My house guest has been incredibly rude

[Anonymous]

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You should never turn your nose up to meals as a house guest. What planet do you live on?

She's texting on her phone during meals. None of this is normal.

Sorry, but what planet DO YOU LIVE on? First off, just because someone is a guest in your home does not mean YOU have a right to force food down their throat. Especially if they are from another country. Not everyone eats American food. Are you this ignorant? The world doesn't revolve around America.

Also, you think texting during meals isn't normal now? LOL, go to a restaurant or any place with groups of people. EVERYONE is on their phone. Not saying this is a good thing, just pointing out being on the phone is very much the norm these days. While I agree this is not a very grateful guest, you cannot push what you want onto her. If she doesn't want your food, let her buy or cook her own food. If she doesn't want to go to the beach, that's her choice. Now, I will say being too loud and not being aware of your family's schedule is on her. BUT, it's YOUR RESPONSIBILITY to lay down the rules prior to permitting someone into your home.

You sound very entitled. Op never said she was force feeding her. In Arab countries they do insist that you eat their food. I've never met an American who does this m. Rejecting meals and ignoring your host is unbelievably rude even in the US. Do you think OP should only cook Egyptian food?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You should never turn your nose up to meals as a house guest. What planet do you live on?

She's texting on her phone during meals. None of this is normal.

Sorry, but what planet DO YOU LIVE on? First off, just because someone is a guest in your home does not mean YOU have a right to force food down their throat. Especially if they are from another country. Not everyone eats American food. Are you this ignorant? The world doesn't revolve around America.

Also, you think texting during meals isn't normal now? LOL, go to a restaurant or any place with groups of people. EVERYONE is on their phone. Not saying this is a good thing, just pointing out being on the phone is very much the norm these days. While I agree this is not a very grateful guest, you cannot push what you want onto her. If she doesn't want your food, let her buy or cook her own food. If she doesn't want to go to the beach, that's her choice. Now, I will say being too loud and not being aware of your family's schedule is on her. BUT, it's YOUR RESPONSIBILITY to lay down the rules prior to permitting someone into your home.

Damn, lady calm down. And don't have house guests while you're at it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't your husband say to her "We overheard you on the phone badmouthing my wife. It's clear you're not happy here. You should leave now. You're no longer welcome, so go pack your things now." Then just stand there and stare at her.

This.

[Anonymous]

The way the OP writes reminds me of one of the crazy Trumpers on the politics forum. I think this is a troll post designed to bash Egyptians.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, OP, you don't seem to be treating her like a guest, with graciousness and generosity.

I would never get into it with a guest over something as personal or political hair covering. I wouldn't serve a breakfast that was not to their liking. This visit could have been a cool opportunity to learn about cultural differences and shared humanity. It's shame that it wasn't.

I agree with this. Maybe she wasn’t entirely gracious, but neither were you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The way the OP writes reminds me of one of the crazy Trumpers on the politics forum. I think this is a troll post designed to bash Egyptians.

Op here. My husband is from a Muslim country. I do not support Trump. I voted for Hilary if you must know.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, OP, you don't seem to be treating her like a guest, with graciousness and generosity.

I would never get into it with a guest over something as personal or political hair covering. I wouldn't serve a breakfast that was not to their liking. This visit could have been a cool opportunity to learn about cultural differences and shared humanity. It's shame that it wasn't.

I agree with this. Maybe she wasn’t entirely gracious, but neither were you.

NP. Because she didn’t feign love for the face-covering veil after her guest brought it up? Because she didn’t let this guest keep her child awake? Because she doesn’t like (but apparently didn’t say anything) her guest to be texting during the dinner she cooked for her? In what culture is any of this acceptable? None. And why is it wrong of OP to vent here as a way of restraining herself from confronting this woman directly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The way the OP writes reminds me of one of the crazy Trumpers on the politics forum. I think this is a troll post designed to bash Egyptians.

Uh-huh I'm getting this feeling too. Especially since Egyptian culture is famous for its hospitality.

[Anonymous]

She sounds like a PITA- doesn't matter where she's from or what her customs are, she doesn't sound like a nice house guest talking loudly on the phone all day, bad mouthing and if she doesn't like a typical breakfast, she should politely offer to make her own breakfast. Lesson learned on inviting people to stay with you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The way the OP writes reminds me of one of the crazy Trumpers on the politics forum. I think this is a troll post designed to bash Egyptians.

Uh-huh I'm getting this feeling too. Especially since Egyptian culture is famous for its hospitality.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You should never turn your nose up to meals as a house guest. What planet do you live on?

She's texting on her phone during meals. None of this is normal.

Sorry, but what planet DO YOU LIVE on? First off, just because someone is a guest in your home does not mean YOU have a right to force food down their throat. Especially if they are from another country. Not everyone eats American food. Are you this ignorant? The world doesn't revolve around America.

Also, you think texting during meals isn't normal now? LOL, go to a restaurant or any place with groups of people. EVERYONE is on their phone. Not saying this is a good thing, just pointing out being on the phone is very much the norm these days. While I agree this is not a very grateful guest, you cannot push what you want onto her. If she doesn't want your food, let her buy or cook her own food. If she doesn't want to go to the beach, that's her choice. Now, I will say being too loud and not being aware of your family's schedule is on her. BUT, it's YOUR RESPONSIBILITY to lay down the rules prior to permitting someone into your home.

You sound very entitled. Op never said she was force feeding her. In Arab countries they do insist that you eat their food. I've never met an American who does this m. Rejecting meals and ignoring your host is unbelievably rude even in the US. Do you think OP should only cook Egyptian food?

Entitled? HAA HAA HAA!!! Wow, you just want to read what you want to read eh? My post has thing to do with being entitled. Do you know what the the word even means??? The OP stated she was upset her guest rejected her food and rejected going to the beach. She also discussed how her guest dressed. Guess what? IF you are going to allow someone to stay in your home, let them be. Unless there are arrangements made prior don't assume anything.

Also pretty clear you didn't even read my entire post. Before you reply with your ignorant dribble - read. I never stated the guest was 100% right. Both are at fault. But, the fact remains just because she's a guest doesn't mean she needs to eat what you cook, and the same for the guest. If the guest doesn't want to eat the food cook or buy it! Learn to read kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, OP, you don't seem to be treating her like a guest, with graciousness and generosity.

I would never get into it with a guest over something as personal or political hair covering. I wouldn't serve a breakfast that was not to their liking. This visit could have been a cool opportunity to learn about cultural differences and shared humanity. It's shame that it wasn't.

I agree with this. Maybe she wasn’t entirely gracious, but neither were you.

NP. Because she didn’t feign love for the face-covering veil after her guest brought it up? Because she didn’t let this guest keep her child awake? Because she doesn’t like (but apparently didn’t say anything) her guest to be texting during the dinner she cooked for her? In what culture is any of this acceptable? None. And why is it wrong of OP to vent here as a way of restraining herself from confronting this woman directly?

The OP should grow some courage and confront the woman. Why hide? This is HER home, yet she yields to some guests who she doesn't like? No one would ever come into my home and behave in this manner.

[Anonymous]

Arab American here. This person is not normal. Does she have an eating disorder?

Arabs do talk loud. It's not intentional. I am assuming your husband is Turkish, Iranian or south Asian if he only speaks only a little Arabic? What does he think about her behavior?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You should never turn your nose up to meals as a house guest. What planet do you live on?

She's texting on her phone during meals. None of this is normal.

Sorry, but what planet DO YOU LIVE on? First off, just because someone is a guest in your home does not mean YOU have a right to force food down their throat. Especially if they are from another country. Not everyone eats American food. Are you this ignorant? The world doesn't revolve around America.

Also, you think texting during meals isn't normal now? LOL, go to a restaurant or any place with groups of people. EVERYONE is on their phone. Not saying this is a good thing, just pointing out being on the phone is very much the norm these days. While I agree this is not a very grateful guest, you cannot push what you want onto her. If she doesn't want your food, let her buy or cook her own food. If she doesn't want to go to the beach, that's her choice. Now, I will say being too loud and not being aware of your family's schedule is on her. BUT, it's YOUR RESPONSIBILITY to lay down the rules prior to permitting someone into your home.

You sound very entitled. Op never said she was force feeding her. In Arab countries they do insist that you eat their food. I've never met an American who does this m. Rejecting meals and ignoring your host is unbelievably rude even in the US. Do you think OP should only cook Egyptian food?

Entitled? HAA HAA HAA!!! Wow, you just want to read what you want to read eh? My post has thing to do with being entitled. Do you know what the the word even means??? The OP stated she was upset her guest rejected her food and rejected going to the beach. She also discussed how her guest dressed. Guess what? IF you are going to allow someone to stay in your home, let them be. Unless there are arrangements made prior don't assume anything.

Also pretty clear you didn't even read my entire post. Before you reply with your ignorant dribble - read. I never stated the guest was 100% right. Both are at fault. But, the fact remains just because she's a guest doesn't mean she needs to eat what you cook, and the same for the guest. If the guest doesn't want to eat the food cook or buy it! Learn to read kid.

Op said the guest wears a Burka?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You should never turn your nose up to meals as a house guest. What planet do you live on?

She's texting on her phone during meals. None of this is normal.

Sorry, but what planet DO YOU LIVE on? First off, just because someone is a guest in your home does not mean YOU have a right to force food down their throat. Especially if they are from another country. Not everyone eats American food. Are you this ignorant? The world doesn't revolve around America.

Also, you think texting during meals isn't normal now? LOL, go to a restaurant or any place with groups of people. EVERYONE is on their phone. Not saying this is a good thing, just pointing out being on the phone is very much the norm these days. While I agree this is not a very grateful guest, you cannot push what you want onto her. If she doesn't want your food, let her buy or cook her own food. If she doesn't want to go to the beach, that's her choice. Now, I will say being too loud and not being aware of your family's schedule is on her. BUT, it's YOUR RESPONSIBILITY to lay down the rules prior to permitting someone into your home.

You sound very entitled. Op never said she was force feeding her. In Arab countries they do insist that you eat their food. I've never met an American who does this m. Rejecting meals and ignoring your host is unbelievably rude even in the US. Do you think OP should only cook Egyptian food?

Entitled? HAA HAA HAA!!! Wow, you just want to read what you want to read eh? My post has thing to do with being entitled. Do you know what the the word even means??? The OP stated she was upset her guest rejected her food and rejected going to the beach. She also discussed how her guest dressed. Guess what? IF you are going to allow someone to stay in your home, let them be. Unless there are arrangements made prior don't assume anything.

Also pretty clear you didn't even read my entire post. Before you reply with your ignorant dribble - read. I never stated the guest was 100% right. Both are at fault. But, the fact remains just because she's a guest doesn't mean she needs to eat what you cook, and the same for the guest. If the guest doesn't want to eat the food cook or buy it! Learn to read kid.

An Arabic would NEVER ever cook or eat her own food separately as a guest in someone else's house. This is unheard of in our culture. It must be an American thing. I think the guest has an eating disorder.