At a Conference-- How Do I Get This Hound of a Married Guy to Back Off

[Anonymous]

We aren't colleagues, but we work at sister companies, so I know I will have to interact with him professionally post conference. He keeps trying to monopolize my time because I think he thinks he's going to get some action. I find him gross (he's 15 years older), but I think he's either intentionally reading my niceness wrong or just dense. I really want to be left alone so I can network with others, but he keeps finding me.

[Anonymous]

I took a picture with a guy bothering me and pretended to upload it to social media. He freaked out. I told him I would delete once I got on the plane if he left me alone the rest of the weekend.

[Anonymous]

"Bob, have you met Sally? Her company is doing some interesting work in widgets these days. Excuse me, I need to go refresh my drink."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I took a picture with a guy bothering me and pretended to upload it to social media. He freaked out. I told him I would delete once I got on the plane if he left me alone the rest of the weekend.

A+

[Anonymous]

Humble brag thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Humble brag thread.

I promise you it is not. He is ruining my otherwise pleasant week. What's worse is I am pretty sure he is catching the cues, but just being relentless.

[Anonymous]

“Bob, it’s important that I make connections with other colleagues. From this point forward, I’m going to ask that you not approach me if we find ourselves in the same area. Thanks and enjoy the rest of the conference.”

Then walk away.

[Anonymous]

Hmm, conference hooky. He wants to score. Give in.

[Anonymous]

Just to be clear... I'm not gonna sleep with you. So let's get a drink.

Works every time, they lay off but feel like a puss if they don't have a drink with you.

[Anonymous]

Just say no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just to be clear... I'm not gonna sleep with you. So let's get a drink.

Works every time, they lay off but feel like a puss if they don't have a drink with you.

Right...because it’s her job to manage his feelings. That’s exactly she should be spending her time.

[Anonymous]

Sorry for your plight op. I go to conferences and I see this play out all the time.

Can you book a client or group dinner and exclude him? You could also say that someone in the company came to you to say you appeared inappropriately spending too much time with him and need him to back off for a while

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just to be clear... I'm not gonna sleep with you. So let's get a drink.

Works every time, they lay off but feel like a puss if they don't have a drink with you.

Right...because it’s her job to manage his feelings. That’s exactly she should be spending her time.

This is not managing his feeling.

This is called being clear with your intentions.

Hey I'm not sleeping with you, but lets get a drink and talk business. If you say "hey im not sleeping with you" you lose a client. If you say, hey im not sleeping with you let's get a drink, he knows you are not putting up with shit but you still intent to conduct business.

"when I say drink with you" I acutally mean have drink and talk business like men do all the time.

Do you even work?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just to be clear... I'm not gonna sleep with you. So let's get a drink.

Works every time, they lay off but feel like a puss if they don't have a drink with you.

Right...because it’s her job to manage his feelings. That’s exactly she should be spending her time.

This is not managing his feeling.

This is called being clear with your intentions.

Hey I'm not sleeping with you, but lets get a drink and talk business. If you say "hey im not sleeping with you" you lose a client. If you say, hey im not sleeping with you let's get a drink, he knows you are not putting up with shit but you still intent to conduct business.

"when I say drink with you" I acutally mean have drink and talk business like men do all the time.

Do you even work?

Do you even work? Who in their right mind says “Hey I’m not going to sleep with you...” to a work colleague? Totally inappropriate. He may be trying to monopolize her time or her in her pants but until he makes a move that is not acceptable to say. You need to brush up on your nuance, tact and social skills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just to be clear... I'm not gonna sleep with you. So let's get a drink.

Works every time, they lay off but feel like a puss if they don't have a drink with you.

Right...because it’s her job to manage his feelings. That’s exactly she should be spending her time.

This is not managing his feeling.

This is called being clear with your intentions.

Hey I'm not sleeping with you, but lets get a drink and talk business. If you say "hey im not sleeping with you" you lose a client. If you say, hey im not sleeping with you let's get a drink, he knows you are not putting up with shit but you still intent to conduct business.

"when I say drink with you" I acutally mean have drink and talk business like men do all the time.

Do you even work?

Do you even work? Who in their right mind says “Hey I’m not going to sleep with you...” to a work colleague? Totally inappropriate. He may be trying to monopolize her time or her in her pants but until he makes a move that is not acceptable to say. You need to brush up on your nuance, tact and social skills.

Unfortunately women have to say it all the time. I am just up front with men that are trying to sleep with me. Not interested, it the most appropriate response. Actually, HR will not ever listen to you if you have not made it clear that advances are not welcome.

BTW honey, you might think you are soooo interesting that a married man is monopolizing your time at a conference, your not, he has something else in mind.