Pregnant at 45!!

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Anonymous wrote:My mother had my youngest brother when she was 45. I was 20. My oldest son and my baby brother are 5 weeks apart. They are now 30 years old.

Same situation with my neighbor up the street. Had her twin girls at 20. She just had a baby with with her new husband at 40. One the twin girls just had her first baby too. A very fun family at our recent neighborhood picnic.

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Two of my mom's lifelong friends continued to have children after they had become grandmothers. Very close-knit families. I'm a bit envious.

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My husband and I married when I was 37 and he 50. He already had one grandchild. We then had our daughter. So his granddaughter is 10 years older than his daughter.

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My sister and her husband were the same ages, 37 and 50, same situation. He already had 2 grandkids. I don't think this is an unusual scenario, especially if it is a second marriage for the older partner.

All these kids I personally know born to "older" parents all turned out healthy.

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My great-grandmother’s youngest child was born when she was 47. My grandmother was pregnant with her first child at the time. My aunt was six months older than her uncle.

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If you all have the energy for a baby at 45 that is great but damn, I’m exhausted. I could not do the baby years at this age.

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OLD THREAD. (But interesting topic.) I don't know why this thread was revived almost a year to the day after it was started.

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Is crazy to me that these days women are still having a accidentally pregnancies. In 2022, with so many contraceptives and plan b, there shouldn’t be any unplanned pregnancies. Use protection, because as an adult, you know what sex can lead to. The fact that so many are having unprotected sex and then act shocked when they get pregnant is insane. Don’t have sex if you can’t practice safe sex. If you can’t handle the possibility that a baby may happen, you’re not mature enough to have sex. A life shouldn’t have to end because if you’re irresponsibility and because it’s inconvenient for you. Its insane how many people are fine with disposing of human life because it’s inconvenient, even though their poor actions resulted in said life.

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Kind of crazy a woman can can irresponsibly get pregnant and decided to abort or keep, but a man has no choice and has fo pay child support. If you have the right to abort, the man should have the right to choose to be responsible for the baby.

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Anonymous wrote:Is crazy to me that these days women are still having a accidentally pregnancies. In 2022, with so many contraceptives and plan b, there shouldn’t be any unplanned pregnancies. Use protection, because as an adult, you know what sex can lead to. The fact that so many are having unprotected sex and then act shocked when they get pregnant is insane. Don’t have sex if you can’t practice safe sex. If you can’t handle the possibility that a baby may happen, you’re not mature enough to have sex. A life shouldn’t have to end because if you’re irresponsibility and because it’s inconvenient for you. Its insane how many people are fine with disposing of human life because it’s inconvenient, even though their poor actions resulted in said life.

Are you also vegetarian, or just preachy? There is nothing that special about human life: there are 8 billion of us. Besides, terminating cells at four or even eight weeks of development versus butchering a cow or a sheep: the cow has awareness, feels pain and knows, while an embryo does not.

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Anonymous wrote:Is crazy to me that these days women are still having a accidentally pregnancies. In 2022, with so many contraceptives and plan b, there shouldn’t be any unplanned pregnancies. Use protection, because as an adult, you know what sex can lead to. The fact that so many are having unprotected sex and then act shocked when they get pregnant is insane. Don’t have sex if you can’t practice safe sex. If you can’t handle the possibility that a baby may happen, you’re not mature enough to have sex. A life shouldn’t have to end because if you’re irresponsibility and because it’s inconvenient for you. Its insane how many people are fine with disposing of human life because it’s inconvenient, even though their poor actions resulted in said life.

Are you also vegetarian, or just preachy? There is nothing that special about human life: there are 8 billion of us. Besides, terminating cells at four or even eight weeks of development versus butchering a cow or a sheep: the cow has awareness, feels pain and knows, while an embryo does not.

There is nothing special about human life? How about a baby who has a unique set of dna. A fetus does feel pain. We are all a clump of cells and that’s not a valid argument. If you think human life isn’t special, don’t procreate.

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Anonymous wrote:I got pregnant accidentally. DH and I are usually
very careful and have been married for 20 years. We had one planned baby who is now a teen and the one time in 13 years we did not use protection I fell pregnant. I am so sad! I didn’t plan this and have no desire whats so ever to have a baby. I know I will love the baby once he/she arrives but I feel so old. I can’t get over the fact that I am to old to have a baby. I am so embarrassed. I haven’t told anymore as yet. I refuse to think about it let alone talk about it. Just want to vent.

OP, I'm 46 with a one year old, so you do the math!

Ours was very planned and our guy brings us so much joy every single day! This is exciting.

I hope everything works out the way you want it to, OP. Whatever happens, you can handle it.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is crazy to me that these days women are still having a accidentally pregnancies. In 2022, with so many contraceptives and plan b, there shouldn’t be any unplanned pregnancies. Use protection, because as an adult, you know what sex can lead to. The fact that so many are having unprotected sex and then act shocked when they get pregnant is insane. Don’t have sex if you can’t practice safe sex. If you can’t handle the possibility that a baby may happen, you’re not mature enough to have sex. A life shouldn’t have to end because if you’re irresponsibility and because it’s inconvenient for you. Its insane how many people are fine with disposing of human life because it’s inconvenient, even though their poor actions resulted in said life.

Are you also vegetarian, or just preachy? There is nothing that special about human life: there are 8 billion of us. Besides, terminating cells at four or even eight weeks of development versus butchering a cow or a sheep: the cow has awareness, feels pain and knows, while an embryo does not.

There is nothing special about human life? How about a baby who has a unique set of dna. A fetus does feel pain. We are all a clump of cells and that’s not a valid argument. If you think human life isn’t special, don’t procreate.

NP. Totally agree with PP. nothing special about a 6 week embryo no bigger than a seed. It doesn’t feel pain, has no awareness, no development, and is literally a clump of cells. I don’t consider it much of anything. 75% of abortions occur before 8 weeks, and 90% by 12. I’m just fine with that

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Anonymous wrote:How far along are you, OP? From experience, I can state that miscarriage rates are much higher for older moms. My unexpected later in life ended in miscarriage. I was relieved. Wish you all the best

I’m not far along at all. I’m 4 weeks in.

I wouldn't get worked up at this point.

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Anonymous wrote:How far along are you, OP? From experience, I can state that miscarriage rates are much higher for older moms. My unexpected later in life ended in miscarriage. I was relieved. Wish you all the best

I’m not far along at all. I’m 4 weeks in.

I wouldn't get worked up at this point.

OPs baby has been born by now.