“I took time out of my busy day to help YOU out”

[Anonymous]

Call the credit card company? WTF?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:THINGS YOUR HUSBAND COULD HAVE DONE SINCE YOU HAD TO TAKE TIME OFF OF WORK TO PICK YOUR KID UP AND TAKE HIM TO THE DOCTOR:

delegating and calling your credit card concierge service using the phone number on the back to call the pharmacies. They do this free in tandem.

not using your health insurance card by calling the customer/member service number on the back. Their entire job is to call in tandem or even while you are at work, etc. Blue Cross even job me an MRI appointment on a Sunday Holiday on the last day/same day-they called 47 places! Their job is to literally get you an appointment.

not calling a grandmother, posting on here, or making a facebook post asking if anyone has done this and found a place.

Fixed that for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First, I don’t understand why it was such an emergency to get a Covid test for your kid. He didn’t have symptoms, you could have looked calmly in the evening after work for somewhere to get him tested.

Then, you didn’t tell dh that you found an appointment. It was a bad thing of him to say, but the whole situation could have been avoided with better coordination and calmer thinking.

Last, this will not be the last time, so get home tests, and make a plan with dh.

Kind of OT, but this is kind of what I was wondering as well. There's not necessarily a great need to test right away just bc someone in the class got it. Doesn't the school insist on a negative test 5 or more days after the exposure, anyway?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Fixed that for you.

The husband wasn't calling people "clueless. so clueless" when she called him for help and he was more competent. Many smart wives on this thread posted same-day testing using the online schedulers and google without spending several hours or calling their husbands during a meeting. The husband took less than two hours so he either did delegate it out or knew how to more effectively use google and a phone. He was more competent, more respectful, and dropped everything at first call in spite of being the critical breadwinner for private school. The OP keeps avoiding the issue of apologizing for letting him keep calling instead of working when an appointment was already made. Her ego isn't warranted for someone without basic google, concierge, health insurance phone line, or courtesy/future career skills to be calling him "clueless". She has found her posse her in spite being out of state, as the misandrists ridicule credit card concierges and insurance member services WHICH ARE REAL.
https://www.forbes.com/advisor/credit-cards/credit-card-concierge-what-it-are-and-how-to-use-it/
https://mss.anthem.com/va/support/welcome.html (bullet 3)

[Anonymous]

I used to tell my DH "do you want a medal or a parade?" every time he made it sound like he was doing me a favor because he had to parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Count me as one who didn’t know credit card companies and health insurance companies can and will make appointments. I’ve never heard of this.. which of course doesn’t mean anything.

I’m also not sure I’m comfortable with someone else making an appointment for me.. after all doesnt this board fuss about needing to do that for husbands? My concern would be that they’d book me an appointment that was geographical undesirable, not good from a time of day standpoint or both.

For you, op, I don’t understand why Friday wasn’t fast enough? Your husband could have stayed at work, you’d be home with your kid. I also don’t understand why your moms group didn’t give you places, when we had to test, my moms group all mentioned a place most of the women like. Do you not have a moms group? I ask this in all seriousness, not having one when my oldest was born was one big factor in me going back to work. I’m surprised with you having been a stay at home mom, you didn’t wake up that resource.

grandma at least ours would be useless, they are wonderful grandmas, but they literally live a state away. All they could do is provide love, not make phone calls.

As for you working, you are correct that your boss wants you there. You do need to decide if your family is better off with you not working.

I found working with kids awful.. and it took this thread for my husband and I to realize that he was proud of my work, but he didn’t like the juggling it required, who will be home with a sick kid, how long will each of us be home, who picked up or dropped off from daycare, why and when, and we didn’t want to deal with nanny issues, even good nannies will get sick, decide they want another job, all stuff they are allowed to do, as are you. Nannies aren’t exempt from the same forces that act on all of us.

Point being, I didn’t want to fight with my husband over very real logistical issues.

Decide if working is right for your family.

Women today kind of get screwed because we’re told we can do/be anything. Our husbands are told the same thing, and if they do express a desire for a stay at home mom as a spouse, they are jumped on for being cave men. Then when kids happen, nobody is prepared mentally for a stay at home mom. Another poster on another thread pointed out that tht stay-at-home moms aren’t “allowed” to enjoy their jobs. Any pleasure they derive from it is viewed as “well, I’d like to spend the morning in the park too” whereas if someone said “I put ina real nice toilet” everybody is very happy they had a nice day at work.

A poster is right, op, you and your husband will need to talk this out. Very likely, he is too used to having a stay-at-home mom to change easily. His comment to you was nasty, though you also seem like you want to create drama. All you had to do was get your kid home, call your doctor’s office and say “tell me where I go”. If you didn’t like that answer, you could have called the school, your covid hotline (which all counties have for kids in the school system), or your mom’s group if yo have one. You had lots of options that didn’t involve your husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Count me as one who didn’t know credit card companies and health insurance companies can and will make appointments. I’ve never heard of this.. which of course doesn’t mean anything.

I’m also not sure I’m comfortable with someone else making an appointment for me.. after all doesnt this board fuss about needing to do that for husbands? My concern would be that they’d book me an appointment that was geographical undesirable, not good from a time of day standpoint or both.

For you, op, I don’t understand why Friday wasn’t fast enough? Your husband could have stayed at work, you’d be home with your kid. I also don’t understand why your moms group didn’t give you places, when we had to test, my moms group all mentioned a place most of the women like. Do you not have a moms group? I ask this in all seriousness, not having one when my oldest was born was one big factor in me going back to work. I’m surprised with you having been a stay at home mom, you didn’t wake up that resource.

grandma at least ours would be useless, they are wonderful grandmas, but they literally live a state away. All they could do is provide love, not make phone calls.

As for you working, you are correct that your boss wants you there. You do need to decide if your family is better off with you not working.

I found working with kids awful.. and it took this thread for my husband and I to realize that he was proud of my work, but he didn’t like the juggling it required, who will be home with a sick kid, how long will each of us be home, who picked up or dropped off from daycare, why and when, and we didn’t want to deal with nanny issues, even good nannies will get sick, decide they want another job, all stuff they are allowed to do, as are you. Nannies aren’t exempt from the same forces that act on all of us.

Point being, I didn’t want to fight with my husband over very real logistical issues.

Decide if working is right for your family.

Women today kind of get screwed because we’re told we can do/be anything. Our husbands are told the same thing, and if they do express a desire for a stay at home mom as a spouse, they are jumped on for being cave men. Then when kids happen, nobody is prepared mentally for a stay at home mom. Another poster on another thread pointed out that tht stay-at-home moms aren’t “allowed” to enjoy their jobs. Any pleasure they derive from it is viewed as “well, I’d like to spend the morning in the park too” whereas if someone said “I put ina real nice toilet” everybody is very happy they had a nice day at work.

A poster is right, op, you and your husband will need to talk this out. Very likely, he is too used to having a stay-at-home mom to change easily. His comment to you was nasty, though you also seem like you want to create drama. All you had to do was get your kid home, call your doctor’s office and say “tell me where I go”. If you didn’t like that answer, you could have called the school, your covid hotline (which all counties have for kids in the school system), or your mom’s group if yo have one. You had lots of options that didn’t involve your husband.

Most of the moms groups these days in DC area are ultra competitive viper's nests full of backstabbing drama. Who wants to deal with that AND a sick kid? What are you thinking??