretty low key people. We do travel a lot. Most people we know go away for winter, spring and summer.

I am able to travel longer in the summer because I don’t work.

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DP here. We live in McLean and I have a kid at Cooper. We live in an expensive neighborhood. Our house is $3m and most of the areas in our immediate neighborhood around Cooper/Langley are $2-5m.

I do not know any single moms. I do know several divorced and blended families. Dad is in the picture and we usually have a relationship with both parents. I usually text or email both the mom and dad when making plans or coordinating with the kids.

And we know plenty of high earning women. I used to be a high earning mom but I am now a sahm with 3 kids. Dh recently reminded me that I spend 10-20k on my Amex every month. I spend more now than when I actually worked.

I know there are mothers by choice but I don’t personally know any in our friend circles. In preschool, we knew one mom who was single. I never knew or asked where the dad was but she was a true single mom. She eventually moved to be closer to her family.

Please share what you spend 10-12k on monthly in McLean, I for one am enjoying these details and find them relevant.

We spend a lot on travel. Winter break was probably 20k. I just booked spring break and one summer camp for each kid.

I also just signed up my kids for spring sports and it cost a few grand each kid.

Trying to figure out our summer plans. We will travel half. Friend just sent us a camp that costs $5k.

We eat high quality foods so probably spend 2-3k on food. It all adds up.

This is so pathetic new money.

Obvi plastic surgery, laser hair removal, vaginal tightening, PRP injections, fillers, cool sculpting, , Marie Kondo/Home Edit-y thingies, etc.

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DP here. We live in McLean and I have a kid at Cooper. We live in an expensive neighborhood. Our house is $3m and most of the areas in our immediate neighborhood around Cooper/Langley are $2-5m.

I do not know any single moms. I do know several divorced and blended families. Dad is in the picture and we usually have a relationship with both parents. I usually text or email both the mom and dad when making plans or coordinating with the kids.

And we know plenty of high earning women. I used to be a high earning mom but I am now a sahm with 3 kids. Dh recently reminded me that I spend 10-20k on my Amex every month. I spend more now than when I actually worked.

I know there are mothers by choice but I don’t personally know any in our friend circles. In preschool, we knew one mom who was single. I never knew or asked where the dad was but she was a true single mom. She eventually moved to be closer to her family.

Please share what you spend 10-12k on monthly in McLean, I for one am enjoying these details and find them relevant.

We spend a lot on travel. Winter break was probably 20k. I just booked spring break and one summer camp for each kid.

I also just signed up my kids for spring sports and it cost a few grand each kid.

Trying to figure out our summer plans. We will travel half. Friend just sent us a camp that costs $5k.

We eat high quality foods so probably spend 2-3k on food. It all adds up.

This is so pathetic new money.

Obvi plastic surgery, laser hair removal, vaginal tightening, PRP injections, fillers, cool sculpting, , Marie Kondo/Home Edit-y thingies, etc.

How would old money spend money?

Do old money kids not travel or play sports?

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I feel like people who make over $500k a year and under $50k a year need their own categories. There is a middle class range and these people don't live in the middle class.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like people who make over $500k a year and under $50k a year need their own categories. There is a middle class range and these people don't live in the middle class.

In my world actually over $300k is considered extremely rich, but this is DCUM so I increased the cap on the middle class.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like people who make over $500k a year and under $50k a year need their own categories. There is a middle class range and these people don't live in the middle class.

In my world actually over $300k is considered extremely rich, but this is DCUM so I increased the cap on the middle class.

That is why the single moms making 200-300k thought they were better off than married moms but the rich SAHMs came attacking the proud single moms.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like people who make over $500k a year and under $50k a year need their own categories. There is a middle class range and these people don't live in the middle class.

In my world actually over $300k is considered extremely rich, but this is DCUM so I increased the cap on the middle class.

That is why the single moms making 200-300k thought they were better off than married moms but the rich SAHMs came attacking the proud single moms.

First world problems.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like people who make over $500k a year and under $50k a year need their own categories. There is a middle class range and these people don't live in the middle class.

Everyone on DCUM earns over 500k.

Haven’t you read about all the struggling people earning 300k?

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DP here. We live in McLean and I have a kid at Cooper. We live in an expensive neighborhood. Our house is $3m and most of the areas in our immediate neighborhood around Cooper/Langley are $2-5m.

I do not know any single moms. I do know several divorced and blended families. Dad is in the picture and we usually have a relationship with both parents. I usually text or email both the mom and dad when making plans or coordinating with the kids.

And we know plenty of high earning women. I used to be a high earning mom but I am now a sahm with 3 kids. Dh recently reminded me that I spend 10-20k on my Amex every month. I spend more now than when I actually worked.

I know there are mothers by choice but I don’t personally know any in our friend circles. In preschool, we knew one mom who was single. I never knew or asked where the dad was but she was a true single mom. She eventually moved to be closer to her family.

Please share what you spend 10-12k on monthly in McLean, I for one am enjoying these details and find them relevant.

We spend a lot on travel. Winter break was probably 20k. I just booked spring break and one summer camp for each kid.

I also just signed up my kids for spring sports and it cost a few grand each kid.

Trying to figure out our summer plans. We will travel half. Friend just sent us a camp that costs $5k.

We eat high quality foods so probably spend 2-3k on food. It all adds up.

This is so pathetic new money.

Obvi plastic surgery, laser hair removal, vaginal tightening, PRP injections, fillers, cool sculpting, , Marie Kondo/Home Edit-y thingies, etc.

How would old money spend money?

Do old money kids not travel or play sports?

We do, but we don't say omg I'm spending 3K on quality foods every month. It's kind of a given and it's not truly 3K, unless one has a ton of kids. To me, it means that you were not raised on quality foods. Also, the vacations are a give away. We barely spend $ on vacations, because we have a house in Breckenridge and my ILs have a huge house in Sanibel. When we go to Europe we stay at my brother's place in Paris or in Greece.
And I disagree about the plastic surgery part. My mom and her friends all have facelifts, the 85K ones that don't look like facelifts, and they leave some wrinkles for "character". No need for lipo or cool sculpting, because they don't eat. Carolina Herrera is their goddess.