Letting go of making sure they die in the safest way

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Anonymous wrote:I mean yes, lots of people say they will go out doing something active. But you’re not in control as much as you’d think. It pains me so much to see my MIL repeatedly tell my husband that she’d rather die than have someone help her with bathing or dressing, or go to AL. Sure, she’d rather die, but guess what — her children aren’t allowed to just kill her. What you’d “rather” really isn’t relevant unless you actually plan to take your own life while still of sound body and mind.

You aren’t allowed to kill them, but you could dress her up in warm clothes, take her to the top of tge mountain, strap on some skiis, and push her down. I am going to pay someone to do this for me when the time comes.

With all due respect, no you’re not. You either think this is a joke or you’ve deluded yourself into thinking that the indignities of old age simply won’t happen to you. This isn’t a joke.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean yes, lots of people say they will go out doing something active. But you’re not in control as much as you’d think. It pains me so much to see my MIL repeatedly tell my husband that she’d rather die than have someone help her with bathing or dressing, or go to AL. Sure, she’d rather die, but guess what — her children aren’t allowed to just kill her. What you’d “rather” really isn’t relevant unless you actually plan to take your own life while still of sound body and mind.

So very true.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My FIL has advanced Parkinson’s. We do what we can to make sure his home is safe. He and my MIL live 2 miles from us and will not give up their home. FIL is very, very unsteady on his feet. Has difficult speaking and swallowing. And also has a serious heart condition plus leukemia. He plays 18 holes of golf three times a week. We have just accepted that he’ll die on the golf course doing what he loves. There are worse ways to go.

I have a friend that died on the golf course and I consider that to be the BEST way to go.

My SIl’s retired 80 yr uncle went down to Florida with his buddies, played 18 rounds of golf and then went out to lunch, great food, wine w/friends. Got hit by a car crossing the street after lunch. Dead instantly. I always thought THAT’s the way to go. The 88 yr old who died skiing is pretty cool too.