My house guest has been incredibly rude

[Anonymous]

I became friends with an Egyptian lady 2 years ago. We are NOT super close but she has always been very nice/ friendly. I know her through my husband. I invited her to stay with us for a few days. We recently moved to the south and we're very close to the beach.

This was the worst idea ever. She has caused me to lose sleep, turned her nose up at almost all my meals. She has spent HOURS on the phone talking in Arabic. Last night we got into a pretty intense conversation about the face covering veil. She was upset because Americans do not accept this. She argued that it means America is not really a free country. I usually stay out of politics but this conversation really upset me. I am very against the face covering. She also mentioned how women should not be allowed to smoke but it's ok for men.

I suggested that we go to the beach the first day she arrived, but she let on that she doesn't like the beach because in Egypt the beaches are way nicer. I cooked a typical eggs, toast, potatoes breakfast and she says in Egypt they don't like eggs. We took her out to dinner and she didn't thank us. She had her alarm on very loud the first day and it woke up my toddler at 6 am Saturday morning. I actually had to go into her room and turn it off because it would not stop. I can not wait for this lady to leave my house. I finally snapped at her this afternoon because her phone conversation is so loud that it's preventing my toddler from napping. My husband understands a little Arabic and he could hear she bad mouthing me to her family. She did not know he was close by.

I am only venting here. I can not wait until she leaves tomorrow morning.

[Anonymous]

Can you give more context as to why she's even inside your home???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you give more context as to why she's even inside your home???

OP here. She wanted to visit us before she leaves the US and returns back to her country. I used to live in the same city as her. We recently moved to South Carolina.

[Anonymous]

Lesson learned...I don't invite people I don't know well to stay at my home after inviting this girl who turned out to be a HORRIBLE houseguest.

[Anonymous]

You get to see a whole new side of someone when she lives with you. It is unfortunate this hasn't been a positive experience for you (and apparently not for her either).

Be careful about assuming she was bad mouthing you if your husband knows on a little Arabic. It's possible she was just venting about your political argument and not speaking poorly of you or your hostessing. Give her the benefit of the doubt since you and your husband weren't privy to the entire conversation nor the other end of it.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, but it does not sound like you are friends. Chalk this up to a lesson learned, and disassociate from her in the future. Say hi and smile if you run into her on the street, and be done.

[Anonymous]

So, you're allowing a rude ungrateful person to stay in your home? Are you crazy? KICK HER OUT! Hello? It's YOUR HOME! She's not renting a room. She wants to complain? Tell her to get a hotel room. This is not hard.

[Anonymous]

Why didn't your husband say to her "We overheard you on the phone badmouthing my wife. It's clear you're not happy here. You should leave now. You're no longer welcome, so go pack your things now." Then just stand there and stare at her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You get to see a whole new side of someone when she lives with you. It is unfortunate this hasn't been a positive experience for you (and apparently not for her either).

Be careful about assuming she was bad mouthing you if your husband knows on a little Arabic. It's possible she was just venting about your political argument and not speaking poorly of you or your hostessing. Give her the benefit of the doubt since you and your husband weren't privy to the entire conversation nor the other end of it.

Given the other points OP describes, the "benefit of the doubt" is the last thing I would give her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, you're allowing a rude ungrateful person to stay in your home? Are you crazy? KICK HER OUT! Hello? It's YOUR HOME! She's not renting a room. She wants to complain? Tell her to get a hotel room. This is not hard.

No need for this, OP said she is leaving in the morning.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, OP, you don't seem to be treating her like a guest, with graciousness and generosity.

I would never get into it with a guest over something as personal or political hair covering. I wouldn't serve a breakfast that was not to their liking. This visit could have been a cool opportunity to learn about cultural differences and shared humanity. It's shame that it wasn't.

[Anonymous]

I sure hope that you are a troll, op.

You do not invite a person into your home and then biotch about them in such an extremely personal (and bigoted) way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, OP, you don't seem to be treating her like a guest, with graciousness and generosity.

I would never get into it with a guest over something as personal or political hair covering. I wouldn't serve a breakfast that was not to their liking. This visit could have been a cool opportunity to learn about cultural differences and shared humanity. It's shame that it wasn't.

OP here. I did NOT bring up this conversation. She was arguing America doesn't give freedom to wear the face veil. This is simply not true. They are free to wear whatever they want. There is not a law against the face veil. I told her the majority of Americans maybe think it's strange but it's not illegal. I have been trying to be a gracious house guests but this lady has been rude. You should never turn your nose up to meals as a house guest. What planet do you live on? I offered her grapes, smoothies, juice etc. She accept and doesn't eat a single thing. She's texting on her phone during meals. None of this is normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, OP, you don't seem to be treating her like a guest, with graciousness and generosity.

I would never get into it with a guest over something as personal or political hair covering. I wouldn't serve a breakfast that was not to their liking. This visit could have been a cool opportunity to learn about cultural differences and shared humanity. It's shame that it wasn't.

OP here. I did NOT bring up this conversation. She was arguing America doesn't give freedom to wear the face veil. This is simply not true. They are free to wear whatever they want. There is not a law against the face veil. I told her the majority of Americans maybe think it's strange but it's not illegal. I have been trying to be a gracious house guests but this lady has been rude. You should never turn your nose up to meals as a house guest. What planet do you live on? I offered her grapes, smoothies, juice etc. She accept and doesn't eat a single thing. She's texting on her phone during meals. None of this is normal.

Anyone who supports the the Burka is a freak OP. She's leaving tomorrow. It will all be over soon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You should never turn your nose up to meals as a house guest. What planet do you live on?

She's texting on her phone during meals. None of this is normal.

Sorry, but what planet DO YOU LIVE on? First off, just because someone is a guest in your home does not mean YOU have a right to force food down their throat. Especially if they are from another country. Not everyone eats American food. Are you this ignorant? The world doesn't revolve around America.

Also, you think texting during meals isn't normal now? LOL, go to a restaurant or any place with groups of people. EVERYONE is on their phone. Not saying this is a good thing, just pointing out being on the phone is very much the norm these days. While I agree this is not a very grateful guest, you cannot push what you want onto her. If she doesn't want your food, let her buy or cook her own food. If she doesn't want to go to the beach, that's her choice. Now, I will say being too loud and not being aware of your family's schedule is on her. BUT, it's YOUR RESPONSIBILITY to lay down the rules prior to permitting someone into your home.