Professional couples are on the rise, but it’s not increasing income inequality

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Anonymous wrote:What a bizarre final comment you make about marriage. How does being alone help women??

OP’s post is a hateful political attack on marriage disguised as a relationship topic to fit in to this sub forum.

Take your soap box elsewhere OP.

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Why is this on the relationship forum?

I don’t care what your relationship or financial status is.

We are married and have a higher income than most of our friends. Your 300k or 600k doesn’t impress us.

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Anonymous wrote:What a bizarre final comment you make about marriage. How does being alone help women??

Well, as a single mom making $300, I can guarantee I have far less arguments about how I’m spending my money or child raising decisions than 99.9% of married people. (Not, op).

I live in McLean and I never run into women like you.

Because you are old and live in one of those old ranchers. There are plenty of successful, single moms at Longfellow making this or more. For those who can't imagine a woman in her 30s making a high salary, you need to leave Woodbridge more. A 25 year old computer system engineer makes around 200K. A lawyer makes at least 300K. I'm a fed at a fin agency and I make over 200K. My single friend at Amazon makes 400. My H is a VP of sales in biotech and his top sales person is a woman in Atlanta making 600K.

DP here. We live in McLean and I have a kid at Cooper. We live in an expensive neighborhood. Our house is $3m and most of the areas in our immediate neighborhood around Cooper/Langley are $2-5m.

I do not know any single moms. I do know several divorced and blended families. Dad is in the picture and we usually have a relationship with both parents. I usually text or email both the mom and dad when making plans or coordinating with the kids.

And we know plenty of high earning women. I used to be a high earning mom but I am now a sahm with 3 kids. Dh recently reminded me that I spend 10-20k on my Amex every month. I spend more now than when I actually worked.

I know there are mothers by choice but I don’t personally know any in our friend circles. In preschool, we knew one mom who was single. I never knew or asked where the dad was but she was a true single mom. She eventually moved to be closer to her family.

Honey, every time you post on here you just sound so desperate to justify your decision to leave the workforce. I know your husband’s salary, your children’s elite extracurriculars, and now your monthly credit card bill — personal details, especially financial ones, that I don’t even know about some of my friends. Are you ok?

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Anonymous wrote:I love how those nuts bring teen pregnancy rates in discussion. Teen pregnancy rates are at a historic lows and represent a minuscule number of live births. I'm more concerned about the SAH, religious breeders who keep popping tons of kids until their uterus is at their knees. Those are the problem, not successful single moms.

Why do these successful single women need to pop out a kid at all? Why not be happy and childless? Why not be happy with their career? Why choose loser men to have children with?

maybe they want a kid? Maybe they don't want a or need a man telling them what to do? There are tons of reasons.

Exactly - why are we policing women's bodies/fertility/happiness?

No one is policing anyone. There was a single mom or moms who acted superior to married.

I am married with 3 kids. My kids are well liked and have a lot of friends. I will happily include their friends from any family background.

Dh is an amazing dad and provider. To insult him and me because we are married is ridiculous.

I think part of your bias/baggage is asserting that someone is "acting superior" ipso facto because she is happy and successful in a life different than yours.

Ding ding ding. This poster takes everything as a personal attack.

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Anonymous wrote:What a bizarre final comment you make about marriage. How does being alone help women??

Well, as a single mom making $300, I can guarantee I have far less arguments about how I’m spending my money or child raising decisions than 99.9% of married people. (Not, op).

I live in McLean and I never run into women like you.

Because you are old and live in one of those old ranchers. There are plenty of successful, single moms at Longfellow making this or more. For those who can't imagine a woman in her 30s making a high salary, you need to leave Woodbridge more. A 25 year old computer system engineer makes around 200K. A lawyer makes at least 300K. I'm a fed at a fin agency and I make over 200K. My single friend at Amazon makes 400. My H is a VP of sales in biotech and his top sales person is a woman in Atlanta making 600K.

DP here. We live in McLean and I have a kid at Cooper. We live in an expensive neighborhood. Our house is $3m and most of the areas in our immediate neighborhood around Cooper/Langley are $2-5m.

I do not know any single moms. I do know several divorced and blended families. Dad is in the picture and we usually have a relationship with both parents. I usually text or email both the mom and dad when making plans or coordinating with the kids.

And we know plenty of high earning women. I used to be a high earning mom but I am now a sahm with 3 kids. Dh recently reminded me that I spend 10-20k on my Amex every month. I spend more now than when I actually worked.

I know there are mothers by choice but I don’t personally know any in our friend circles. In preschool, we knew one mom who was single. I never knew or asked where the dad was but she was a true single mom. She eventually moved to be closer to her family.

Honey, every time you post on here you just sound so desperate to justify your decision to leave the workforce. I know your husband’s salary, your children’s elite extracurriculars, and now your monthly credit card bill — personal details, especially financial ones, that I don’t even know about some of my friends. Are you ok?

Don't be so mean, she's just trying to feel relevant in her otherwise empty life.

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Anonymous wrote:What a bizarre final comment you make about marriage. How does being alone help women??

Well, as a single mom making $300, I can guarantee I have far less arguments about how I’m spending my money or child raising decisions than 99.9% of married people. (Not, op).

I live in McLean and I never run into women like you.

Because you are old and live in one of those old ranchers. There are plenty of successful, single moms at Longfellow making this or more. For those who can't imagine a woman in her 30s making a high salary, you need to leave Woodbridge more. A 25 year old computer system engineer makes around 200K. A lawyer makes at least 300K. I'm a fed at a fin agency and I make over 200K. My single friend at Amazon makes 400. My H is a VP of sales in biotech and his top sales person is a woman in Atlanta making 600K.

DP here. We live in McLean and I have a kid at Cooper. We live in an expensive neighborhood. Our house is $3m and most of the areas in our immediate neighborhood around Cooper/Langley are $2-5m.

I do not know any single moms. I do know several divorced and blended families. Dad is in the picture and we usually have a relationship with both parents. I usually text or email both the mom and dad when making plans or coordinating with the kids.

And we know plenty of high earning women. I used to be a high earning mom but I am now a sahm with 3 kids. Dh recently reminded me that I spend 10-20k on my Amex every month. I spend more now than when I actually worked.

I know there are mothers by choice but I don’t personally know any in our friend circles. In preschool, we knew one mom who was single. I never knew or asked where the dad was but she was a true single mom. She eventually moved to be closer to her family.

Honey, every time you post on here you just sound so desperate to justify your decision to leave the workforce. I know your husband’s salary, your children’s elite extracurriculars, and now your monthly credit card bill — personal details, especially financial ones, that I don’t even know about some of my friends. Are you ok?

Don't be so mean, she's just trying to feel relevant in her otherwise empty life.

Do you actually live in this area? I’m a dime a dozen.

Every kid we know is an elite athlete academic superstar. Many moms don’t work or work very part time.

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Anonymous wrote:What a bizarre final comment you make about marriage. How does being alone help women??

Well, as a single mom making $300, I can guarantee I have far less arguments about how I’m spending my money or child raising decisions than 99.9% of married people. (Not, op).

So basically you can be as selfish as you want to be and nobody is there to call you out on it

Translation: my H can be selfish all he wants an no matter how much I call him out he won't change. So I'm jealous you don't have to deal with that and I will lash out at your happiness.

No one is jealous of you.

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Anonymous wrote:What a bizarre final comment you make about marriage. How does being alone help women??

Well, as a single mom making $300, I can guarantee I have far less arguments about how I’m spending my money or child raising decisions than 99.9% of married people. (Not, op).

I live in McLean and I never run into women like you.

Because you are old and live in one of those old ranchers. There are plenty of successful, single moms at Longfellow making this or more. For those who can't imagine a woman in her 30s making a high salary, you need to leave Woodbridge more. A 25 year old computer system engineer makes around 200K. A lawyer makes at least 300K. I'm a fed at a fin agency and I make over 200K. My single friend at Amazon makes 400. My H is a VP of sales in biotech and his top sales person is a woman in Atlanta making 600K.

DP here. We live in McLean and I have a kid at Cooper. We live in an expensive neighborhood. Our house is $3m and most of the areas in our immediate neighborhood around Cooper/Langley are $2-5m.

I do not know any single moms. I do know several divorced and blended families. Dad is in the picture and we usually have a relationship with both parents. I usually text or email both the mom and dad when making plans or coordinating with the kids.

And we know plenty of high earning women. I used to be a high earning mom but I am now a sahm with 3 kids. Dh recently reminded me that I spend 10-20k on my Amex every month. I spend more now than when I actually worked.

I know there are mothers by choice but I don’t personally know any in our friend circles. In preschool, we knew one mom who was single. I never knew or asked where the dad was but she was a true single mom. She eventually moved to be closer to her family.

Honey, every time you post on here you just sound so desperate to justify your decision to leave the workforce. I know your husband’s salary, your children’s elite extracurriculars, and now your monthly credit card bill — personal details, especially financial ones, that I don’t even know about some of my friends. Are you ok?

Don't be so mean, she's just trying to feel relevant in her otherwise empty life.

Do you actually live in this area? I’m a dime a dozen.

Every kid we know is an elite athlete academic superstar. Many moms don’t work or work very part time.

Yes, we know.

Back to the topic...

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Anonymous wrote:What a bizarre final comment you make about marriage. How does being alone help women??

Well, as a single mom making $300, I can guarantee I have far less arguments about how I’m spending my money or child raising decisions than 99.9% of married people. (Not, op).

I live in McLean and I never run into women like you.

Because you are old and live in one of those old ranchers. There are plenty of successful, single moms at Longfellow making this or more. For those who can't imagine a woman in her 30s making a high salary, you need to leave Woodbridge more. A 25 year old computer system engineer makes around 200K. A lawyer makes at least 300K. I'm a fed at a fin agency and I make over 200K. My single friend at Amazon makes 400. My H is a VP of sales in biotech and his top sales person is a woman in Atlanta making 600K.

So if you have a middle school student and in your 30s, you were a young mom. I have a middle school student and I’m 43 and I feel like one of the young moms. I also have a kid in preschool. You are a super young mom.

I am not trying to put you down but 200k is low in McLean. Sorry.

Another dumb one. Read my post slowly. Slowly. I'm not in my 30s. And I love my salary and flexibility, after spending years in IB. And some of us don't even have to work, not because we have to desperately cling on some a** husband, but because we have family money.

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Anonymous wrote:What a bizarre final comment you make about marriage. How does being alone help women??

Well, as a single mom making $300, I can guarantee I have far less arguments about how I’m spending my money or child raising decisions than 99.9% of married people. (Not, op).

Well, I certainly don't want the tragic life of raising a kid in a single family. I am in a happy marriage with a man who is a great dad. I could never imagine depriving my child of his dad. I also have the security that if some thing happens to me, my children still have my husband. Maybe you chose a loser to father your child.

Your anecdata about financial issues with a partner speaks volumes about the kind of family you were raised in. Sorry, but many people were not raised in dysfunctional families.

There is nothing tragic about a child being raised by a single mother.

What a disgusting misogynistic comment.

NP raised by a single mother; it is completely tragic to be raised by a single mother. Life goes on, but it's NOT an ideal, and functional, intact families are far superior.

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Anonymous wrote:What a bizarre final comment you make about marriage. How does being alone help women??

Well, as a single mom making $300, I can guarantee I have far less arguments about how I’m spending my money or child raising decisions than 99.9% of married people. (Not, op).

+1000. But, high-earning single mothers are not the norm. I have nannies, babysitters, mother's helpers. whatever, because it is all on me - I would rather have a stable co-parent.

Everybody does but most men aren’t.

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Anonymous wrote:What a bizarre final comment you make about marriage. How does being alone help women??

Well, as a single mom making $300, I can guarantee I have far less arguments about how I’m spending my money or child raising decisions than 99.9% of married people. (Not, op).

You’re quoting me. I make far more than you (biglaw) and also have a happy marriage to a man who makes even more.

I don’t think my income makes me special but since you seem to think yours does…

Well lawyers have the highest rates of divorce, suicide, any addiction of any profession - so we have to take what you say with several grains of salt.

Lawyers have lower divorce rates than the general population what are you talking about

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Anonymous wrote:What a bizarre final comment you make about marriage. How does being alone help women??

Well, as a single mom making $300, I can guarantee I have far less arguments about how I’m spending my money or child raising decisions than 99.9% of married people. (Not, op).

You’re quoting me. I make far more than you (biglaw) and also have a happy marriage to a man who makes even more.

I don’t think my income makes me special but since you seem to think yours does…

Well lawyers have the highest rates of divorce, suicide, any addiction of any profession - so we have to take what you say with several grains of salt.

So most married SAHM with lawyer H are doomed and have no income of their own.

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Anonymous wrote:What a bizarre final comment you make about marriage. How does being alone help women??

Well, as a single mom making $300, I can guarantee I have far less arguments about how I’m spending my money or child raising decisions than 99.9% of married people. (Not, op).

You’re quoting me. I make far more than you (biglaw) and also have a happy marriage to a man who makes even more.

I don’t think my income makes me special but since you seem to think yours does…

Well lawyers have the highest rates of divorce, suicide, any addiction of any profession - so we have to take what you say with several grains of salt.

So most married SAHM with lawyer H are doomed and have no income of their own.

Not even close to “most.”

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Anonymous wrote:I love how those nuts bring teen pregnancy rates in discussion. Teen pregnancy rates are at a historic lows and represent a minuscule number of live births. I'm more concerned about the SAH, religious breeders who keep popping tons of kids until their uterus is at their knees. Those are the problem, not successful single moms.

Why do these successful single women need to pop out a kid at all? Why not be happy and childless? Why not be happy with their career? Why choose loser men to have children with?

maybe they want a kid? Maybe they don't want a or need a man telling them what to do? There are tons of reasons.

Exactly - why are we policing women's bodies/fertility/happiness?

No one is policing anyone. There was a single mom or moms who acted superior to married.

I am married with 3 kids. My kids are well liked and have a lot of friends. I will happily include their friends from any family background.

Dh is an amazing dad and provider. To insult him and me because we are married is ridiculous.

I think part of your bias/baggage is asserting that someone is "acting superior" ipso facto because she is happy and successful in a life different than yours.

Ding ding ding. This poster takes everything as a personal attack.

Yes. I'm happily married, we're both trust funders, we make a great income and I DNGAF about what other women do and I don't feel superior because I'm married or because my grandfather made a lot of money for us. It was just luck that I found a great guy in college and that I was born in the right family, not some special skill.
I have the single friend who did IVF at 43, I have gay couple friends who adopted an infant girl addicted to opioids prior to the marriage equality law, one woman who has a kid with a rich married man and doesn't work anymore. I'm not superior to any of them just because I have a marriage certificate. I'm European and this whole American obsession with marriage is a relic from the 50s. It's just a sham so that the SAHMs can collect social security.