I was given a huge reality check about my failed marriage

[Anonymous]

You guys are mean!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did your ex neglect his parental or marital duties?

This ×1000

Way to absolve him of any responsibility for his own actions

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You guys are mean!

Not to OP. To her so-called sympathetic relative from the dark ages? Yes. We are so over blaming the woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So did he say anything or share how he needed more than you were giving?

Nope. Every time I asked him about his affair, he would always say he was unhappy but wouldn’t give me details on why he was unhappy.

I will take a wild guess that maybe duty sex every 7 weeks had something to do with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Aunt Betty is not a smart as you think.

Seek therapy ... good men love that a woman is dedicated to raising their child.

I’m actually planning on doing this. I’ve put it off long enough.

Good. Old women mean well but they are clueless.

If you follow her advice you would run yourself ragged trying to be perfect and he'd still cheat on you. Cheaters cheat. He will cheat on his new person.

Normal responsible adults discuss discourse before it gets to the point of an affair. Sulking because a baby get more attention and then acting out with an affair is not your fault.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Aunt Betty is not a smart as you think.

Seek therapy ... good men love that a woman is dedicated to raising their child.

I’m actually planning on doing this. I’ve put it off long enough.

Good. Old women mean well but they are clueless.

If you follow her advice you would run yourself ragged trying to be perfect and he'd still cheat on you. Cheaters cheat. He will cheat on his new person.

Normal responsible adults discuss discourse before it gets to the point of an affair. Sulking because a baby get more attention and then acting out with an affair is not your fault.

When did I say it was an old woman?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Aunt Betty is not a smart as you think.

Seek therapy ... good men love that a woman is dedicated to raising their child.

I’m actually planning on doing this. I’ve put it off long enough.

Good. Old women mean well but they are clueless.

If you follow her advice you would run yourself ragged trying to be perfect and he'd still cheat on you. Cheaters cheat. He will cheat on his new person.

Normal responsible adults discuss discourse before it gets to the point of an affair. Sulking because a baby get more attention and then acting out with an affair is not your fault.

When did I say it was an old woman?

We assumed because it's her only excuse. if it's not, then even more shame on her.

You're getting quite defensive, OP. Are you sure you're not making all this up and just trolling around?

[Anonymous]

Yeah, ok, but a decent man wouldn’t leave his family over that, he’d give it a grace period.
Also - this seems crazy sexist - was he not spending any time with his own daughter? Why did he have so much time to feel neglected? Having a baby is supposed to be overwhelming for both parents.
I had your complaint about my DH after we had a baby. Did I leave him? Of course not.

Your DH was very immature and self centered. Sounds like bad reasons to break up a family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you were supposed to be the perfect new mother and the perfect wife or else he would be forced to screw around and impregnate someone else? Umkay.

Worried about what she's going to teach her daughter.

I was going to actually ask OP how was her parents relationship with each other and her? My parents weren’t the type to make the kids the center of the universe to the exclusion of everything else so I’m aware kids grow up and leave the house. My dad was very hands on so I wouldn’t know what “not ready for kids” looks like for a grown adult man with kids. Whatever imperfections in the marriage, your ex was capable of using his words to explain his frustrations and to have asked for a divorce first before embarking on an affair.

[Anonymous]

Aunt is still reading the Good Housekeeping Marriage Handbook from the 1950's

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aunt is still reading the Good Housekeeping Marriage Handbook from the 1950's

Or this is a really dumb dude posting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Aunt is still reading the Good Housekeeping Marriage Handbook from the 1950's

Or this is a really dumb dude posting.

It's a dude. This isn't his first thread recently.

He also hopes his wife feels old and threatened by younger women.

[Anonymous]

Pardon, make that ex-wife.

[Anonymous]

Not-old woman here and it’s sadly obvious many women abandon their husbands after they have a baby. Why get married when all you want is a sperm donor?

And no, you won’t “run yourself ragged” by simply being kind and loving to your spouse instead of nitpicking their parenting skills and pushing them away at the slightest hint of affection.

I actually feel really sorry for the women posting that sh*t here as well as for their sad sack husbands who got duped into thinking they had a wife

[Anonymous]

Did you get fat