Confessions

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I confess that I don't feel that I can handle both of my kids at the same time. I have a 2.5 year old and a 5 month old. I'm fine with the one-on-one, but when my husband travels for work (like he is this afternoon) and I have to deal with both of the kids, it makes me want to crawl under a rock. And the thought of doing bedtime with them on my own is horrifying, since they both do bed at the same time. So either the toddler waits and gets cranky ... or the baby waits and cries. Ugh.

Please, no snide comments.

I feel the same way with my 2 year old and 4 week old. Can't deal with both...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I aren't married-everyone thinks we are but we never got around to it. I changed my last name so that my son wouldn't ask questions. We're happy as can be and don't care about marriage. We both had bad first marriages and felt it wasn't necessary and why screw things up.

You could lose a lot if you aren't legally married if things don't work out, he passes away, etc. You might consider getting married.

Because PP knows for certain that the unmarried couple does not have life insurance and living wills and trusts and other legal documents spelling out their wishes.... Sheesh. It's 2009, not 1909.

Not the PP - but isn't this exactly why gay couples want to be able to legally marry? That is one of the arguments I have heard - so they can have the same rights as hetero married couples if one dies, etc.

[Anonymous]

"I confess that I don't feel that I can handle both of my kids at the same time. I have a 2.5 year old and a 5 month old. I'm fine with the one-on-one, but when my husband travels for work (like he is this afternoon) and I have to deal with both of the kids, it makes me want to crawl under a rock. And the thought of doing bedtime with them on my own is horrifying, since they both do bed at the same time. So either the toddler waits and gets cranky ... or the baby waits and cries. Ugh.

Please, no snide comments."

It will get better. I also HAVE to say: At least you admit it!!! We have friends who try to burden us and still talk about having more. WTF?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know first hand that there is no patient confidentiality in dr's affiliated with Sibley. They share confidential information with spouses. They also share professionally obtained information with colleagues who may know a patient socially.

Is anyone aware of a patient sueing a doctor (a Sibley doctor) for discussing their personal information (especially when this information found its way to the gossip circles)? We have friends who first hand support these alligations.

This is from the "question for academics/social scientists" thread:

Depending on your answers to 19:30's questions, and the nature of your work, you may be subject to an IRB's review of human subject protection as well as to applicable state and federal privacy laws, such as patient confidentiality provisions of the Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act (HIPAA). HIPAA infraction fines start around $10k per violation. On the IRB front, I don't know anything about your project, but the informed consent piece would be critical--and in social service direct care settings, likely extremely difficult to obtain for IRB purposes retroactively.

[Anonymous]

DH is working the night shift. I am really sick (just shy of being hospitalized today) and I don't care when the kids go to bed tonight. As long as they don't bother me.

Oh, and no, it's not swine flu.

[Anonymous]

Hope you feel better soon - that sucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH is working the night shift. I am really sick (just shy of being hospitalized today) and I don't care when the kids go to bed tonight. As long as they don't bother me.

Oh, and no, it's not swine flu.

Hope you feel better, too. Little things like bedtime can slide when you're this sick. Just gasp out the stern warning that they'd better not get too used to it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I aren't married-everyone thinks we are but we never got around to it. I changed my last name so that my son wouldn't ask questions. We're happy as can be and don't care about marriage. We both had bad first marriages and felt it wasn't necessary and why screw things up.

You could lose a lot if you aren't legally married if things don't work out, he passes away, etc. You might consider getting married.

Because PP knows for certain that the unmarried couple does not have life insurance and living wills and trusts and other legal documents spelling out their wishes.... Sheesh. It's 2009, not 1909.

Not the PP - but isn't this exactly why gay couples want to be able to legally marry? That is one of the arguments I have heard - so they can have the same rights as hetero married couples if one dies, etc.

Yes that is the reason gay people want to be able to marry.

BUT for those who are happy not getting married (straight or gay) there are ways to protect yourself. If you CHOOSE not to marry just take precautions. Marriage is not for everyone.

[Anonymous]

I confess that tonight I had no patience for my toddler, and so when he didn't want to eat his dinner (all done, he declared after about 3 bites), I packed it up into a bowl, brought it upstairs, turned on the bath, sat in the bath with him (he won't take a bath without mommy or daddy in there with him these days) and fed him his dinner while we sat in the bath (good thing it was all finger food type stuff, tonight was chicken nugget night, ha ha). How gross is that?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I confess that tonight I had no patience for my toddler, and so when he didn't want to eat his dinner (all done, he declared after about 3 bites), I packed it up into a bowl, brought it upstairs, turned on the bath, sat in the bath with him (he won't take a bath without mommy or daddy in there with him these days) and fed him his dinner while we sat in the bath (good thing it was all finger food type stuff, tonight was chicken nugget night, ha ha). How gross is that?!

I forgot to add that I have no patience because I'm fighting a cold and feel like crap and hubby is on travel. However, he did go down pretty easy (so far, knock on wood, he's been quiet for 20 minutes). So, whatever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I confess that tonight I had no patience for my toddler, and so when he didn't want to eat his dinner (all done, he declared after about 3 bites), I packed it up into a bowl, brought it upstairs, turned on the bath, sat in the bath with him (he won't take a bath without mommy or daddy in there with him these days) and fed him his dinner while we sat in the bath (good thing it was all finger food type stuff, tonight was chicken nugget night, ha ha). How gross is that?!

Please tell me mommy or daddy would always be in the room when your toddler is in the bath whether or not he's feeling independent... right? I'm sure you didn't mean to imply otherwise!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I confess that tonight I had no patience for my toddler, and so when he didn't want to eat his dinner (all done, he declared after about 3 bites), I packed it up into a bowl, brought it upstairs, turned on the bath, sat in the bath with him (he won't take a bath without mommy or daddy in there with him these days) and fed him his dinner while we sat in the bath (good thing it was all finger food type stuff, tonight was chicken nugget night, ha ha). How gross is that?!

If you actually sat in the bath with your child so he would eat dinner, you have more patience than anyone I have ever met in this life or another-you sound a million miles from gross. Frankly, you sound like a teenager in love(with your child). I think you toddler is very lucky to have you for Mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I confess that tonight I had no patience for my toddler, and so when he didn't want to eat his dinner (all done, he declared after about 3 bites), I packed it up into a bowl, brought it upstairs, turned on the bath, sat in the bath with him (he won't take a bath without mommy or daddy in there with him these days) and fed him his dinner while we sat in the bath (good thing it was all finger food type stuff, tonight was chicken nugget night, ha ha). How gross is that?!

Please tell me mommy or daddy would always be in the room when your toddler is in the bath whether or not he's feeling independent... right? I'm sure you didn't mean to imply otherwise!

I think she meant that he won't take a bath without mommy or daddy in the bathtub with him (not just in the bathroom with him).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I confess that tonight I had no patience for my toddler, and so when he didn't want to eat his dinner (all done, he declared after about 3 bites), I packed it up into a bowl, brought it upstairs, turned on the bath, sat in the bath with him (he won't take a bath without mommy or daddy in there with him these days) and fed him his dinner while we sat in the bath (good thing it was all finger food type stuff, tonight was chicken nugget night, ha ha). How gross is that?!

Please tell me mommy or daddy would always be in the room when your toddler is in the bath whether or not he's feeling independent... right? I'm sure you didn't mean to imply otherwise!

I think she meant that he won't take a bath without mommy or daddy in the bathtub with him (not just in the bathroom with him).

Yes. What a great, resourceful mom! Not gross. And imagine how easy the clean-up was.

[Anonymous]

It's me, the mommy bath taker. What I meant was that DS won't get into the bath tub unless "Mama helps" or "Dada helps", i.e., gets in with him. We don't have to stay in for long - just a couple minutes - but we do have to get in with him these days. And, of course, we're ALWAYS in the bathroom with him when he's in the bath.

So yes, I got into the bath with him, grabbed the bowl of food from dinner (thank goodness it was a chicken nugget and other finger type foods night) and fed it to him while he played with his bath toys.

It worked a heck of a lot better than getting angry, you know?

PS. Thanks for the compliment, 20:38 poster. A teenager, huh? Ha. I turn 35 in 2 weeks.