So what do women think of men in sexless marriages?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men who claim to be in sexless marriages are just losers in general.

If they were good earners, were well endowed, knew how to please their wives and weren't insisting she look like a Barbie doll instead of an actual woman, they wouldn't be in sexless marriages.

A sexless marriage is 100% the husbands fault. Period. End of thread.

Wrong! I'm in a sexless marriage and it's my fault because that's the way I want it.

Hi honey, I didn't know you read this ....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men who claim to be in sexless marriages are just losers in general.

If they were good earners, were well endowed, knew how to please their wives and weren't insisting she look like a Barbie doll instead of an actual woman, they wouldn't be in sexless marriages.

A sexless marriage is 100% the husbands fault. Period. End of thread.

Wrong! I'm in a sexless marriage and it's my fault because that's the way I want it.

So is your DH cheating yet? Do you think 'that's the way I want it' is an acceptable answer in your marriage? Is that how you guys resolve other conflicts and issues as well? You sound like a joy ....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m in a sexless marriage and have had an affair. She was too - in a way. To her, her husband was such a turn off and so bad she gave up essentially as she had no attachment to him and didn’t view him sexually. That’s what she said anyways, I wasn’t there so I don’t know what went on in their house.

My wife and I had sex, it was bad and really infrequent. So like her, I game up trying. I just stopped after getting denied time and time again then when she did feeling I coerced her into something she didn’t want to do. The last straw was when she told me to hurry up. So I was done with that part of the marriage with her. I’m active and very fit. When I decided I needed someone with some passion and desire it didn’t take long to find someone at all. So I wasn’t have sex, likes maybe once in three or four months and it was bad so I didn’t bother with it.

I turned this other woman on a lot, and she just didn’t things I really like without me asking or telling her. She just knew or that is wha she liked too. She was a great sexual partner and very supportive to me emotionally sometimes when I needed it. My wife’s priorities wer decidedly my kids - which I totally understand- her job, the house..etc. I was last.

That’s awful. You need to hash this out with her in some way - either a counselors office or just have a talk. If not your marriage will spectacularly implode some day and she’ll act all surprised and label you an ‘evil bad man’. Call her out now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men who claim to be in sexless marriages are just losers in general.

If they were good earners, were well endowed, knew how to please their wives and weren't insisting she look like a Barbie doll instead of an actual woman, they wouldn't be in sexless marriages.

A sexless marriage is 100% the husbands fault. Period. End of thread.

Wrong! I'm in a sexless marriage and it's my fault because that's the way I want it.

So is your DH cheating yet? Do you think 'that's the way I want it' is an acceptable answer in your marriage? Is that how you guys resolve other conflicts and issues as well? You sound like a joy ....

We are in the process of getting a divorce. I went "sexless" once he was caught cheating with what turned out to be numerous women. I still live in fear that I will discover I have an STD. There isn't a lot to be joyful about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men who claim to be in sexless marriages are just losers in general.

If they were good earners, were well endowed, knew how to please their wives and weren't insisting she look like a Barbie doll instead of an actual woman, they wouldn't be in sexless marriages.

A sexless marriage is 100% the husbands fault. Period. End of thread.

Wrong! I'm in a sexless marriage and it's my fault because that's the way I want it.

So is your DH cheating yet? Do you think 'that's the way I want it' is an acceptable answer in your marriage? Is that how you guys resolve other conflicts and issues as well? You sound like a joy ....

We are in the process of getting a divorce. I went "sexless" once he was caught cheating with what turned out to be numerous women. I still live in fear that I will discover I have an STD. There isn't a lot to be joyful about.

So in the end you contradicted yourself -- it IS the husband's fault that your marriage is sexless. Was it sexless before he started cheating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men who claim to be in sexless marriages are just losers in general.

If they were good earners, were well endowed, knew how to please their wives and weren't insisting she look like a Barbie doll instead of an actual woman, they wouldn't be in sexless marriages.

A sexless marriage is 100% the husbands fault. Period. End of thread.

Wrong! I'm in a sexless marriage and it's my fault because that's the way I want it.

So is your DH cheating yet? Do you think 'that's the way I want it' is an acceptable answer in your marriage? Is that how you guys resolve other conflicts and issues as well? You sound like a joy ....

We are in the process of getting a divorce. I went "sexless" once he was caught cheating with what turned out to be numerous women. I still live in fear that I will discover I have an STD. There isn't a lot to be joyful about.

So in the end you contradicted yourself -- it IS the husband's fault that your marriage is sexless. Was it sexless before he started cheating?

No, we had what I thought was a very good sex life. Even after I knew about the affairs he wanted us to continue to have a sex life but I said no.

[Anonymous]

I think his wife is a bitch. Oh, have I been hoodwinked?

[Anonymous]

Last year my DH was moaning about us having a sexless marriage when in fact we had sex at least once a week. This went on for awhile and then I told him OK, we are going to have sex every night. This lasted about one week until he said one night that he was too tired. So we went back to our 1+ a week and there have been no complaints since then. I'm glad he called it quits because I was sore and tired.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Last year my DH was moaning about us having a sexless marriage when in fact we had sex at least once a week. This went on for awhile and then I told him OK, we are going to have sex every night. This lasted about one week until he said one night that he was too tired. So we went back to our 1+ a week and there have been no complaints since then. I'm glad he called it quits because I was sore and tired.

your DH is a f*cking idiot. as a man, you do whatever you need to do to find the strength to perform - even if that means you (the DW) will be the only one getting an orgasm. how could he let such a beautiful and generous offering be taken off the table?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Last year my DH was moaning about us having a sexless marriage when in fact we had sex at least once a week. This went on for awhile and then I told him OK, we are going to have sex every night. This lasted about one week until he said one night that he was too tired. So we went back to our 1+ a week and there have been no complaints since then. I'm glad he called it quits because I was sore and tired.

Gee, if only there were some way to find an intermediate frequency between "once a week" and "once a day". Sadly, there are no numbers between one and seven. Oh well, what can you do...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Last year my DH was moaning about us having a sexless marriage when in fact we had sex at least once a week. This went on for awhile and then I told him OK, we are going to have sex every night. This lasted about one week until he said one night that he was too tired. So we went back to our 1+ a week and there have been no complaints since then. I'm glad he called it quits because I was sore and tired.

your DH is a f*cking idiot. as a man, you do whatever you need to do to find the strength to perform - even if that means you (the DW) will be the only one getting an orgasm. how could he let such a beautiful and generous offering be taken off the table?

PP here - we've been married over 30 years so neither of us is a spring chicken! The real benefit now is that when we do fool around we take a lot more time and do a lot of different things. While the frequency hasn't changed the quality has.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Last year my DH was moaning about us having a sexless marriage when in fact we had sex at least once a week. This went on for awhile and then I told him OK, we are going to have sex every night. This lasted about one week until he said one night that he was too tired. So we went back to our 1+ a week and there have been no complaints since then. I'm glad he called it quits because I was sore and tired.

Gee, if only there were some way to find an intermediate frequency between "once a week" and "once a day". Sadly, there are no numbers between one and seven. Oh well, what can you do...

IMHO one good long session is much better than a bunch of quickies. Though a good quickie has its benefits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Last year my DH was moaning about us having a sexless marriage when in fact we had sex at least once a week. This went on for awhile and then I told him OK, we are going to have sex every night. This lasted about one week until he said one night that he was too tired. So we went back to our 1+ a week and there have been no complaints since then. I'm glad he called it quits because I was sore and tired.

Gee, if only there were some way to find an intermediate frequency between "once a week" and "once a day". Sadly, there are no numbers between one and seven. Oh well, what can you do...

IMHO one good long session is much better than a bunch of quickies. Though a good quickie has its benefits.

+1 Love a nice sexy session.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men who claim to be in sexless marriages are just losers in general.

If they were good earners, were well endowed, knew how to please their wives and weren't insisting she look like a Barbie doll instead of an actual woman, they wouldn't be in sexless marriages.

A sexless marriage is 100% the husbands fault. Period. End of thread.

Lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Last year my DH was moaning about us having a sexless marriage when in fact we had sex at least once a week. This went on for awhile and then I told him OK, we are going to have sex every night. This lasted about one week until he said one night that he was too tired. So we went back to our 1+ a week and there have been no complaints since then. I'm glad he called it quits because I was sore and tired.

I learned that I didn't want to have sex every day when my wife & I were trying to conceive. Daily sex just because it's on the to do list gets old fast. On the other hand, the once every six weeks we slipped into during the first few years after having kids was pretty awful too. Lots of numbers between 1 and 42. We're striving for something between feast and famine.