My house guest has been incredibly rude

[Anonymous]

Perfect example of why you never really know people until you spend the night under the same roof. And why people who are friends and then become roommates often end up hating each other.

Now you learned what she's like and both of you will let the friendship fade out. No big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lesson learned...I don't invite people I don't know well to stay at my home after inviting this girl who turned out to be a HORRIBLE houseguest.

I agree. Hosting house-guests for longer than a weekend - IF THEY ARE CLOSE FRIENDS OR FAMILY - can get bad but hosting an acquaintance in a beach house with your family is very odd.

Just make it through and don't do it again. Now you know her true colors. Traveling with others or houseguesting is never easy. One side is usually "putting up and shutting up." Even with extended family visits for extended amounts of time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, OP, you don't seem to be treating her like a guest, with graciousness and generosity.

I would never get into it with a guest over something as personal or political hair covering. I wouldn't serve a breakfast that was not to their liking. This visit could have been a cool opportunity to learn about cultural differences and shared humanity. It's shame that it wasn't.

OP here. I did NOT bring up this conversation. She was arguing America doesn't give freedom to wear the face veil. This is simply not true. They are free to wear whatever they want. There is not a law against the face veil. I told her the majority of Americans maybe think it's strange but it's not illegal. I have been trying to be a gracious house guests but this lady has been rude. You should never turn your nose up to meals as a house guest. What planet do you live on? I offered her grapes, smoothies, juice etc. She accept and doesn't eat a single thing. She's texting on her phone during meals. None of this is normal.

She clearly does not like America nor you. Does she like your arabic-speaking husband?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lesson learned...I don't invite people I don't know well to stay at my home after inviting this girl who turned out to be a HORRIBLE houseguest.

I agree. Hosting house-guests for longer than a weekend - IF THEY ARE CLOSE FRIENDS OR FAMILY - can get bad but hosting an acquaintance in a beach house with your family is very odd.

Just make it through and don't do it again. Now you know her true colors. Traveling with others or houseguesting is never easy. One side is usually "putting up and shutting up." Even with extended family visits for extended amounts of time.

Op did not say she hosted at a beach house.

[Anonymous]

OP, that sucks. Chalk it up to a learning experience and erase her number when she finally leaves!

[Anonymous]

Why you thought it was a good idea to invite this woman beats me, but invite her you did, and you are not living up to your part of the bargain. You should not have fought her on veils, you should care how long she talks on her phone, you should have asked her what she wanted for breakfast, what kind of restaurant she wished to go to...

Hospitality is taken VERY SERIOUSLY in the Arabian peninsula. The Guest Is King! It doesn't matter that your toddler couldn't sleep. It doesn't matter her alarm went off at 6am. My Egyptian relatives roll out the red carpet every time a European relative comes to visit. It's not surprising that she's criticizing you over the phone.

So change your attitude. She'll be gone soon, you might as well end the visit on a high note.

[Anonymous]

Never discuss politics or religion. Lesson learned.

Her behavior otherwise is unexcusable.

[Anonymous]

You sound like a horrible host.

You should also avoid having guests until you no longer have a young child.

[Anonymous]

Team OP. Guest's behavior was beyond rude.

[Anonymous]

The guest doesn't sound that rude. For the most part it's simple misuderstandigs and miscommunications. OP sounds like a bit of a drama queen.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, OP your complaints are a bit petty and I'm willing to bet your issue is she isn't as feminist as you though she was. You don't like that she's pro veil and thinks women shouldn't smoke so everything she does or says is colored with that and a little more annoying to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Team OP. Guest's behavior was beyond rude.

+1
Let her know it's not working out and offer to pay for a hotel room. It will be worth it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Why you thought it was a good idea to invite this woman beats me, but invite her you did, and you are not living up to your part of the bargain. You should not have fought her on veils, you should care how long she talks on her phone, you should have asked her what she wanted for breakfast, what kind of restaurant she wished to go to...

Hospitality is taken VERY SERIOUSLY in the Arabian peninsula. The Guest Is King! It doesn't matter that your toddler couldn't sleep. It doesn't matter her alarm went off at 6am. My Egyptian relatives roll out the red carpet every time a European relative comes to visit. It's not surprising that she's criticizing you over the phone.

So change your attitude. She'll be gone soon, you might as well end the visit on a high note.

There’s no excuse for being inconsiderate, it doesn’t matter what culture you’re from.

And why should OP make all the changes, and this rude guest none?

[Anonymous]

Oh no You toddler woke you up at 6 am and is having a hard time napping. Oh no!

Better cancel Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner plans now!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh no You toddler woke you up at 6 am and is having a hard time napping. Oh no!

Better cancel Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner plans now!

Kids need sleep.