Pregnant at 45!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just want to add that if you are sad and don’t want to have a baby you don’t have to.

Thank you for saying this! I want to say while I am pro abortion, I don’t want to have to go through that. I just don’t know that I can mentally handle that. I really don’t know that I can handle much these days.

Maybe you should find someone to talk to because if you are pro-choice, then having a kid because you don’t think you could mentally handle much seems like maybe not the best plan.

Nonsurgical (pill) abortion is usually available up to about 8 weeks I think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How far along are you, OP? From experience, I can state that miscarriage rates are much higher for older moms. My unexpected later in life ended in miscarriage. I was relieved. Wish you all the best

Me too. Fell pregnant at 45yo but lost the baby. You will be fine either way.

[Anonymous]

Our good friend had a surprise baby at 45. Oldest kid was in college! The baby turned out to be total blessing and brings them a lot of joy. Don't be embarrassed, it's not even old for this area. People always get excited about a new baby, I think people will be happy and excited for you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How far along are you, OP? From experience, I can state that miscarriage rates are much higher for older moms. My unexpected later in life ended in miscarriage. I was relieved. Wish you all the best

I’m not far along at all. I’m 4 weeks in.

Wow! That’s early. I’m surprised you would have even tested. I would have just assumed perimenopause

[Anonymous]

Is there another story here? Did you want a second and couldn't have one?

Agree that you should get counseling. You are not forced to carry a baby. Abortion doesn't have to be traumatic.

[Anonymous]

If I were in your shoes, I would get an abortion. 1. Way too old to have a baby, in my eyes. 2. The odds of the baby coming out jacked up is high and honestly, I wouldn’t want to risk it. 3. Abortions are so simple. Best of luck!

[Anonymous]

You will be in your late 60's when your kids graduates from college. That's hard.

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How exciting! Congratulations!

[Anonymous]

My mom had my little brother at 43. Out of the 4 of us siblings, he is quite possibly the most stable/successful/socially normal...
He's a sweetheart. My mom says when I was about 4 years old (I'm the 3rd) she was cleaning out the attic/kids storage and said to my dad, "Well, I guess pur diaper days are over..." And gave all the baby stuff away. 2 weeks later she found out she was pregnant!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom had my little brother at 43. Out of the 4 of us siblings, he is quite possibly the most stable/successful/socially normal...
He's a sweetheart. My mom says when I was about 4 years old (I'm the 3rd) she was cleaning out the attic/kids storage and said to my dad, "Well, I guess pur diaper days are over..." And gave all the baby stuff away. 2 weeks later she found out she was pregnant!

So I am just sharing this to say... Congratulations, I hope everyone remains healthy, and you get to enjoy a new baby in the family

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mom had my little brother at 43. Out of the 4 of us siblings, he is quite possibly the most stable/successful/socially normal...
He's a sweetheart. My mom says when I was about 4 years old (I'm the 3rd) she was cleaning out the attic/kids storage and said to my dad, "Well, I guess pur diaper days are over..." And gave all the baby stuff away. 2 weeks later she found out she was pregnant!

So I am just sharing this to say... Congratulations, I hope everyone remains healthy, and you get to enjoy a new baby in the family

And I have to add... When people are writing, "too old to have a baby" what? No you're not. If it were your 1st that would be a different story. Every parent has challenges. You have the benefit of being older and presumably more experienced and hopefully financially secure. You will do an awesome job. So what if you have grey hair while your kid is in elementary school??? Older parents are so common these days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our good friend had a surprise baby at 45. Oldest kid was in college! The baby turned out to be total blessing and brings them a lot of joy. Don't be embarrassed, it's not even old for this area. People always get excited about a new baby, I think people will be happy and excited for you.

I Love this. I think babies are often even more appreciated the older you are. I just had my 3rd (I'm only 33) but somehow this baby tugs at my heart strings even more than the earlier onea, they are ao sweet and precious at this age, those first smiles... Fat rolls under their chin... It's a welcome reprieve from the older kids when I can just spend time with the baby <3

[Anonymous]

Most of these PPs are totally ignoring the fact that OP said she has no desire to have a baby! I don’t think it’s good advice to say “everything will be fine if you have it”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most of these PPs are totally ignoring the fact that OP said she has no desire to have a baby! I don’t think it’s good advice to say “everything will be fine if you have it”.

+1

I don’t think OP is too old. But if she doesn’t want a baby she doesn’t have to continue the pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How far along are you, OP? From experience, I can state that miscarriage rates are much higher for older moms. My unexpected later in life ended in miscarriage. I was relieved. Wish you all the best

Me too. Fell pregnant at 45yo but lost the baby. You will be fine either way.

+3 take it one day at a time OP. 4 weeks pregnant is still very early and at our age, the miscarriage rate is high. Sorry for your losses ladies.