How far would you go to accommodate a vegan / last minute guest?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let’s be real. The problem here is that you don’t like the girlfriend. If you didn’t have an issue with her dietary restrictions, you’d have a problem with something else. So it doesn’t matter what you do or don’t do for food because it’s not about the food.

I wouldn't accommodate a last minute guest with extreme dietary restrictions. They bring the food, I'll set out a plate for them, problem solved.

Surely people who chose to have finicky diets and extreme eating restrictions would understand the burden they pose and come prepared.

[Anonymous]

Hint: if it takes more than five words to describe your food issue, I am not going to bother with you. (If you are allergic to several things, you can use as many words as you like.)

Acceptable:
I am lactose intolerant.
I am vegetarian.
I am allergic to shellfish.
I observe kosher guidelines.

If you have a long story to tell, then spare me your blah blah blah.

[Anonymous]

a friend told their kid who was going to be vegan or vegetarian or whatever they are get use dot being hungry when you go to other houses for dinner or bring your own.

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Anonymous wrote:Very easy.

Pasta and vegetarian spaghetti sauce. Veggi meatballs or button mushrooms in it.

Deep fried eggplant or okra. Season with salt, red pepper and lemon juice. Serve with a quinoa and lentil pilaf with mixed veggies.

Pumpkin in Penang curry with Thai basil and cashews. Served with plain rice.

Cholley (or what white people call chickpeas stew through cultural misappropriation) with bhature

Why is it a problem? Oh, you don’t like your brother…. 😅😅😅Why have Christmas with him??

Most people on this thread would eat almost none of these dishes.

You mean most people are picky in their own way??

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Anonymous wrote:You lack imagination. Get on Instagram and see how people veganize a lot of dishes.

How about the last-minute guests bring their own veganized dishes at this late date?

So do you not want guests? It’s hard to tell. Very hostile.

I welcome invited guests. If someone imposes last-minute, they can bring their own Special Princess Fare. Allergies and legitimate food restrictions are fine. Vegetarian is fine. Vegan is just try-hard and beyond. You want attention, you want disruption, you can bring your own food.

How do you know if a food restriction is legitimate? I have a gluten sensitivity that exacerbates an autoimmune condition that almost no one knows I have. Because I can tolerate minor cross-contamination (i.e. food fried in the same oil), people make jokes all the time that I'm faking it. Do you need a note from my doctor to take my medical condition seriously?

I’d tell you what my menu is and you are welcome to bring anything else you like.

Okay, so your solution is not to accommodate food issues. This is fine, but why judge people's issues if you aren't also going to have to do anything about them.

NP. Do you grasp that we are specifically talking about LAST MINUTE guests? If it’s two days before Christmas and my shopping is done, you’ll be welcome and I’ll make any easy swaps I can. But you don’t get a whole different menu and I’m not fussing with 18 different pots or cutting boards. Here’s the menu, feel free to bring whatever. Next time give me the courtesy of lead time to let me know you are coming over for a meal.

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You are Not The Ahole. However, I would throw together a green salad, have some fruits and veggies, tell them what I will have and also tell them to bring their own food.

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Anonymous wrote:You lack imagination. Get on Instagram and see how people veganize a lot of dishes.

How about the last-minute guests bring their own veganized dishes at this late date?

So do you not want guests? It’s hard to tell. Very hostile.

I welcome invited guests. If someone imposes last-minute, they can bring their own Special Princess Fare. Allergies and legitimate food restrictions are fine. Vegetarian is fine. Vegan is just try-hard and beyond. You want attention, you want disruption, you can bring your own food.

How do you know if a food restriction is legitimate? I have a gluten sensitivity that exacerbates an autoimmune condition that almost no one knows I have. Because I can tolerate minor cross-contamination (i.e. food fried in the same oil), people make jokes all the time that I'm faking it. Do you need a note from my doctor to take my medical condition seriously?

I’d tell you what my menu is and you are welcome to bring anything else you like.

Okay, so your solution is not to accommodate food issues. This is fine, but why judge people's issues if you aren't also going to have to do anything about them.

NP. Do you grasp that we are specifically talking about LAST MINUTE guests? If it’s two days before Christmas and my shopping is done, you’ll be welcome and I’ll make any easy swaps I can. But you don’t get a whole different menu and I’m not fussing with 18 different pots or cutting boards. Here’s the menu, feel free to bring whatever. Next time give me the courtesy of lead time to let me know you are coming over for a meal.

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Whether it was the brother or the girlfriend making the last minute demands for a brand new restrictive diet, it’s not okay.

OP, what did you end up doing?

[Anonymous]

I'd pick up a couple dishes and maybe make sure 1-2 of my dishes were free of butter/eggs. Beyond that the vegans I know tend to be happy to pick up their own foods and not burden others. She should know better.

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OP, where are you? I want to know what happened!

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I am a vegan, but not by choice. No one wants to be in the room with me after eating meat/diary. Your plumbing is not safe either. I am perfectly content to go to someone’s house and eat a bowl of fruit. Trust me, people have tired to prove me wrong by sneaking in stuff to my food. And boy have they suffered.

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I love how in the giving spirit many of you are. WOW

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It is the height of modern gluttony to be so concerned with your own food needs to require everyone around you to accommodate them.

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I understand not wanting to accommodate so late in the day. This sentence, though: “I also reminded him if his gf caused any drama it would not be well received and would have to leave if she did.”

That’s not really appropriate or kind, it seems to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a vegan, but not by choice. No one wants to be in the room with me after eating meat/diary. Your plumbing is not safe either. I am perfectly content to go to someone’s house and eat a bowl of fruit. Trust me, people have tired to prove me wrong by sneaking in stuff to my food. And boy have they suffered.

Omg I’m sorry you have to deal with that but your post made me chuckle.

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Anonymous wrote:You lack imagination. Get on Instagram and see how people veganize a lot of dishes.

How about the last-minute guests bring their own veganized dishes at this late date?

So do you not want guests? It’s hard to tell. Very hostile.

I welcome invited guests. If someone imposes last-minute, they can bring their own Special Princess Fare. Allergies and legitimate food restrictions are fine. Vegetarian is fine. Vegan is just try-hard and beyond. You want attention, you want disruption, you can bring your own food.

How do you know if a food restriction is legitimate? I have a gluten sensitivity that exacerbates an autoimmune condition that almost no one knows I have. Because I can tolerate minor cross-contamination (i.e. food fried in the same oil), people make jokes all the time that I'm faking it. Do you need a note from my doctor to take my medical condition seriously?

I’d tell you what my menu is and you are welcome to bring anything else you like.

Okay, so your solution is not to accommodate food issues. This is fine, but why judge people's issues if you aren't also going to have to do anything about them.

Your “issue” is a moving target. There would be naturally GF items on my menu for you. But whatever, honestly.

How is GF a moving target?