I was given a huge reality check about my failed marriage

[Anonymous]

Recently divorced, due to ex husband’s infidelity and having a baby with another woman. I had a conversation with a close relative of mine and she gave me a huge wake up call about what went wrong. Now, I’m not (and neither is she) making an excuse for him cheating. However, it was brought to my attention that once we had a child, which he wasn’t ready for, he was put on the back burner for our daughter. I was too focused on being a mother that I forgot to be a wife or even take care of myself. I honestly didn’t realize it, but once she said it and I really thought about it, I did! I can’t take it back or change things, but I can take some responsibility for why things went wrong. I’ll know better next time!

[Anonymous]

Did your ex neglect his parental or marital duties?

[Anonymous]

Over time all these feelings will
Come into focus and you’ll sort it all out in your mind. For now it’s ok to go over lots of scenarios such as this.

[Anonymous]

So did he say anything or share how he needed more than you were giving?

[Anonymous]

Aunt Betty is not a smart as you think.

Seek therapy ... good men love that a woman is dedicated to raising their child.

[Anonymous]

Excuse me, that's poo, and an old one at that.

A grown adult can take care of him or herself and communicate in a positive way to get their spouse's attention before philandering.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So did he say anything or share how he needed more than you were giving?

Nope. Every time I asked him about his affair, he would always say he was unhappy but wouldn’t give me details on why he was unhappy.

[Anonymous]

Way to blame the victim.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Aunt Betty is not a smart as you think.

Seek therapy ... good men love that a woman is dedicated to raising their child.

I’m actually planning on doing this. I’ve put it off long enough.

[Anonymous]

So you were supposed to be the perfect new mother and the perfect wife or else he would be forced to screw around and impregnate someone else? Umkay.

[Anonymous]

Dude. Stop it. Your friend is a stupid bitch. How do you not know better than this? Are you going to teach your daughter this shit?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you were supposed to be the perfect new mother and the perfect wife or else he would be forced to screw around and impregnate someone else? Umkay.

Worried about what she's going to teach her daughter.

[Anonymous]

Cool story, bro.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Excuse me, that's poo, and an old one at that.

A grown adult can take care of him or herself and communicate in a positive way to get their spouse's attention before philandering.

Yeah, you were fed a line of BS. Looks like he's now got 2 kids he's not ready for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cool story, bro.

My thought exactly.