So what do women think of men in sexless marriages?

[Anonymous]

I think these men do NOT know how to please a women. I've had previous boyfriends in my younger days who were fantastic lovers. They knew how to go down and knew how to make a women cum. None of them are without a wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am in a sexless marriage. DH has low testosterone and we have emotional intimacy issues. I am not menopausal. I imagine others have the same problems if the man says the marriage is sexless or the wife has low libido or health issues.

Is it proven that he has low T or is that just what he says. They are solutions to low T but there aren't many solutions to non interest.

Treatment does not help that much when there are also emotional intimacy issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am in a sexless marriage. DH has low testosterone and we have emotional intimacy issues. I am not menopausal. I imagine others have the same problems if the man says the marriage is sexless or the wife has low libido or health issues.

Is it proven that he has low T or is that just what he says. They are solutions to low T but there aren't many solutions to non interest.

And yes, it has been proven by an endocrinologist.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know any men in ‘sexless marriages’ because I’m not a cheating, judgemental whore??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am in a sexless marriage. DH has low testosterone and we have emotional intimacy issues. I am not menopausal. I imagine others have the same problems if the man says the marriage is sexless or the wife has low libido or health issues.

Is it proven that he has low T or is that just what he says. They are solutions to low T but there aren't many solutions to non interest.

And yes, it has been proven by an endocrinologist.

The endocrinologist gives a tube of T cream to apply daily and then low T is a thing of the past. There should be no mystery here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men who claim to be in sexless marriages are just losers in general.

If they were good earners, were well endowed, knew how to please their wives and weren't insisting she look like a Barbie doll instead of an actual woman, they wouldn't be in sexless marriages.

A sexless marriage is 100% the husbands fault. Period. End of thread.

Frigid or lesbian.

[Anonymous]

Generally, I think they're a shitty lay.

[Anonymous]

I’m in a sexless marriage and have had an affair. She was too - in a way. To her, her husband was such a turn off and so bad she gave up essentially as she had no attachment to him and didn’t view him sexually. That’s what she said anyways, I wasn’t there so I don’t know what went on in their house.

My wife and I had sex, it was bad and really infrequent. So like her, I game up trying. I just stopped after getting denied time and time again then when she did feeling I coerced her into something she didn’t want to do. The last straw was when she told me to hurry up. So I was done with that part of the marriage with her. I’m active and very fit. When I decided I needed someone with some passion and desire it didn’t take long to find someone at all. So I wasn’t have sex, likes maybe once in three or four months and it was bad so I didn’t bother with it.

I turned this other woman on a lot, and she just didn’t things I really like without me asking or telling her. She just knew or that is wha she liked too. She was a great sexual partner and very supportive to me emotionally sometimes when I needed it. My wife’s priorities wer decidedly my kids - which I totally understand- her job, the house..etc. I was last.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think these men do NOT know how to please a women. I've had previous boyfriends in my younger days who were fantastic lovers. They knew how to go down and knew how to make a women cum. None of them are without a wife.

Which doesn't explain the frequent phenomenon of "my wife and I used to have sex every day, but now five years later it's once a month if at all." Obviously he knew how to please her at one point, before she lost interest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am in a sexless marriage. DH has low testosterone and we have emotional intimacy issues. I am not menopausal. I imagine others have the same problems if the man says the marriage is sexless or the wife has low libido or health issues.

Is it proven that he has low T or is that just what he says. They are solutions to low T but there aren't many solutions to non interest.

Low T is the cause of non-interest. Cure low T, interest returns.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m in a sexless marriage and have had an affair. She was too - in a way. To her, her husband was such a turn off and so bad she gave up essentially as she had no attachment to him and didn’t view him sexually. That’s what she said anyways, I wasn’t there so I don’t know what went on in their house.

My wife and I had sex, it was bad and really infrequent. So like her, I game up trying. I just stopped after getting denied time and time again then when she did feeling I coerced her into something she didn’t want to do. The last straw was when she told me to hurry up. So I was done with that part of the marriage with her. I’m active and very fit. When I decided I needed someone with some passion and desire it didn’t take long to find someone at all. So I wasn’t have sex, likes maybe once in three or four months and it was bad so I didn’t bother with it.

I turned this other woman on a lot, and she just didn’t things I really like without me asking or telling her. She just knew or that is wha she liked too. She was a great sexual partner and very supportive to me emotionally sometimes when I needed it. My wife’s priorities wer decidedly my kids - which I totally understand- her job, the house..etc. I was last.

See, this man is obviously a lousy lay who doesn't know how to please a woman...

[Anonymous]

I didn't have sex with DH for two years when the kids were younger because our relationship had deteriorated so badly due to constant fights about divisions of responsibilities for the house/kids. Things are much better now that the kids are a bit older, and we have sex regularly again. I based on my sample size of myself, if a guy was in a sexless marriage, I would question whether he was pissing his wife off in some way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men who claim to be in sexless marriages are just losers in general.

If they were good earners, were well endowed, knew how to please their wives and weren't insisting she look like a Barbie doll instead of an actual woman, they wouldn't be in sexless marriages.

A sexless marriage is 100% the husbands fault. Period. End of thread.

Wrong! I'm in a sexless marriage and it's my fault because that's the way I want it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP: Yes, I know he's probably lying, but assume he is telling the truth.

Your premise that he is admitting his wife is not attracted to him is wrong. His wife is likely post-menopause. She may be attracted to him, devoted to him, love him dearly, but the hormones are not in a place right now that make sex useful, enjoyable (read: actually physically painful), or desirable. You'll probably understand some day.

Sorry to hear about your problems PP. My mom swears by coconut oil.

There are plenty of ways to enjoy sex post menopause that are not painful. For me PIV, even with lube, can be painful but my DH and I still have a very active and enjoyable sex life. He seems quite happy as I get no complaints.

Exactly. As a man in a sexless marriage with post menopause wife, I can say I just want to feel desired. There are non PIV ways that can be accomplished

[Anonymous]

OP, why are you obsessed with this topic?