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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm starting to suspect that all these airport and school horror stories are made up or aren't really happening because of last names.

Anybody could be randomly stopped at the airport. Even people with no children. That's why it's recommended to have a birth certificate when travelling as a family and a permission from the other parent/ custody document if you're traveling without the other parent. Just because a child and an adult share a surname doesn't mean they are parent and child or that the parent has custody. Anybody working at the airport who doesn't understand that is an idiot.

The same logic applies to schools. They have a list of parents and adults that are authorized to pick up the child. The mom is either there or she isn't. The name is irrelevant.[/quote]

Makes me wonder what kind of idiots people are dealing with. The pick up list clearly says "john smith" and "jane jones", how can there me confusion about it? What about people who aren't married? Do they not pick up their kids?[/quote]

It's not a problem for pickups, but people will assume you're not married.[/quote]

Nope. They may assume you are divorced or you never married or you just kept your maiden name. It's been common for decades among wealthier people.

I remember when a coworker chastised me for not changing my name when I married while working in a rural area 20 years ago, with the same logic presented here, people will think you aren't married, they will be confused etc...

I pointed out to her that she had been married three times, changed her name three times and had three kids with different last names for each of her dhs...and that keeping my maiden name wouldn't be more confusing than that.

Also pointed out that keeping my maiden name would allow any of my future kids to "fit in" with the majority of kids of divorced parents in that rural "conservative" area, while having two married parents.

She never bothered me about that again, was a nice person, but not too bright. Currently on her 4th dh and changed her name yet again.

I'm still married to my first and only dh, still with different names, for over 20 years. Moved to two different states since then and different names have never caused a problem even once. [/quote]

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