“I get why she’s single” : T/F?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who are all you people trashing single women? Why do you care?

+1,000

OP your scenario is rather random. It takes a special kind of and DESPERATE woman to have a child as single mom with IVF at 40. If a woman wants to find a husband it's not that hard. But shocker some of us want more than diapers and suburbia in our lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are all you people trashing single women? Why do you care?

+1,000

OP your scenario is rather random. It takes a special kind of and DESPERATE woman to have a child as single mom with IVF at 40. If a woman wants to find a husband it's not that hard. But shocker some of us want more than diapers and suburbia in our lives.

So, you’re single and deride single moms on a parenting board?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are all you people trashing single women? Why do you care?

+1,000

OP your scenario is rather random. It takes a special kind of and DESPERATE woman to have a child as single mom with IVF at 40. If a woman wants to find a husband it's not that hard. But shocker some of us want more than diapers and suburbia in our lives.

So, you’re single and deride single moms on a parenting board?

Nope happily dating two guys but I think OP's scenario and some of the follow-up comments that a woman can't be happy, successful, and fulfilled without being married and managing 2.5 kids is wrong.

[Anonymous]

If you are a single women in your 30s you start smelling of desperation and that's a man repellant.

[Anonymous]

Of course there’s a reason. Everyone finds themselves in a situation for a reason.

What I think you are implying is there’s a defect with her to make her single.

As a woman in that scenario, I’m guessing most people who don’t know me think I’m unstable in some manner or a closeted lesbian.

People who know me would know that I’ve had two long term relationships. The first I ended bc we started dating in college and had a great time together, but he eventually confessed he never wanted kids. Second long term relationship wound up with a guy who was living a double life on different end of I270. Found out when the other woman contacted me.

So, I was heartbroken, 36, financially secure and had zero desire to date, but wanted children. At 38 I had a child through ivf.

I honestly don’t care what people think. I love my life. This whole experience has forced me to be very honest with myself and introspective. I grieved the dream of the family I didn’t have. I did not take the decision of having a child by myself lightly.

[Anonymous]

My single friends are single for a reason. I have one who is getting married for the first time at 44. She's finally matured to where she can handle a relationship without drama.

[Anonymous]

A woman who is fertile and unmarried and over 30 is a man repellant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A woman who is fertile and unmarried and over 30 is a man repellant.

I'll let Amal Clooney and Meghan Windsor know what you think of them the next time we chat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't think of a woman in her 40s I know who is not single for a reason--usually a combo of bad picker and unreasonable expectations for a mate. Not one of them could I say it's due simply to bad luck.

+ 100

Yep

[Anonymous]

A successful single woman doesn't need a man and that's why they are single. They want a man, but they love their life and won't compromise. Marriage is all about compromise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A woman who is fertile and unmarried and over 30 is a man repellant.

I'll let Amal Clooney and Meghan Windsor know what you think of them the next time we chat.

Again, man repellant

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A woman who is fertile and unmarried and over 30 is a man repellant.

I'll let Amal Clooney and Meghan Windsor know what you think of them the next time we chat.

Look what type of guy it took to make them agree to marry. They didn't need a man, they needed a superman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A woman who is fertile and unmarried and over 30 is a man repellant.

I'll let Amal Clooney and Meghan Windsor know what you think of them the next time we chat.

Look what type of guy it took to make them agree to marry. They didn't need a man, they needed a superman

Precisely. There's nothing wrong with having standards. Personally I'd rather have either of these than a middle of the road schlump. The fact that both of them were rich single women is just icing on the cake. I'm willing to bet Meghan's going to be preggers next year (at 37!) and I'm hoping for twins.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A woman who is fertile and unmarried and over 30 is a man repellant.

I'll let Amal Clooney and Meghan Windsor know what you think of them the next time we chat.

Look what type of guy it took to make them agree to marry. They didn't need a man, they needed a superman

Or they just redefined themselves to make it easier to justify agreeing to marry a man everyone else had the brains and self esteem to pass on

[Anonymous]

I get this sentiment all the time as an attractive, fit, successful AA woman.

Oh well, the same people that make assumptions about my single status would probably make assumptions about my race or gender.