How far would you go to accommodate a vegan / last minute guest?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Um. You were a bit hot headed. Regroup a bit.

If it helps Indian restaurants often can do a beautiful vegan curry. Maybe have him call around and get some takeout? Offer for the main meal. She can figure out the rest later. They probably need to do a grocery run.

Vegan? Most Indian food has butter and/or yoghurt.

Spice Kraft makes AMAZING dairy free sauces. It’s been life changing for me. I’m not vegan but have a bad milk allergy. We order weekly.

[Anonymous]

Who are these people that announce they’re coming for dinner 2 days before a holiday and provide the host with the information that they now have a very restrictive diet to accommodate??? In what world is this ok? If someone asks about your diet, share the info, otherwise just sit there and non-dramatically eat your dinner like a normal person. We have food allergies so I make that known to avoid any issues but I also make it know that we can bring food and we don’t expect anyone to make us our own special meal at a big party.

The brother’s request is outrageous. I’m glad OP can likely accommodate without too much trouble, though.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'd do a vegetable stir-fry with some of the vegetables you have. If you have rice, add that, otherwise stir in some cooked pasta.

I make a quick sauce with soy sauce, rice vinegar, sesame oil, sugar and chili-garlic sauce.

You can also add some fruit salad or a green salad with citrus and a sweet dressing, that should hold anyone a meal.

For a Christmas dinner???? Inappropriate

Maybe it could be for one of the other meals. Bc OP is expected to accommodate this lady last-minute all weekend long.

[Anonymous]

I would do the best I could within the food I already purchased, but would absolutely not go to the store again

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Anonymous wrote:I hope he skips your dinner. You’re not very nice.

It’s also not very nice to invite someone with such limiting food restrictions last-minute, with no offer of “and we’ll bring plenty of our own food so as to not be any trouble.”

Exactly. It was inconsiderate of his sister and the work she has put in. He should have 1. Asked, not told 2. If sister agreed to additional guest advise that HE would be preparing something for gf as she has special dietary requests.

OP knows and doesn't like this woman. If she met her/ate a meal, she probably knew GF was a vegan.

She knew GF was a vegan, not that GF was coming to the meal 🙄

No, it sounds like the vegan thing is new. Regardless, brother is an ass for announcing another guest at the last minute.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:“We’ll have some vegetable sides, but I’ve already done all my shopping, so feel free to get yourselves groceries and anything you want to have on hand. If you had given me advance notice, I would have prepared, but at this stage I will not be running out to the store again. If that changes your desire to come over, I understand.”

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+2 Perfect.

What is perfect about that response? Do you mean for Christmas dinner which is still days away? Why would you want to set that dynamic with your brother? You are hosting, be gracious.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:“We’ll have some vegetable sides, but I’ve already done all my shopping, so feel free to get yourselves groceries and anything you want to have on hand. If you had given me advance notice, I would have prepared, but at this stage I will not be running out to the store again. If that changes your desire to come over, I understand.”

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+2 Perfect.

What is perfect about that response? Do you mean for Christmas dinner which is still days away? Why would you want to set that dynamic with your brother? You are hosting, be gracious.

I’m pretty sure her brother set the dynamic when he invited his girlfriend for the WEEKEND and sent his sister a list of foods she can’t eat. Tomorrow is Christmas Eve. Maybe OP would like to relax and/or prep for the weekend. Not run back out to the store. It’s her holiday too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would do the best I could within the food I already purchased, but would absolutely not go to the store again

Yep.

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Anonymous wrote:I hope he skips your dinner. You’re not very nice.

It’s also not very nice to invite someone with such limiting food restrictions last-minute, with no offer of “and we’ll bring plenty of our own food so as to not be any trouble.”

Exactly. It was inconsiderate of his sister and the work she has put in. He should have 1. Asked, not told 2. If sister agreed to additional guest advise that HE would be preparing something for gf as she has special dietary requests.

OP knows and doesn't like this woman. If she met her/ate a meal, she probably knew GF was a vegan.

She knew GF was a vegan, not that GF was coming to the meal 🙄

No, it sounds like the vegan thing is new. Regardless, brother is an ass for announcing another guest at the last minute.

PP here. I stand corrected! You’re right, the GF is apparently newly vegan.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'd do a vegetable stir-fry with some of the vegetables you have. If you have rice, add that, otherwise stir in some cooked pasta.

I make a quick sauce with soy sauce, rice vinegar, sesame oil, sugar and chili-garlic sauce.

You can also add some fruit salad or a green salad with citrus and a sweet dressing, that should hold anyone a meal.

For a Christmas dinner???? Inappropriate

It’s food, sounds perfectly appropriate to me. Considering she won’t eat a roast. Since when is pasta more appropriate than a veggie stir fry?

[Anonymous]

Throw a bag of salad in a bowl. Toss a baked potato/sweet potato in the oven and call it a meal.

Sorry, but on 12/23 I am not doing an additional shopping trip to accommodate a last minute addition.

Both of those items can be acquired through a Target pickup order. Cause there's NO way you're getting another grocery pickup order for today.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Throw a bag of salad in a bowl. Toss a baked potato/sweet potato in the oven and call it a meal.

Sorry, but on 12/23 I am not doing an additional shopping trip to accommodate a last minute addition.

Both of those items can be acquired through a Target pickup order. Cause there's NO way you're getting another grocery pickup order for today.

And spit on the potato when nobody is looking. Totally kidding.

[Anonymous]

Is the GF the inconsiderate one? For all we know the brother was a stereotypical guy and insisted it would be no big deal for his sister to accommodate a vegan last minute. And totally agree OP shouldn’t bend over backwards. We have food intolerances in my family (medical reasons) and often bring our own food even if it isn’t a last minute attendance.

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OP - I feel like your disdain for your brother's GF is probably coloring your reaction a bit. The best thing to do in cases like this is to say as little as possible. "Glad Larla can join us, I just finished grocery shopping, but definitely bring whatever you want!" done.

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Uh no it’s a pandemic.