at what age did you explain physical act of intercourse to your DD?
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Anonymous
While I dread this someday, I'm impressed that PP's daughter came to her to ask! I definitely remember using the dictionary to google "lesbian" and "fellatio" at around that age (pre-easy access to the internet). They're going to learn it from somewhere.... |
Anonymous
When the child enters puberty or 9, whichever comes first. However, it's an ongoing discussion of feelings and facts that doesn't culminate until in the teens. |
Anonymous
4th/5th grade health discusses erections. And pleasure as a reason for sex should be discussed from early on, as a way to connect in a long term relationship. |
Anonymous
Nope, not a bit |
Anonymous
In this day and some 10 year olds are trying to have sex! I read someplace that a 10 year old boy tried to rape a girl in his class. She probably already knows. |
Anonymous
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My dad was a gynaecologist. He had a habit of forgetting that he had a toddler running around and would practice his lectures using a slide projector in our living room. So I knew the names and look of various SIDS from my earliest memories. I learnt the full details of the physical heterosexual and homosexual acts from one of his text books at about 10.
Honestly, looking back it’s was an excellent birds and the bees education. No shame, just the blunt clinical facts. I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 21. |
Anonymous
Was that wrong? Did I describe it incorrectly?? |
Anonymous
Not the PP, who I suspect is clutching her pearls somewhere. The only thing that I’d add is that lesbians use mouths too and that there are rubber penises people (not just lesbians) can buy if they want. |
Anonymous
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So now I’m thinking I should proactively bring up the subject. All these responses have me feeling more confident to just give it to her straight and not wait any longer. Is there a good way to broach the subject? Should I just say “do you have questions about how babies are made?”
-Op |
Anonymous
Np here, but yes you did. |
Anonymous
I'm pretty sure my ultra-conservative mom told me this stuff when I was about 8 or 9 because she could see that I was headed towards puberty, so 10 is well old enough especially in today's world where it's far easier for your daughter to get the wrong information than it was 30 years ago. I was a pretty imaginative kid and I did not imagine my parents having sex. Perhaps unpack why this is such a huge issue for you, where you brought up very conservatively? I did have more questions and curiosity though and would look up things in encyclopedias so be prepared for that and provide her with books and resources that she can look at on her own time, and you can discuss with her. |
Anonymous
I remember when I was 11 my Girl Scout troop leaders had "the talk" with us. All the other kids were embarrassed, but I was asking if 3+ people could have sex....and when they said yes, I demanded to know the details of how. Also spent a ton of time looking at the reproduction pages in the human body books my parents got me, ha. |
Anonymous
Explain what your response would have been as to how . . . |
Anonymous
Sure. gay men don't all have sex involving the butt, many gay men do not engage in anal sex or at all, the same is true for lesbians and dildos, not all sex is penetrative even in hetero couples, try to be a little less sterotypical when teaching your kids. |
Anonymous
Make sure you tell them about gerbils, too. |