“I get why she’s single” : T/F?

[Anonymous]

Be honest, since we’re anon. Would you assume a woman who used IVF to have a DB at 40 and had no long-term relationship in the 5 years prior was single for a reason, or just unlucky? Are “most” never-married women between 35-50 “single for a reason”?

[Anonymous]

Yes, 99% of people will assume she’s single for a reason. Women in this set usually had lots of options, but blew off amazing husband prospects for dumb reasons in their youth.

Now, they’re ready to settle down and getting passed over by all the men they think they’re entitled to (successful, handsome, provider types).

[Anonymous]

I would assume she’s single for a reason - the reason being thst she didn’t meet the right person to settle down with, or perhaps she had no interest in settling down with someone.

[Anonymous]

Mostly unlucky.
There aren’t necessarily that many good partners to choose from if you were too busy to pair off early or if you were with the wrong partner early.
One woman I know is stupidly picky, but just the one.

You might think the rest of us are lucky, but my DH is a crab ball and a half - I don’t think that many people would survive marriage to him.

[Anonymous]

This is me and I have no doubt people make all sorts of assumptions. I make assumptions about you too. We are probably both wrong.

[Anonymous]

I can't think of a woman in her 40s I know who is not single for a reason--usually a combo of bad picker and unreasonable expectations for a mate. Not one of them could I say it's due simply to bad luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be honest, since we’re anon. Would you assume a woman who used IVF to have a DB at 40 and had no long-term relationship in the 5 years prior was single for a reason, or just unlucky? Are “most” never-married women between 35-50 “single for a reason”?

yes, most would assume she's single for a reason (and in many cases probably ascribe a specific reason)

[Anonymous]

I assume she's smart, given how many women on DCUM (and in real life) complain that their husbands are basically another child and that life is much easier after divorce.

[Anonymous]

Mental disease 99% of the time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is me and I have no doubt people make all sorts of assumptions. I make assumptions about you too. We are probably both wrong.

Does it hurt to know most people assume you’re fundamentally a loser?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't think of a woman in her 40s I know who is not single for a reason--usually a combo of bad picker and unreasonable expectations for a mate. Not one of them could I say it's due simply to bad luck.

+ 100

[Anonymous]

Who are all you people trashing single women? Why do you care?

[Anonymous]

I would think she's unlucky and career driven, the same as a man.

[Anonymous]

Is this specifically about I f single moms as opposed to all the single women out there?)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is me and I have no doubt people make all sorts of assumptions. I make assumptions about you too. We are probably both wrong.

Does it hurt to know most people assume you’re fundamentally a loser?

No. Anyone who would assume that IS a loser.