So what do women think of men in sexless marriages?

[Anonymous]

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/726540.page

In this thread, the OP said her potential AP "confided that he is in a sexless marriage, too."

Assuming that is actually true, I'd always thought it would be a big turn-off to tell a woman that - i.e., you are confessing that your wife is not attracted to you, and also that you don't have the balls to divorce her. Yet apparently the OP thinks he is hot.

So, in general, if some otherwise attractive guy said he was in a sexless marriage, would that put you off or not?

[Anonymous]

Or it means the wife has no libido. Then the man is justifying why he's breaking his vows, and the AP has a reason to dislike the wife (for being a bad wife.. not wanting sex)

[Anonymous]

OP of that thread is just desperate and he's there and claiming to be in the same situation - a kindred spirit.

I personally can't imagine having this conversation with a married man.

[Anonymous]

I'd have some empathy knowing that most would change the dynamic if they could.

I would think he must be a relatively decent guy to continue to stay in a married committed relationship.

I would not be turned on nor off, as I am happily married.

[Anonymous]

I'd be just as likely to think he was lying to get into my pants.

[Anonymous]

Women take pride in stealing another woman's man. She sees it as an opportunity to increase her number

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women take pride in stealing another woman's man. She sees it as an opportunity to increase her number

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SICK women take pride......

Fixed that for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd be just as likely to think he was lying to get into my pants.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd be just as likely to think he was lying to get into my pants.

+1

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[Anonymous]

Many men who have active sex lives with their spouses do cheat and it is highly unlikely they would tell another woman how active they are. Using having a sexless marriage as an excuse to cheat is a proven winner to get some sympathy. Saying you have sex three times a week isn't going to elicit a lot of sympathy.

[Anonymous]

OP: Yes, I know he's probably lying, but assume he is telling the truth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd be just as likely to think he was lying to get into my pants.

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[Anonymous]

By the point you are comfortable telling somebody you are in a sexless marriage -- you are already deep into an EA, usually. So, the attraction is already there. It may be true (DCUM has its share of sexless marriages, I don't doubt them, and I don't automatically assume that a person is lying when they say they are in a sexless marriage), it may be a lie to get in her pants. Who cares. She wants him in her pants!

[Anonymous]

I would think such man was a whiner because he is not actually doing something about it and/or that he is bad in bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd be just as likely to think he was lying to get into my pants.

Would it work?