“I took time out of my busy day to help YOU out”

[Anonymous]

Don't blame Covid, blame your husband!

[Anonymous]

It's not covid's fault you both are nuts.

[Anonymous]

OP, I am sorry that must have been incredibly frustrating and I would have been very annoyed.

Having said that, COVID and the stress we have all been under does share some blame here. Unless this is typical selfish behavior by your DH, I would take a deep breathe and move forward - this is just the first, of many, tests that dual working parents. You stood up for yourself, demanded equity, and resolved the issue.

[Anonymous]

Count me as one who didn’t know credit card companies and health insurance companies can and will make appointments. I’ve never heard of this.. which of course doesn’t mean anything.

I’m also not sure I’m comfortable with someone else making an appointment for me.. after all doesnt this board fuss about needing to do that for husbands? My concern would be that they’d book me an appointment that was geographical undesirable, not good from a time of day standpoint or both.

For you, op, I don’t understand why Friday wasn’t fast enough? Your husband could have stayed at work, you’d be home with your kid. I also don’t understand why your moms group didn’t give you places, when we had to test, my moms group all mentioned a place most of the women like. Do you not have a moms group? I ask this in all seriousness, not having one when my oldest was born was one big factor in me going back to work. I’m surprised with you having been a stay at home mom, you didn’t wake up that resource.

grandma at least ours would be useless, they are wonderful grandmas, but they literally live a state away. All they could do is provide love, not make phone calls.

As for you working, you are correct that your boss wants you there. You do need to decide if your family is better off with you not working.

I found working with kids awful.. and it took this thread for my husband and I to realize that he was proud of my work, but he didn’t like the juggling it required, who will be home with a sick kid, how long will each of us be home, who picked up or dropped off from daycare, why and when, and we didn’t want to deal with nanny issues, even good nannies will get sick, decide they want another job, all stuff they are allowed to do, as are you. Nannies aren’t exempt from the same forces that act on all of us.

Point being, I didn’t want to fight with my husband over very real logistical issues.

Decide if working is right for your family.

Women today kind of get screwed because we’re told we can do/be anything. Our husbands are told the same thing, and if they do express a desire for a stay at home mom as a spouse, they are jumped on for being cave men. Then when kids happen, nobody is prepared mentally for a stay at home mom. Another poster on another thread pointed out that tht stay-at-home moms aren’t “allowed” to enjoy their jobs. Any pleasure they derive from it is viewed as “well, I’d like to spend the morning in the park too” whereas if someone said “I put ina real nice toilet” everybody is very happy they had a nice day at work.

A poster is right, op, you and your husband will need to talk this out. Very likely, he is too used to having a stay-at-home mom to change easily. His comment to you was nasty, though you also seem like you want to create drama. All you had to do was get your kid home, call your doctor’s office and say “tell me where I go”. If you didn’t like that answer, you could have called the school, your covid hotline (which all counties have for kids in the school system), or your mom’s group if yo have one. You had lots of options that didn’t involve your husband.

[Anonymous]

First, I don’t understand why it was such an emergency to get a Covid test for your kid. He didn’t have symptoms, you could have looked calmly in the evening after work for somewhere to get him tested.

Then, you didn’t tell dh that you found an appointment. It was a bad thing of him to say, but the whole situation could have been avoided with better coordination and calmer thinking.

Last, this will not be the last time, so get home tests, and make a plan with dh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What I don’t understand is why you had so much trouble locating a testing center. Are you not in DC? Here there are Sameday Testing sites with testing appointments every 5 min (in Bethesda, Georgetown, etc.).

OP here. We’re out of state, a smaller suburban area.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What I don’t understand is why you had so much trouble locating a testing center. Are you not in DC? Here there are Sameday Testing sites with testing appointments every 5 min (in Bethesda, Georgetown, etc.).

Yes. I say this with ZERO judgment because I don't know everyone's circumstances, but we got a same day testing appointment with our pediatrician and had the rapid test results within an hour. PCR the next day.

[Anonymous]

DH sucks. I would not put up with that!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't blame Covid, blame your husband!

This!

[Anonymous]

Do you have women on here that are stay at home moms which have the time to comment during the day to this nonsense. He makes more money, allow him to work, if you don’t like it find someone else. Women such as yourself are the reason why American women have a bad reputation.

[Anonymous]

He makes more money at his job? I'll guess that if you lost your job, you could still pay the bills on what he makes but the opposite isn't true? Yes, your. Hold is a priority but so is the top wage earner's job. You really need to come to terms with that and stop stomping your feet like a brat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you have women on here that are stay at home moms which have the time to comment during the day to this nonsense. He makes more money, allow him to work, if you don’t like it find someone else. Women such as yourself are the reason why American women have a bad reputation.

She’s started a new job, allow her to work. If he doesn’t want to be a father, he shouldn’t have had children.

[Anonymous]

Covid is making you crazy. There is no good reason you had to get your kid tested right then, or tested at all. It sounds like you went into panic mode and got all crazy B on your H for no good reason.

[Anonymous]

Divirce the self centered ass

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have women on here that are stay at home moms which have the time to comment during the day to this nonsense. He makes more money, allow him to work, if you don’t like it find someone else. Women such as yourself are the reason why American women have a bad reputation.

She’s started a new job, allow her to work. If he doesn’t want to be a father, he shouldn’t have had children.

What does that have to do with not waiting until 5pm after his meeting? What does that have to do with texting him right away so he isn't missing work when he already has an appointment? What does that have to do with her being more interested in bashing him than helping her kid get an appointment (she didn't post asking for the best way to get an immediate covid test)? If they were childless, this disrespect would apply to scheduling a plumber, fixing a gas leak, getting chest pain, etc? The problem is she is normalized to not respecting others and that is probably why she didn't have a friend group, mom group, aunt, sibling, etc to discuss things with or ask for help. -American wife