Professional couples are on the rise, but it’s not increasing income inequality

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Anonymous wrote:What a bizarre final comment you make about marriage. How does being alone help women??

Well, as a single mom making $300, I can guarantee I have far less arguments about how I’m spending my money or child raising decisions than 99.9% of married people. (Not, op).

I live in McLean and I never run into women like you.

Because you are old and live in one of those old ranchers. There are plenty of successful, single moms at Longfellow making this or more. For those who can't imagine a woman in her 30s making a high salary, you need to leave Woodbridge more. A 25 year old computer system engineer makes around 200K. A lawyer makes at least 300K. I'm a fed at a fin agency and I make over 200K. My single friend at Amazon makes 400. My H is a VP of sales in biotech and his top sales person is a woman in Atlanta making 600K.

So if you have a middle school student and in your 30s, you were a young mom. I have a middle school student and I’m 43 and I feel like one of the young moms. I also have a kid in preschool. You are a super young mom.

I am not trying to put you down but 200k is low in McLean. Sorry.

Another dumb one. Read my post slowly. Slowly. I'm not in my 30s. And I love my salary and flexibility, after spending years in IB. And some of us don't even have to work, not because we have to desperately cling on some a** husband, but because we have family money.

Does your child have any relationship with the father?
Are you divorced? Is the dad in the picture at all.

You seem to have a lot of misplaced anger.

There are a 1000 kids at Cooper and 1300 kids at Longfellow. I am sure there are single moms. I just don’t know any. I do know many divorced moms.

Huh??? Divorced mothers are single mothers. The majority of divorced mothers get primary custody of the children and the parenting primarily falls on them.

Signed,
someone raised by a divorced mother.

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage is not a perfect solution but a great solution for lots of societal issues.

+1

+1000

The three of you sound so pathetic.

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Anonymous wrote:What a bizarre final comment you make about marriage. How does being alone help women??

Well, as a single mom making $300, I can guarantee I have far less arguments about how I’m spending my money or child raising decisions than 99.9% of married people. (Not, op).

I live in McLean and I never run into women like you.

Because you are old and live in one of those old ranchers. There are plenty of successful, single moms at Longfellow making this or more. For those who can't imagine a woman in her 30s making a high salary, you need to leave Woodbridge more. A 25 year old computer system engineer makes around 200K. A lawyer makes at least 300K. I'm a fed at a fin agency and I make over 200K. My single friend at Amazon makes 400. My H is a VP of sales in biotech and his top sales person is a woman in Atlanta making 600K.

So if you have a middle school student and in your 30s, you were a young mom. I have a middle school student and I’m 43 and I feel like one of the young moms. I also have a kid in preschool. You are a super young mom.

I am not trying to put you down but 200k is low in McLean. Sorry.

Another dumb one. Read my post slowly. Slowly. I'm not in my 30s. And I love my salary and flexibility, after spending years in IB. And some of us don't even have to work, not because we have to desperately cling on some a** husband, but because we have family money.

Does your child have any relationship with the father?
Are you divorced? Is the dad in the picture at all.

You seem to have a lot of misplaced anger.

There are a 1000 kids at Cooper and 1300 kids at Longfellow. I am sure there are single moms. I just don’t know any. I do know many divorced moms.

One of our kids is in med school, the other one is in college and yes, he's downstairs folding clothes and watching Netflix. Also paying their tuition. There are plenty of single moms in McLean, they were probably avoiding your judgmental a**, that's why you don't know any.

So your ex is in your basement? And paying their tuition.

I think there are a lot of different single moms and married moms posting on here.

I have several divorced friends. I do not judge them. We offer each other support because we are friends.

The pp was a jerk first acting high and almighty putting married people down. Then saying how she earns so much when it wasn’t that much. Then she said she had a trust fund so she didn’t need to depend on a man.

Girl, you need major help and SAT course in reading comprehension. I wrote before that he's my H (look above), so yes, he lives in the house. Also, we don't have a basement, we're on a 3 level house. Just because I know several single moms who are successful and happy (imagine that!), it doesn't mean that I'm putting married people down. We're simply not better than them just because we're married.
And I'm going to repeat something else that will absolutely blow your mind - there are some married women, out there in the wild, who don't have to depend on their H for money. They make enough, they have inheritance, they have low expenses etc. They are independent. It's a great feeling, I recommend that you should try to get there in your lifetime.

I am not sure who you are yelling at. Why are you so angry? I have divorced friends, married friends, never married single friends.

I responded to this thread while waiting for my kid and I keep clicking on it. I don’t like these long threads. I don’t read everything and it is hard to follow who is who.

Maybe you are also confusing me with someone else.

Good night. Sorry if my skimming a random DCUM thread while in a parking lot upset you.

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Anonymous wrote:What a bizarre final comment you make about marriage. How does being alone help women??

Well, as a single mom making $300, I can guarantee I have far less arguments about how I’m spending my money or child raising decisions than 99.9% of married people. (Not, op).

I live in McLean and I never run into women like you.

Because you are old and live in one of those old ranchers. There are plenty of successful, single moms at Longfellow making this or more. For those who can't imagine a woman in her 30s making a high salary, you need to leave Woodbridge more. A 25 year old computer system engineer makes around 200K. A lawyer makes at least 300K. I'm a fed at a fin agency and I make over 200K. My single friend at Amazon makes 400. My H is a VP of sales in biotech and his top sales person is a woman in Atlanta making 600K.

So if you have a middle school student and in your 30s, you were a young mom. I have a middle school student and I’m 43 and I feel like one of the young moms. I also have a kid in preschool. You are a super young mom.

I am not trying to put you down but 200k is low in McLean. Sorry.

Another dumb one. Read my post slowly. Slowly. I'm not in my 30s. And I love my salary and flexibility, after spending years in IB. And some of us don't even have to work, not because we have to desperately cling on some a** husband, but because we have family money.

Does your child have any relationship with the father?
Are you divorced? Is the dad in the picture at all.

You seem to have a lot of misplaced anger.

There are a 1000 kids at Cooper and 1300 kids at Longfellow. I am sure there are single moms. I just don’t know any. I do know many divorced moms.

Huh??? Divorced mothers are single mothers. The majority of divorced mothers get primary custody of the children and the parenting primarily falls on them.

Signed,
someone raised by a divorced mother.

I thought a single mom was a mom who was raising a child by herself.

The families we know share custody so the dad is present and has 50% custody.

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I used to have this coworker who constantly played victim of being a single mom. She had a live in boyfriend of 5+ years and the ex had 50% custody.

I had a husband who was deployed. I couldn’t help but think she had 2 guys to help her out with her kids. I didn’t think it was exactly single parenting.

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How would old money spend money?

Do old money kids not travel or play sports?


We do, but we don't say omg I'm spending 3K on quality foods every month. It's kind of a given and it's not truly 3K, unless one has a ton of kids. To me, it means that you were not raised on quality foods. Also, the vacations are a give away. We barely spend $ on vacations, because we have a house in Breckenridge and my ILs have a huge house in Sanibel. When we go to Europe we stay at my brother's place in Paris or in Greece.
And I disagree about the plastic surgery part. My mom and her friends all have facelifts, the 85K ones that don't look like facelifts, and they leave some wrinkles for "character". No need for lipo or cool sculpting, because they don't eat. Carolina Herrera is their goddess.

NP. Who is “we?” Do you speak for a group of people who all have “old” money (such a ridiculous term)? It’s beyond ironic that you responded to a post you clearly found gauche and then outdid that PP in gaucheness by a lot. Please don’t voice the thoughts you wrote out loud to anyone - I promise it doesn’t come across like you think it does.

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Anonymous wrote:What a bizarre final comment you make about marriage. How does being alone help women??

Well, as a single mom making $300, I can guarantee I have far less arguments about how I’m spending my money or child raising decisions than 99.9% of married people. (Not, op).

I live in McLean and I never run into women like you.

Because you are old and live in one of those old ranchers. There are plenty of successful, single moms at Longfellow making this or more. For those who can't imagine a woman in her 30s making a high salary, you need to leave Woodbridge more. A 25 year old computer system engineer makes around 200K. A lawyer makes at least 300K. I'm a fed at a fin agency and I make over 200K. My single friend at Amazon makes 400. My H is a VP of sales in biotech and his top sales person is a woman in Atlanta making 600K.

So if you have a middle school student and in your 30s, you were a young mom. I have a middle school student and I’m 43 and I feel like one of the young moms. I also have a kid in preschool. You are a super young mom.

I am not trying to put you down but 200k is low in McLean. Sorry.

Another dumb one. Read my post slowly. Slowly. I'm not in my 30s. And I love my salary and flexibility, after spending years in IB. And some of us don't even have to work, not because we have to desperately cling on some a** husband, but because we have family money.

Does your child have any relationship with the father?
Are you divorced? Is the dad in the picture at all.

You seem to have a lot of misplaced anger.

There are a 1000 kids at Cooper and 1300 kids at Longfellow. I am sure there are single moms. I just don’t know any. I do know many divorced moms.

Huh??? Divorced mothers are single mothers. The majority of divorced mothers get primary custody of the children and the parenting primarily falls on them.

Signed,
someone raised by a divorced mother.

I thought a single mom was a mom who was raising a child by herself.

The families we know share custody so the dad is present and has 50% custody.

A divorced mom is technically a “single mom” because she is not married. Same with single dads. Custody has nothing to do with it. A single mom can be never married, divorced, or widowed.

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Btw, I sm divorced and technically have 50/50 but it is actually 80/20—still doing most of the parenting.

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Anonymous wrote:Btw, I sm divorced and technically have 50/50 but it is actually 80/20—still doing most of the parenting.

This is the reality for the vast majority of divorced mothers.

*hugs* to you.

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Anonymous wrote:What a bizarre final comment you make about marriage. How does being alone help women??

Well, as a single mom making $300, I can guarantee I have far less arguments about how I’m spending my money or child raising decisions than 99.9% of married people. (Not, op).

I live in McLean and I never run into women like you.

Try running during the hours when they are not at work.

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Anonymous wrote:What a bizarre final comment you make about marriage. How does being alone help women??

Well, as a single mom making $300, I can guarantee I have far less arguments about how I’m spending my money or child raising decisions than 99.9% of married people. (Not, op).

So basically you can be as selfish as you want to be and nobody is there to call you out on it

Translation: my H can be selfish all he wants an no matter how much I call him out he won't change. So I'm jealous you don't have to deal with that and I will lash out at your happiness.

Or: I can't get along with anybody so I have learned that I am better off being by myself

Get along? Have you read this site? Husbands and wives barely tolerate each other and a lot seem miserable together. The only thing they are getting along with is a big ole bottle of wine at the end of the day to lull them into complacency.

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I’m not gonna read all the nonsense cat fight posts about who is richer, yuck.

But I will say it is pretty nice to be in a position of knowing that I am choosing to be/stay married because I want to, not because I need to, unlike women in previous generations. If my husband decides to start mistreating me or just to bail, I can afford the house and the bills, and the kids and I would not feel a thing financially.

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage is not a perfect solution but a great solution for lots of societal issues.

+1

+1000

The three of you sound so pathetic.

Maybe you'd have better or more successful relationships if you weren't so defensive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Marriage is not a perfect solution but a great solution for lots of societal issues.

+1

+1000

The three of you sound so pathetic.

Why? It gives spouses loving partners to love and share life's joys and hurdles. It gives kids a stable, safe home and living family. It helps share chores, money and logistics. Most of all, it gives you trust and confidence to have someone in your corner no matter what, illness, disability, financial ruin, anything life throws at you, you have your anchor there to keep you grounded.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Marriage is not a perfect solution but a great solution for lots of societal issues.

+1

+1000

The three of you sound so pathetic.

Why? It gives spouses loving partners to love and share life's joys and hurdles. It gives kids a stable, safe home and living family. It helps share chores, money and logistics. Most of all, it gives you trust and confidence to have someone in your corner no matter what, illness, disability, financial ruin, anything life throws at you, you have your anchor there to keep you grounded.

Two loving parents are better than one. Having a positive male role model is good for kids. Coming from a stable nurturing family environment is so important.