Confessions

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I Hate my Mil I wish i could slap her.

Me too. And I think even worse thoughts than you do.

I hate mine too! I never use the word HATE, but with her, it comes flying out of my mouth. I keep this from my husband, the hate that is, but he understands why I get frustrated with her. I can hardly be in the same room with her. She's been in another state for 9 months, and I wished she'd stay-I don't like her around my son. We never ask her to babysit, thankfully! She's a sponge.

I could have written this exact post!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I aren't married-everyone thinks we are but we never got around to it. I changed my last name so that my son wouldn't ask questions. We're happy as can be and don't care about marriage. We both had bad first marriages and felt it wasn't necessary and why screw things up.

You could lose a lot if you aren't legally married if things don't work out, he passes away, etc. You might consider getting married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know first hand that there is no patient confidentiality in dr's affiliated with Sibley. They share confidential information with spouses. They also share professionally obtained information with colleagues who may know a patient socially.

Is anyone aware of a patient sueing a doctor (a Sibley doctor) for discussing their personal information (especially when this information found its way to the gossip circles)? We have friends who first hand support these alligations.

[Anonymous]

I confess that I don't feel that I can handle both of my kids at the same time. I have a 2.5 year old and a 5 month old. I'm fine with the one-on-one, but when my husband travels for work (like he is this afternoon) and I have to deal with both of the kids, it makes me want to crawl under a rock. And the thought of doing bedtime with them on my own is horrifying, since they both do bed at the same time. So either the toddler waits and gets cranky ... or the baby waits and cries. Ugh.

Please, no snide comments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I confess that I don't feel that I can handle both of my kids at the same time. I have a 2.5 year old and a 5 month old. I'm fine with the one-on-one, but when my husband travels for work (like he is this afternoon) and I have to deal with both of the kids, it makes me want to crawl under a rock. And the thought of doing bedtime with them on my own is horrifying, since they both do bed at the same time. So either the toddler waits and gets cranky ... or the baby waits and cries. Ugh.

Please, no snide comments.

I've been there. God, I remember when my kids were those exact ages -- it was so hard to get out the door in the morning to meet anyone. We were never on time or even close to it. Before leaving the house, it was like this endless cycle of change the baby, BF the baby, change the toddler. Then the cycle would start again. If it helps, it gets a lot easier once the younger one is walking well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I confess that I don't feel that I can handle both of my kids at the same time. I have a 2.5 year old and a 5 month old. I'm fine with the one-on-one, but when my husband travels for work (like he is this afternoon) and I have to deal with both of the kids, it makes me want to crawl under a rock. And the thought of doing bedtime with them on my own is horrifying, since they both do bed at the same time. So either the toddler waits and gets cranky ... or the baby waits and cries. Ugh.

Please, no snide comments.

I feel for you. My kids are now 4 and 2.5 and it still sometimes feels like this for me. When they were 19 months and a newborn my husband traveled about 5 nights a month for work and I was miserable. Oftentimes, he tried to do day trips but landing at 9pm was almost useless except for that he was there at night to help if the baby woke up, etc. I had a few hours of college student help during the week which was great, but those nights were horrible.

On nights my husband is out or is going to be late I try to start the bedtime train rolling as early as possible. If they are not up for baths, I don't push it. Dinner is usually some sort of delivery.

Good luck. I promise it will get easier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I aren't married-everyone thinks we are but we never got around to it. I changed my last name so that my son wouldn't ask questions. We're happy as can be and don't care about marriage. We both had bad first marriages and felt it wasn't necessary and why screw things up.

You could lose a lot if you aren't legally married if things don't work out, he passes away, etc. You might consider getting married.

Not exactly because after so many years (varies by state), the state will consider it a common law marriage. For this to happen, the couple has to present themselves as being "married" and treat the situation as such and it sounds like they do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I aren't married-everyone thinks we are but we never got around to it. I changed my last name so that my son wouldn't ask questions. We're happy as can be and don't care about marriage. We both had bad first marriages and felt it wasn't necessary and why screw things up.

You could lose a lot if you aren't legally married if things don't work out, he passes away, etc. You might consider getting married.

Not exactly because after so many years (varies by state), the state will consider it a common law marriage. For this to happen, the couple has to present themselves as being "married" and treat the situation as such and it sounds like they do.

Not that many states recognize common law marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I aren't married-everyone thinks we are but we never got around to it. I changed my last name so that my son wouldn't ask questions. We're happy as can be and don't care about marriage. We both had bad first marriages and felt it wasn't necessary and why screw things up.

You could lose a lot if you aren't legally married if things don't work out, he passes away, etc. You might consider getting married.

Not exactly because after so many years (varies by state), the state will consider it a common law marriage. For this to happen, the couple has to present themselves as being "married" and treat the situation as such and it sounds like they do.

Not that many states recognize common law marriage.

Does common law marriage apply to gay men and women?

[Anonymous]

i think i met a troll at turtle park. funny, smart but very judgmental and snarky. i really think she is responsible for 40% of the mean-spirited posts on dcum!
Now the question is, should I kill her. Just kidding.

[Anonymous]

I confess that I gave our nanny a stellar recommendation although I was not entirely satisfied with her performance. Errors of omission, not commission, and no one ever called to check up.

[Anonymous]

I confess any nanny who flirst with DH gets kicked to the curb immediately. Her loss, we pay unbelievably well.

[Anonymous]

Flirts, that is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I aren't married-everyone thinks we are but we never got around to it. I changed my last name so that my son wouldn't ask questions. We're happy as can be and don't care about marriage. We both had bad first marriages and felt it wasn't necessary and why screw things up.

You could lose a lot if you aren't legally married if things don't work out, he passes away, etc. You might consider getting married.

Not exactly because after so many years (varies by state), the state will consider it a common law marriage. For this to happen, the couple has to present themselves as being "married" and treat the situation as such and it sounds like they do.

Not that many states recognize common law marriage.

Does common law marriage apply to gay men and women?

No, only heterosexual couples.

DC recongines common law. VA will recongize common law marriages created in other states where it is reconginzed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I aren't married-everyone thinks we are but we never got around to it. I changed my last name so that my son wouldn't ask questions. We're happy as can be and don't care about marriage. We both had bad first marriages and felt it wasn't necessary and why screw things up.

You could lose a lot if you aren't legally married if things don't work out, he passes away, etc. You might consider getting married.

Because PP knows for certain that the unmarried couple does not have life insurance and living wills and trusts and other legal documents spelling out their wishes.... Sheesh. It's 2009, not 1909.