“I took time out of my busy day to help YOU out”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did he know you were also continuing to search for appointments at the same time? If not, I can understand his annoyance that he took two hours out of his day to find an appointment without being told you were duplicating his efforts and it would be a waste of his time.

My DH also would get mad about the duplication of effort

OP- it wasn't a duplication of effort- we were calling in different areas!

Also- he wasn’t searching for 2 hours - he had a meeting, he found that appointment later in his day.

[Anonymous]

Do you have a problem but it’s not Covid

[Anonymous]

The school needs to be admonished for only calling Moms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait, how did he respond to you saying that this is his kid?

He said, “our kid- it’s our kid” . To which I said, “yes of course, and since he’s ours, you can help make sure he doesn’t have COVID”

[Anonymous]

You both deserve a break, it was a stressful day

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a big thing with me and DH too. He does a lot, but acts every time like he's doing me a HUGE favor and wants to be thanked profusely. Like 100% of kid and household tasks are simply my responsibility and he's dispensing largesse by "helping me out".

I used to tell my husband " maybe you shouldn't have married someone with kids" to make the point that they are his kids too.

[Anonymous]

You posted here why? You need back up child care. How is this a question just like you need it for holidays, summers and when your child is sick.

[Anonymous]

OP, you are justified in feeling angry and frustrated. But stressful unexpected events do not always bring out the best in people.

When things calm down, you and your DH need a game plan because this will NOT be the last time something like this happens. Something like without further agreement, you are “on deck” for any M/W illness and he is responsible for Tu/Thur one and alternate Fridays. Or every other week or whatever. My work offers a backup childcare option - which isn’t an option for most reasons childcare falls through but it’s at least helpful in some situations.

Good luck and welcome back to the workforce!

[Anonymous]

All of you need to go here https://www.cvs.com/shop/abbott-binaxnow-covid-19-antigen-self-test-2-tests-for-serial-testing-prodid-550147 and buy some rapid covid tests. They will tell you if your kid is currently contagious, and then you can take him/her to get a PCR test.

[Anonymous]

Oh my dear, you don't want to hear what my assh0le husband screamed at me today.

Some people just cannot step into other people's shoes for a bit. They think they're more important than everyone else.

It's sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The school needs to be admonished for only calling Moms.

The school calls the primary emergency contact.v You don't want it to be you, don't put your name down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Oh my dear, you don't want to hear what my assh0le husband screamed at me today.

Some people just cannot step into other people's shoes for a bit. They think they're more important than everyone else.

It's sad.

I’m sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So sorry he had to parent today. Sometimes that happens outside of weekends and evenings.

+1
Op, this is going to happen again and again. You two should have a game plan for next time which could be the day he gets back to school

I called my sons school and listed my husbands name and number first so he gets the call. He gets the calls now

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So sorry he had to parent today. Sometimes that happens outside of weekends and evenings.

Sad it’s their default selfish mindset

[Anonymous]

Most high flying jobs assume Someone Else has it covered - the wife, the nanny, a grandparent, etc.